PRIVACY.... what do you think of it?
@FarahJane1011 (180)
Philippines
January 4, 2013 12:05am CST
Each of us has its own privacy right? Do you consider your cellphone as your private property? I mean, do you consider all the messages stored in your phone as private? How about your e-mail?
I have someone very close to me. Out of nothing, i don't know if i will call it curiosity or what? But she was able to open his husband's e-mail!!! I know some of the husbands or wives showed their email password to their other wives/husbands but there were some who doesn't. In her case, they don't share password, but she was able to trace and successfully open his email, and now she keeps on monitoring whatever mails that comes in or out! Do you think it's proper? In my opinion, it's not..... But I guess, as a wife, she also has the right to know everything... or is it really okay? hahahaha...
I know, men and women are just alike in some way or another.... For husbands and wives - there are things that we can not share to our better half.... there are things that are easier shared comfortably to our friends than to our better half.... In her case, do you think it is better this way that she was able to tract and monitor any moves of her husband? As if she's acting like a secret agent! so funny!
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16 responses
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
4 Jan 13
She needs to be honest with him. She should let him know that she reads his email.
My husband and I are quite open. We don't care if the other reads our emails. We don't have any emails that are secrets from the other. (So, we really don't bother to read each others' emails but we each know the others' passwords.) Well, I take that back, my husband and my oldest son kept a secret from me for several months.
A couple of months ago, when my husband was on the phone with our son, he went into a different room to talk and told me that our son just needed a dad/son talk. So, I thought, well that's OK. Little did I know what they were up to. It was a surprise military homecoming for me. Just before Christmas, my son surprised me by coming home for Christmas. My husband helped him (in secret) to make all the arrangements.
So, I suppose a few secrets and surprises are OK between a husband and a wife.
@FarahJane1011 (180)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
hello there! good that you and your husband are open with each other. though i understand that couple should not keep secrets from each other but i also understand that there some things that need privacy....
my husband knows my email password, he even knows my facebook password, but i never asked him about his.... though i know if i will ask him, he will surely give it to me, but i just wanted him to have his own..maybe in the future i will ask for his password, but for now, am settled this way.. ;-)
and yes, some good secrets and surprises would really be okay just like what happened to yours. so happy for you my friend.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
4 Jan 13
I hope cell phone and even computers are private. But Im sure they arent 100%.
@youless (112112)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Jan 13
The privacy is important for everybody. If others steal it, it will give us a big trouble. Since they can take advantage of your personal information to cheat you or your family and friends. However, as to sharing our privacy like email, social networking, ATM passwords is fine with me. Since he is my husband, I like to share my these information with him. So if one day I have an accident, at least he can also deal with it. I haven't done something wrong, so I am not afraid of sharing my privacy with my husband. I also know my husband's privacy but I will not check his emails unless he asks me to do so.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Individuals has their right to their own privacy and spouses should respect this. Cellphones and emails are private and this should be respected. Even bags, wallets and pockets should not be opened by either party without the permission of the other. This is how I value privacy which most people do not understand.
Monitoring your partner's activities is not good as well. The other party won't have the sense of freedom and would feel that he/she is like being caged. However, each party should know their restrictions and respect the relationship they are currently into.
@FarahJane1011 (180)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
I agree, everyone should have their own privacy.... but my friend really has her own reason that only she could understand... ;-)
Am pretty sure there is something more of that why she did it.
@bigwatermelon (6)
• China
5 Jan 13
privacy is personal secret which is kept from other. with the social civilization furthering, people pay more attention to protect privacy.
@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
5 Jan 13
That's a little overboard if I say so myself to keep track of each others emails etc. My boyfriend and I don't even do that we been together for 2 yrs now. We figure if we want each other to know something we will tell one another. I don't even look at his phone and he doesn't look at mine, unless we choose to show each other. I have friends that are in relationships where their boyfriend has to know each person their talking too and he wants to see their text they do back and forth, that's a bit controlling if you ask me. I'm glad I don't have a guy like that. We each need are own privacy in some way.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
4 Jan 13
Those are private but I share everything with my fiance , he is my other half so its private for other people but not between us . Well that is just us though and we wouldn't want it any other way .
If I cant share it with my partner then i will not share it with anyone else because that is how we are , we are more comfortable with each other .
If I was in relationship like some people , I would not be acting like a secret agent , that is not me .
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Privacy is really important regardless if one is in a relationship or is single, it is important in human life to have a private matter to his or her self.
Because we can’t give out a lot of information to people we know well, there should also be a barrier on what it private or not, and it is good that you should respect your partners privacy because they do have their life of their own aside from having a life with your relationship.
@Jeffery_superman (179)
• China
5 Jan 13
Your story given reminds me of my EX, who kept the habit to look my cellphone, all the messages and the online chat record. Of course, I have no secret to her, so i will never be serious for her kind of behavior. But as far as i am concerned, i never look her messages in her phone, even without a touch. The reason why i have no interest in her secret is that i trust her completely.
So trust is the main issue for this kind of story. Why your partner wants your secret can be concluded as the potential betray or infidelity, or meticulous care to everything on you. These kinds of two factors are both based on lack of trust.
Then why your partner is in lack of trust on you?? I think maybe he or she cannot obtain full security or you left her an inmature image. Once you have crossed the line, discoverd, your partner will be more serious about it from then on. If you never lead silly behavior, then just try to give her security, which will help you to win her trust
@nykalex88 (243)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Wives have the right to know everything what her husband engaged with but it is not in the proper way to monitor cell phones or e-mails. It's a private thing. My wife is always stalking my e-mail, facebook account, and my phone. It's okay for because I have nothing to hide but it's not appropriate to look at. It's like losing trust to your partner.
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
I consider my phone and emails private. My assistant has access on all things except those. When my partner asked me about my password, I gave it without thinking. I don't have anything to hide anyways. But I admit that I will not like it if she's scanning on my phone without my knowing. I would gladly gave the phone to her if she wants to see something and she doesn't have to do it behind my back because I will never do that to her and will always respect her privacy and space.
@Jennlee3 (292)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 13
I think individuals have a right to their privacy. I agree there should be open communication between spouses but a person may utilize a device they consider private- like a cell phone- to sometimes confide in a friend about their relationship ie. if one partner was talking or venting to a friend about the relationship- it's not a betrayal necessarily but just talking to someone outside of the union to gain fresh perspective or unbiased advice. But this can be perceived as a betrayal if the spouse see's it because they will be hurt and offense the spouse didn't come right to them but in reality, it wasn't there place to see it. I think the wife should leave the cell phone alone. He hasn't demonstrated that he's untrusworthy honestly, she has.
@marguicha (215405)
• Chile
4 Jan 13
I am against prying into anyone`s letters (or cellphone messages) no matter if the person is your husband or wife. If I want my husband to read something I can give him my password. But it is not a marital obligation.
@StLouisMetroTutoring (678)
• St. Peters, Missouri
4 Jan 13
I would like to be able to consider things on my phone and my e-mails private. But I'm not naive enough to think they really are. I definitely don't think we should go around purposely looking into other people's mailboxes. That to me is wrong. I'm not familiar enough with cellphones to know how they really work, but I know enough about e-mails and the steps they go through during delivery to know that they're far from private. An e-mail is about as private as a postcard. I think we should all re-evaluate the way we treat our e-mail. If we don't want it on the 10:00 news, don't put it in our e-mail.
