Is it really serious, when a guy tells you he wishes to be your partner in life?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
January 4, 2013 1:47am CST
I have had a couple of relationships before this, but i think not one of those exes have been vocal and not one of them has told me that they want to spent their lives with me. i am just as surprised because me and my bf are just into our 3rd month relationship right now, but it sure really was something that has caught my attention.
I am not thinking about it much but i thought its worth sharing and getting your inputs here now so maybe you can all share whatever you have - interpretations, hidden meanings and all. I am still not even sure he could be the one, but Im hopeful we'd have a wonderful time now and just enjoy first what is in front of our relationship right now. I never asked, nor have we talked about it though. haha im just have to just forget all about it, i guess.
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9 responses
@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I guess it comes with age. When I was young I really wasn't that serious but then I realize I was getting older by the year then my focus on life change all of a sudden. I felt I needed to be with someone seriously already then I mustered all my strength to say this to the woman I love.
Although there are really no fixed rules about this so you should still be careful in assessing his real intent. Of course there are others who just use this to convince someone to his real intentions on your relationship.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
thank you rsa for your response, i do not really know how to react, what to say and i do not even know what is it that goes around people's mind, especially a guy's mind. I feel he is serious, and he is open about his feelings for me and about us, and that future plan of his and all.. i guess maybe it is right for me to check out his intentions, and be careful about what i would think about this.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
4 Jan 13
Short-&-sweet, this is. So tell it in Yoda-speak, I must. Louder than words, do actions speak.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
is sure is quite hard to tell but i am hoping it would turn out to be the one every girl would dream about. =) I honestly think he is a good man, though of course when we talk about compatibility and getting to know the real him... i should be able to say what he is who he is if given the right time, as many of our friends here have suggested, no less than a year. =) thank you shavkat.
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
4 Jan 13
I guess, to me, it might depend upon the relationship. Some male persons have been known to say anything to get a gal 'into the sack' as they say. That's not to say this is his motive!
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@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
4 Jan 13
I think it depends on the guy. There are liars, there are players... but there are really nice, romantic guys. My boyfriend (whom I been together with for almost 8 months now) proposed to me 3 weeks after our first date. I was in your shows, I didn't know what to think. I kind of was like, OK, it's really sweet, but did he really think that? And he did. It's been 7 months since that proposal, but he still thinks the same, and we are going to buy the wedding rings soon. So it may be true :).
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Oh that sure is really a wonderful story... doroffee! Im excited and i hope you can share this with us, alright? I mean we do need to share such good news to each other, right? Us girls need such stories to share with.
I would be on guard, keep my mind, my thoughts, my heart open in this case and watch out for the signs, the right ones and those that would tick me off. hehe
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Thank you edvc. I know we cannot always trust what a person would tell us, especially if we are just new in the relationship. I would say that over time, perhaps when we spend so much time together, when we build our relationship more... we'll get to see who the real person is and i would know the intentions.
@StLouisMetroTutoring (678)
• St. Peters, Missouri
4 Jan 13
That always feels wonderful when someone says something like this. But it is important to also consider other factors.
First, what do you want? As much as we might really like the attention, we have to be true to ourselves. If it's not what you want, then it doesn't matter how serious he is. There is no need to make a decision right away. Maybe if it were 3 years instead of 3 months it would be different. But you haven't been together that long.
In a year's time, if you do decide this is something you want, then you can start to consider more seriously how serious he is. In the meantime, you're young. Enjoy it! Don't rush your life.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
thank you for sharing your insight on this discussion of mine.
It did feel wonderful, having him confess what he feels like. I don't know what to say, to think but i am all flatterred that he did feel that way towards me, and yes, i do want this, i want him to be with me and i want to discover more about what we both are capable of as a couple... to be together and so on. I guess even after several heartaches I am still delusional that love could still work, right?
I will, yes do that I will keep that in mind to give it sometime and still not rush into things in this matter.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Well, this is very easy to say, the question is.....do you want to spend your life with him as well....this is a very serious issue hence should be given a considerable thought before jumping into it.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
If you think that your relationship now is better than before it is most likely because the relationship is a matured one and that you must have meet the perfect guy for you. I also had several relationships before I got married. And although I have loved those guys before, the relationship was nothing compared to the one I had with my husband. And I guess, we take care of our relationships differently most especially when we grow older.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
thank you my dear, i just do not want to give my hopes up and i do not really think i could handle any more of the heartbreaks i have had. the last one, i thought was serious... but he cheated on me, but then maybe you are right, he was after all, 4 years younger than i am and maybe he isn't serious and was just trying to make us all think that he was.
I hope that this time, me and my bf is on to a serious relationship, and hope we both will be able to overcome everything that comes our way.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
thank you Jenny, i will.. we will take things slowly. =)
Oh i just want to share that it sure does feel really great, it was our first time to have a good date with him. we had steaks and mashed potatoes and lambchops over a candlelight dinner (sort of!) hehe it is really cool to be out on such a formal dinner with him hehehe :D
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I want to wish you the best of luck. Keep it slow, though. No need to rush things.
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@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
4 Jan 13
If you have only been together for three months and you are not sure, then I would like it wise to wait and see. Anyways, I would let the relationship develop more. Are you interested in being committed to a life time relationship with this BF? Are you in love with him? It doesn't really sound like it.
Anyways, if he really is serious, he will give you time to sort out your feelings. And also, he would ask you to marry him. A ring and a wedding date I would think would be what is necessary for a serious commitment.
If you two have only been together for three months, I would wait one year before even considering being serious and committed to each other.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Hi there Joy, yes we have been together 3 months, and friends more than that. =) I am not into rushing things and i just really want to be prepared and know how or what is coming along. this is exciting i do not want to get my hopes up though. I am just trying to see what our friends here have to say for such an incident though.
