My Grandsons prom and my comment!
By ctryhnny
@ctryhnny (3460)
United States
January 7, 2013 5:36am CST
My 17 year old grandson went to his prom last summer. The only pictures I saw of him and his date were on fb. One of the pictures was very sexy as far as I'm concerned so I commented that the picture was very sexy. To my surprise he deleted me from his friends list and my daughter said he did it because it embarrassed him! I don't think that was a bad comment but I'm wondering....is it wrong for a grandmother to think a picture of her grandson is sexy? He's lost about 75 pounds before the picture was taken and I hadn't seen him in his "new" body! He went from a fat boy to an awesome looking guy! Have you ever told a family member that they looked sexy? Was I wrong to say that?
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13 responses
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
7 Jan 13
Wonderful news for your grandson, losing all that weight. Good for him. He must have put in a lot of hard work.
I can see why he might have been embarrassed by your comment being that you are his grandmother and all, but instead of deleting you he could have just deleted the comment and messaged you back as to why he deleted the comment.
Kids are so sensitive these days, especially around their friends. I have called my son "buddy" for years. He doesn't want me calling him buddy in front of his friends anymore, but he still wants me to call him buddy and gets upset when I call the little guy I babysit "buddy" Kids sure are funny that way.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Nah, you didn't do anything wrong. But, if I remember when my son was that age, it was a touchy time. He worried more about whether or not I would do the right thing in front of his friends than if he would. 
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
10 Jan 13
He may genuinely feel embarrassed because you are his grand mother , I think he should have just deleted the comment instead of deleting you from his friend list . It would just be wired if my grandfather tell me I am sexy, and I would definitely delete his comment but I would not remove him from my friend list ...
I hope your grandson do get over it soon because you sound like you really excited to see a picture of him and i know you want to see more .
@Archie0 (5636)
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7 Jan 13
I don't think there is any offence in calling some one sexy and that too the one is from our own family members. I would never feel embarrassed from that. In fact there is nothing to over react in that. And plus that goes as a compliment as well because someone has lost weight and they are getting praised on that. May be your son did not wanted someone from his family to comment, but deleting you was very rude of him.
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
75 pounds is awesome! 
how long did it take him to lose all that? how did he do it?
but at this phase in his life, his friends and what they think are "more important," and in this day and age where everyone can know and follow your everyday life, and "ruin" you just as quickly, even more so. i agree with "you look great" or even "awesome pics." hmm, he might even roll his eyes at "i'm so proud of you." at this stage, they don't seem to like "older people" or people in authority "gushing" over them, but it's cool when it comes from their crowd or people they want to impress!
of course, the next family gathering is another matter. he won't be able to escape the adulation! 
how long did it take him to lose all that? how did he do it?
but at this phase in his life, his friends and what they think are "more important," and in this day and age where everyone can know and follow your everyday life, and "ruin" you just as quickly, even more so. i agree with "you look great" or even "awesome pics." hmm, he might even roll his eyes at "i'm so proud of you." at this stage, they don't seem to like "older people" or people in authority "gushing" over them, but it's cool when it comes from their crowd or people they want to impress!
of course, the next family gathering is another matter. he won't be able to escape the adulation!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 13
That is indeed extremely harsh and personally a childish thing to do! Isn't that what grandmothers should do compliment their grandchildren, surely he should see your comment as a highly paid compliment, and that you are totally proud of him, proud of your own flesh and blood! If a relative told me I was sexy I would be extremely happy and would welcome the comment not be embarrassed by it, maybe that's just me. Not being content with my looks, having low self esteem and at times feel angry I would love a comment from someone that I was sexy what a confidence booster. I am glad he lost all the weight, something to be proud of.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
7 Jan 13
Using the word "sexy" is a little strange when you are referring to one's grandchild. I can see why he would be embarrassed by such a comment. You're his grandmother. You aren't supposed to look at him and think that he's sexy.
You could have said that he looks great. You could have said that it was a wonderful photo. You could have even said nothing and simply "liked" the photo as many people would have done.
Eventually, in a few years, he may decide to reconnect to you on Facebook.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
i do not think it is bad on your part, what you did was nice too.. but i think him being a teacher is the reason as to why he deleted it.. teens nowadays are that way. 
@joycseer (845)
• Malaysia
8 Jan 13
Hi ctryhnny, sorry to hear that... Just guessing, is your grandson afraid that you may say in the Facebook about his past being a fat boy to being an awesome body shape guy? Maybe he doesn't want people or his friends to know that he used to be fat? So before you gave further comments, he first deleted you from his friend's list? Sorry, i am just guessing why your grandson would delete you. 
Well, the best way to get over it is that you may try to have a little chat with your grandson to understand his feelings and thinking. Maybe he has some misunderstanding in your comment. So, you may want to clear his misunderstood thoughts. All the best. 
Well, the best way to get over it is that you may try to have a little chat with your grandson to understand his feelings and thinking. Maybe he has some misunderstanding in your comment. So, you may want to clear his misunderstood thoughts. All the best. 
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
7 Jan 13
I understand your heart and you meant it good. I am 'friends' with my one son on fb, but do not comment at all.... I just read and look. He asked me not to chat to him on fb... I respect that (even if i also want to say something sometimes... haha.) Kids are oversensitive. Your grandson was rude... sorry. He could only have deleted the comment, that's all.
@theoana (97)
• Romania
7 Jan 13
There is nothing wrong with that, you are a wonderful grandmother. And also an open-minded, modern one.
You have to understand that it's 'that period', 'that time', through which we all go. Nobody escapes puberty and adolescence.
Don't worry about this, such attitudes as your grandson's are normal at this age.
