I am not after the respect, but I hate to be disrespected.
By Danzylop
@Danzylop (1120)
Philippines
January 7, 2013 4:36pm CST
It is true that no one can ever make every one happy nor someone can ever be friends with all other people 100 percent. It is just not going to happen. EVER. This due to the fact that every person has his own perception of how things should come. And this is how differences start to mess with relationship, ESPECIALLY if there is no "RESPECT", and in the event, "DISRESPECT" comes in.
I have always dealt with people who neglect with this. Some consciously dont bother, while some dont know what they did. What makes me concern about this is that, the moment you get disrespected there is an impact to you as a person. You can always ignore it but it will always leave something in your mind. "Why was I disrespected, Did I do anything to make the person do it against me. Sort of things like that.
I have recently met this person. At the first time I laid a look at this person, I had fun. He makes everyone laugh because he really had a good sense of humor. Even at times when jokes comes with mature contents, he still manage to make twists of it to make it so interestingly funny. That is how I liked him at the first place. Then, lately. I noticed something is wrong. Something is no longer funny. Jokes comes out too spontaneously and carelessly.
There are perfect timing for cracking jokes. Perfect timing, comes with perfect place and person to do it with and the perfect degree of humor. There are humor that bounces beyond responsibility right? Sometimes, jokes steps over dignity of a person. Sometimes, it invades personal attitudes and outlook in life. These are just unproductive jokes. And for me, this is one way of disrespecting a person.
I did talk to this guy but he seemed to have the belief that it is his natural personality and that I should accept it no matter what. It must be unfair for me. So I'm drawing a little distance from this guy and I started to realize that his jokes, though a lot other still find it funny, are our of bounce and no longer sound funny for me. I just realize that this person, makes jokes out of letting people down. He keeps on stepping on other people's dignity and honor. And make jokes funny by embarrassing other people.
This is not my type for a friend. And if given a chance to talk to him, I would tell him to treat me as a stranger in such a way, I will not suffer from disrespect. I may not earn any respect from it, but at least, I wont get disrespected.
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3 responses
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
7 Jan 13
Usually people who make jokes all of the time, even when inappropriate, often do so because they have nothing of substance to say, or they have trouble carrying on a relevant conversation. They sometimes act this way to mask their sense of lack of knowledge of the subject(s) being discussed. And those who make jokes at the expense of others, constantly pointing out flaws in another's appearance or character, often lack character themselves. Again it is a defensive mechanism attempting to camouflage their own shortcomings. People like this I tend to ignore, as not every situation can be corrected with a joke.
Many times people under stress try to make light of situations, I am sure you have seen it yourself. They speak in a manner appropriate for the situation, but they will end sentences with forced laughs. It's kind of that same thing, just taken to a level that most people find offensive.
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
you really understood me buddy. Its like you've hit the heart of the dragon. This person actually knows this is wrong and guess what he would even cry to me because he repent but he is a blunderer. that is all i can say to him. he is not sincere.
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@marguicha (218650)
• Chile
8 Jan 13
I understand that there are times you joke "with" people and sometimes (some people) who make jokes "at" people. When someone makes fun of someone else, he is being disrespectful, hurtful and stupic, to say the least. I can have fun with many tales but I don`t see that making fun of a person is something to laugh about
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I agree with you. Not all the time are we able to "ride on" a joke. People should be sensitive towards other people's feelings. And for friend, they should know better.
