My Biggest Turmoil

Do you have a family member that could adopt her and provide for her that way you would still have her in your life or an open adoption is a good idea as well you would still have some access. I have always wanted to adopt and I would love to see a close relationship with the real mother with my adopted child. Good luck and stay strong. You are brave enough to make this decision to give your child everything she deserves. You are doing a good thing. So proud of you

Honestly, I wouldn't do that. I mean, I know this is the last thing you probably want to hear and most likely you need to read our support for giving your child away for getting into foster homes or adoption... I don't think it's the best decision, no matter how hard it is. You said it yourself - you live for her. Most of all, your love and care are the biggest things your little girl will ever need and no adoptive mother can replace that. You are healthy, right? I mean, I am sure this hard no-job period will be over one day and things will get going. The primary concern now if for you to find ANY job, just for starters, so that in a few months you can afford a part time baby-sitter so that you can finish your GED. Then it will be much easier to switch jobs and move on. Just try and find a way to get help in the beginning. Can't you ask some member of your family to help you? I know it's easy to talk without knowing the situation, I'm just speaking from my heart, because I know how I would feel without my little daughter (she's 5) and, honestly, even in this moment, my hearts starts breaking. Just think about it very, very well and don't make quick decisions that you will regret one day. I don't know how it is in your country, but isn't there some free shelters that offer free food for the needing people like you? I truly hope and sincerely wish you to find a way to keep your loving child, because no one should be facing the worst dilemma in their life... Good luck, girl, and head up!

If you think you nor any of your relatives cannot rear the child properly because as you said they are either drunkards, very poor, etc. I think the best thing to do is to have her adopted by a nice couple who can give her a good future. I know how hard it is to do that but you are in no position to raise a child properly. So let us look at the future of your child and base your decision on that.

you seem very smart.. Im sure youll do whats right for her there. Can you get help from babies father?

Oh, I think you need to get some helps from your parents and friends, they will help you, I believe. Just be brave and move forward. Everything will be OK in the future. The smile of your baby will inspire you to move on no matter how hard it is.

Well... you need to consider what is best for your child before yourself, but a mother should never have to put her child up for adoption. Have you tried to seek help from your parents?

The first thing I have in my mind is to seek help from relatives. Maybe a relative of yours is willing to take her in while you finish your studies. Atleast if your child will be with your relative, they will allow you to visit her as often as you want.

Ohh 17 years and already having a child so sad . I think we should study properly and get a good job then go for all these. Now the child is suffering along with you. I think you should not leave your daughter this will be another mistake.she needs you as parent . Try to settle properly with some finance can work to earn some money.