If you are a female,do you have another set of law toobey?
By rubyroy
@rubyroy (824)
India
January 10, 2013 10:53pm CST
In our part of Kerala,even though we are highly literate,arranged marriage is the main custom,whether the girl is a doctor who can make life saving surgeries,she still depends on her parents for finding her groom.Now a daughter of our friend,who was a Chartered Accountant,got married in this customary way.After marriage the girl came to know,that the guy had married her for her fathers wealth,and he will not allow her to work.He want to start a family and have babies.She refused to be tied down in the kitchen.She wants to work and to have babies after knowing each other better.He refuses to shift from his work place,since it is a remote area she has no scope to get a job for her qualification.One draw back of arranged marriage is parents enter into agreement without the proper consent of their daughters and then after marriage such complication arises which leads to divorce.Do you think such type of arranged marriages are good for society?
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@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
I'm glad from where I came from, it's no longer practiced by the majority although I know that it still exists here. Having read your post, it's quite sad that some parents after investing on their children's education to get a degree and eventually a career in their respective fields find it not necessary to ask their daughters if they agree with this kind of arrangement or not. Although love, understanding and respect develops between arrange marriages, it doesn't mean that every marriages works out because it's a case to case basis. Some hit it off just fine, others don't. So for me, it is always right to let women decide whom to marry.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5966)
• Greece
11 Jan 13
I don't think anyone should be forced to marry someone else. The decision over who you spend your life with is a personal one that we should be free to make ourselves. I do believe in talking things over with one's parents, because we are going to bring a new member into the family, so naturally they have concerns. But the responsility rests with the bride and groom. We are creatures that fall in love, we also fall out of it but if we start well we have a better chance of making our marriages work.
Any system that takes decisions and enforces them on others is not a good society and it does not encourage people to grow and mature in peace.
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