i love someone

January 11, 2013 12:58am CST
i love someone,but he doesn't.i really love him,cannot forget,how can i change the situatuon...
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13 responses
• India
11 Jan 13
Hey if your really love this person, the let him know.. and no matter what he feels about you,, still be his friend, and be true to your heart.. but understand that you cant force anyone to love someone.. just give it time.. if he has to love you, he will love you..
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30 Jan 13
ok.thanks,i will have a try.
@shahmi (81)
• Sri Lanka
11 Jan 13
Friend, I am sorry about you. I think you get upset from this case, but you try your best, show your love to your lover truly, but you don't force him because love is not a thing we can't get like that. I also haven't experience about love. but I heard that if you want to love, you love the person who loves you.. But don't get upset
30 Jan 13
thank you for your concern,i won't upset,i know love is not forced.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Why doesn't he know? And what is stopping you from letting him know about your feelings?
29 Jan 13
because of my fear.
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Suck it up! Be true to what you feel, after all there is no right or wrong on being honest on what you feel. Coming out on such situation is rewarding because you have proven to yourself that you are real and honest.
30 Jan 13
i know.feel is the most impotant.after all,not many people have the feeling.
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
of course it will takes time.Mine took 9 months before I find someone knew and that is the father of my daughter. I Loved someone before but I am force to forget him although I love him so much because i found out that he is a married man and he lied to me said he was single. at first weeks I Cried and really depress.But since I remember that God created our Brain Above than our heart.that we must choose wisely whom deserve our love.Then I realize that only if love again is the best way to forget him.I tried to chat and set my mind to look for a man . and then I met that guy and it took 4 months being in a relationship before I totally forget first guy. So you have to love again.. Do chat put your name in penpal site. open your heart. just control you mind not to think of him/her and start to look for new one. Pray too. as What the bible says that Good Companion comes from God.
29 Jan 13
in fact,for him,i want to forget,but i can't,could you help me to forget someone?
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
11 Jan 13
If you love someone and he doesn't love you, then it is not really love. Love is mutual. You may have feelings for him but it is not really love until he loves you as well. You can talk to him and see if he becomes interested in you. If he doesn't show any interest in you, then you will have to move on. There is no point in pining over someone who isn't interested in you. That just makes your life miserable. Look for someone who is interested in you and will care for you and love you, as well as you care for him and love him. So try not to 'love' someone until he loves you as well. Make sure it is a mutual love.
30 Jan 13
i see.i know love is mutual.so.i will have a try.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
25 Jan 13
If he knows how you feel but loves another then you are only hurting yourself for hanging on. If he really doesn't know that you care for him then the only thing you can do to resolve this for yourself is to confront him. You may not be aware of what he thinks of you and it may very well be better than you think. Guy's can't read minds. Not even as well as girls do so he may not even know where you are in this. So you have only two choices. Begin talking with him and through that let him know how you feel or simply walk away and do what ever it takes to get over him. If you know for a fact that he is really in love with this other girl then you need to back off and try your best to find someone that is not attached. I know...not easy but it will cause you far less pain in the future to simply get over it.
• Marikina, Philippines
11 Jan 13
Ha ha. Don't worry. You can divert your attention to someone or something else so that you would not suffer that way. Its fine if you fell in love someone as long as you always inspired, happy, feeling heaven and always motivated, but if you feel so stress and depresse because he does not love you back, well, it is better to divert your attention to someone or something. Anyway, we're in same situation, but as for me, I don't care if he does not love me at all, wa ha ha I am so in love, but its fine with me because I always see him online. He's Japanese... wa ha ha
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
17 Jan 13
You can not. If someone is not loving you, you can not force that person. Might be you can be able to make his mind change for a while but in the end he will leave you anyway. Love/falling in love has to come from both sides. There needs to be an attraction, real interest and you need to have things in common. So if you want to change the situation you better go look for someone who is interested in you.
15 Jan 13
The same happened to me too. I've been in love with someone for 7 years, without telling him or anyone about this. The story ended up sad. I got married with a man that I did not loved. And he got married too with the wrong woman. Even now, after almost two years of marriage, I am still thinking about him, what would've happened if i told him that I loved him. Maybe now we would have been married. So, I advice you, to share your feelings with him. At least, you will know one thing, he wants you too or not. It will be much easier for you to get over knowing that he did not liked you, than to live wondering WHAT IF???...FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, like I do now. p.s: while writing this post for you, my eyes were in tears, thinking about him!!!
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Once we love someone, we tell them. I mean, we should have to let them know. We need to take the courage before it's too late. It's your own choice to keep it and bear the pain of watching another person loving them or tell them and free your self from the "what-if" in your mind right now. It's not wrong to feel that love. Be happy you felt it and enjoy it while it last. You will learn a lot with loving someone so don't make an early assumption that he doesn't love you or he can't love you. You have the capacity to love, therefore, it's always possible that someone will love you just the same. If not him, then there's that certain someone who will.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Jan 13
Well you can't really change his feelings. But you can change yours. XD but that would be boring right? Okay, so what you do is, use the fractionation technique. It's a complex and long term variant of the push and pull strategy. It focuses on being the anchor of positive emotions and letting other things be the anchor for negative emotions. This means that, you should be there when he is happy, act as if you are the source of his laughter and entertainment and that when he is with you, he is always in a good mood. However when the mundane negative aspects of life take over, go missing. For example, don't show up when he's bored or frustrated. This way, everything else that is not you will be connected to his negative states. Over time he will develop a special place in his heart for his beloved who always makes him happy. :P If it doesn't work, he can die. .
@Janurmas (642)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 13
If you still expect him to love you, try to make him comfortable towards you when you are in a conversation, or any activity. Give him a gift as a proof that you love him. As a woman, it is meaningful to express love by giving something meaningful to the loved one. You can express your love through your sight towards his eyes. Don't say love to him till he says love to you first. But, If you have tried such many tips and tricks to get his love but still no response, I suggest you to find another one that really love you. Good luck...!