I Like to Listen But Not THAT Much

Listening is a very good way to learn. Of course you also need to pay good attention to what you are listening to. Take care there....

Of course you aren't alone, there's a lot of people out there experiencing the same. Don't be affected to much about the persons doing to his/her ownself, there's a time for people that they will do something differently to their life. Sometimes it really need patience to listen to their complains even it is very tiring, but when the time comes that they succeed, they will really be grateful for your part because you become a listener to their hardship. So don't be dismay of whatever your hearing from them today, just help them understand what the consequences that awaits them if they'll not change their selves. GOD Bless you... :)

As the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you can't force the thing to drink it. I am all for giving advice but if you know that your advice is going to be blatantly ignored or they do the opposite, you wonder why they bother to ask for your counsel in the first place, if they are not going to bother listening to you or do the exact opposite. Some people are beyond help, if they can't help themselves.

I admire people who can be good listeners and have enough patience to hear everything about the problems others have and give them good advice or at least a few words of encouragement;I think I can be a good listener sometimes but not all the time.Just like you,I sometimes feel like there's no use in listening to other people and their problems because they wouldn't take my opinions into consideration,so when I have the impression that people tell me about their troubles just for the sake of knowing that someone is listening to them,I prefer to stop listening,I just make up an excuse to stop the other from talking,so when I consider that listening is useless and even tiring for me,I'm done with it too.

You are not alone. I am the same with you. I like to listen and give advises too, but if they still keep on complaining on about the same problems, I will get tired and I won't listen to it anymore.

I feel the same way. If they are going to remain stuck in the head space that they are in and not make any effort to improve themselves, then I will nod my head and wish them the best. But, I am not going to just listen and listen. I doesn't do them any good except to complain. I like to improve myself, so do find it frustrating when people just complain and then, don't do anything to improve themselves or their situation. We can all make little changes to improve ourselves and sometimes, our situation. So, it is important to help those who are willing to help others and just wish the complainers a good day and move on to do something positive and uplifting.

The problem is too many times, there are people that would rather talk about their own problems instead of listening to yours and what advice you might have to offer them. That is why many times I never bother asking. I feel it is better to share and talk about things here as people often will listen here.

I used to do this for my cousin and certain friends but then I just got tired. It was the same tired drama they came to me with and I ended up saying go away. THere comes a time when you just can't deal with it anymore. My daughter did it for 20 plus years with her best friend. I mean she would literally drop everything to go help her friend and I didn't mind but then when something good happened for my daughter she veered away from the news to start with the drama again. When my daughter and her husband moved it was still pretty much the same thing between them but after a while there was just too much. My daughter made a good life here for her and her husband and that was just overlooked. She finally learned to let go and it still hurts her, I can tell just by looking at her face but if she continued talking to her best friend it would have eventually killed her.

hi MayLaJayh yes I do too as after all what was he or she doing asking for my advice if he or she had decided not to take it.I had tried to advise this friend as I would have a loved one. she nodded and said it was good advice but she did not even try to use my advice.

I'm not a good listener but i do listen sometimes if the person really needed a shoulder or comfort. I don't want to be their outlet of their frustrations and heartaches. I become deaf and mute when the situation/story is the same, whatever advice and solution you will give if the person is not willing to take the actions nothing will happen. I guess being their is already enough, no more advice.

That is exactly what I have in mind! I mean, i can accommodate friends who needs a shoulder to cry on, give them my time and all. But to constantly complain and not do anything about it despite obvious reasons that they should do something about it and yet wouldn't, what's the use? It could be really frustrating to see a friend crying over and over ans yet doesn't make a decision on how to put an end to her sufferings.

I couldn't agree more, when we begin to listen to someone whose in need we usually unconsciously absorb their concerns and it's really kind of annoying sometimes when they seek some advice but never take the advice, so, what's the point of seeking your advice? ha ha but then again I remember my friend telling me that giving an advice doesn't mean that she/he has to do what you tell them to do but you just give them an option, a choice- better choice to decide from their problem because in the end they'll be the one to decide what's good for them not us ;)

To most of my friends, I am really a good listener. some of them like to share with me about their love issues sometimes. at first, i was really serious about every single case that my friend was, and i carefully helped them to analyze and gave advice to them,