Is poverty a reason to leave ?

@Mintlin (322)
China
January 15, 2013 12:55am CST
My cousin got divorced two weeks ago and now she rushed into another marriage this week.Her first husband loves her so much and he is really a nice guy,considerate,gentle,caring..when i asked my cousin the reason she got divorced,she said because he is too poor.her second husband is pretty rich but he is nearly 60 yrs (my cousin is just 29 yrs)i do not believe they have true love. I know nowadays there are a lot of young people get married for money,marriage is like a business,but i do not understand once you get married ,no matter how poor he is ,you should respect that and fight for bread,after all ,money is just part of life and we still got a lot from our marriage. there are many examples poor couple are getting richer and richer as long as they are work hard. but now,i'm start thinking am i too naive in this real world ?
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@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
15 Jan 13
i think your cousin is really mixed up.true love is not measured by money or material things,i dont think she loves her new husband but money,its sad that she will soon realise money cant buy happiness, you may have so much and not enjoy anything if you are not with the one you love.it would be nice if she had thought things through but now only experience can teach her.i am not saying rich people dont love but if you are in it for the wrong reason you will never find happiness.
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@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
What a sad story of your cousin Mintlin. Honestly, I can really feel the phantom of pain and disappointments he gravely felt right now. That was very degrading on his part and really insulting as well. It is then because of his being poor he was then divorced by his wife. Afterwhich, the girl got another man as in lieu of your cousin's position - a rich guy who can eventually support and suffice her ambitious interests. What a very disgusting occurrence.... One thing for sure, his wife indeed has no principle left and no more respect with their holy marriage. I have a question since our country has no divorce law - It was legally right that being poor is a ground for divorce? I think it is not that a relevant ground to substantiate the petition to forfeit a certain marriage. Well, sometimes, being too much practical may lead people into a wrong move with a wrong direction, that even dignity and principle will be swallowed by practicality, hungriness and too much attachment of worldly things...For me, love is the greatest of all among other things in this world. Money can definitely treasured out if both partners/couples has the strong determination to acquired the same by way of hard working and hand to hand pleasurable atmosphere between each other for the betterment of a relationship and family as well. Poorness is not actually the necessary recourse or even a valid reason to escape on a particular responsibility of the family whom holy united with God in the mere presence of LOVE. My prayers, I hope that your cousin can bravely accept and surpass such intimidated feelings of him.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Jan 13
I doubt NOWADAYS many young people get married for money. This is something that already is happening since ages. It is normal old men get married to young women especially because of this reason. Men have to make the income, need savings, need to take care of the wife/children (family). So they need to work first and would only get married at the moment they did make carreer. Women do cost many families money, so the families want to get rid of them as early as possible. To many women (young girls) it's not really a choice to get stucked with an old guy. And still many women have no choice if it comes to a husband (the parents tell them with whom to get married). By now there might be some change but not only if it comes to young women. Also young men all over the world are looking for a rich woman. No matter if she is old(er) or not. Everybody wants a rich partner to feel safe. It's proved that in the end the most happy people are those who feel secure, do have some savings. Not the ones who have no money and a house full of stuff. The thing is the world turns about money. You have to pay all kind of bills no matter where you live. Many people pay over 80% of their income on taxes, bills etc and still have nothing to eat. It's hard to say if poverty is a reason to leave but it's seldom poverty alone that makes one to leave. If your whole life is about money issues. Also... people can be really nice, considerating, gentle, caring to the outside world but it's not said they are also that way behind the "screen"/in private. My ex what a gentlemen too to others, but not to us. It's not important if your cousin does love the older man, since this is not of your business. Since she left her husband she did not love him either. So it's better she left him since he has a better chance now to meet someone who does love him.
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@songst557 (232)
• China
15 Jan 13
Yeah,it's a real world,people chase money every day,but with different ways,I think your consin just choosed a shotcut way.As you said,there are lots of things in marrige except money,I do believe she can't enjoy some of them in her life once she steped on this way.If you have a beloved,you can be rich with him togather,I think the road printed your footsteps is more important than the destination.
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16 Jan 13
she better be careful because remember it is his money she meet him with the money money has owner ship
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
22 Jan 13
that's exact what i think,but anyway,that's her choice
@shahmi (81)
• Sri Lanka
15 Jan 13
You know one thing money need to live but if there isn't love they haven't a life. I have seen many families that they have money but they struggle because they haven't love. Your friend will understand this truth one day......
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
22 Jan 13
yes,but i hope she won't suffer it,she is a smart girl and she always knows what she wants
@wwjwcom (237)
• Hubei, China
15 Jan 13
No,you are not naive at all.Different people have different views towards what is valuable.Some cherish friendship,some take money as treasure and some just fight for love.From what you have said I can see that money is not the most important for you but true emotion. Stick to your heart and do what you think is right.You will get a happy family and a bright future.Besides,don't criticize the way of how others live since everyone is different towards money.
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
22 Jan 13
that's so true. have a nice days
16 Jan 13
wonderful said
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
20 Jan 13
I think your cousin is pretty hard hearted. She is not soft in the heart and doesn't feel the tug or the need to be loved. She may be marrying a rich guy but she will be required to pay in some way. The new husband will want something ion return for his riches...I hope your cousin will be happy giving it to him.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
Well, your cousin is just being practical. I do not believe that it's true love in there- but security and lust. Security in the part of your cousin and lust in the part of the old man. No offense meant- just my opinion.
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
16 Jan 13
It is pretty much understandable if your cousin really want to leave her ex - husband, since financially he couldn't provide her stability, and security in her situation. Many people just have to face reality, and they pursue what is best for them, as you can think that way. I am suggest people should be like a "gold digger", but they might have their own reason, and we couldn't blame them for what is best for their lives. I hope that her ex will understand it, and move on.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Jan 13
Hi, I don't think that you are naive, situations like this only happens when a woman is too ambitious but too lazy or doesn't want to make an effort to get what they really want. They prefer to take the easy way even if it hurt another person. It always depends what type of woman she is. I feel sorry for your cousin, she might have the material things she always wanted but I don't think she will be happy to be in a marriage with no love. Material things doesn't really give us a long term happiness.
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@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
15 Jan 13
Your cousin is just too materialistic but lazy to work on the things she wants that's why she married an old rich man. Maybe she got friends who are enjoying luxurious life and she envy them and want to match up their way of life, the people we called social climber.
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@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
15 Jan 13
This is so sad. When she comes to her senses will her ex-husband take her back? It seems as if she got married for the wrong reasons...
• India
15 Jan 13
I think people are different. Good hear-ted peoples will look for good hear-ted persons. Cash mad peoples will look for rich peoples Its simple as that.
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@Muriungi (22)
• Kenya
20 Jan 13
That bad to love for money
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@urbandekay (18278)
15 Jan 13
Those that marry for money are hoars all the best, urban
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@maximax8 (31047)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 13
The reasons a person should marry are love and feeling that they are fully compatible. It is meant be support each other in wealth and in poverty. Poverty is no reason to get divorced. I think it is wrong for a 29 year old lady to marry a rich 60 year old man. I wonder if your cousin and her man have true and everlasting love. I believe a divorcee should not rush into another marriage all that quickly. I feel sorry for her ex-husband.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
29 Jan 13
Sad to know alot of woman wanted to have life security rather than having love to their partner. Well, we are now practical. It's not easy to live in this world with too much poverty. You cannot be happy if you don't have enough money for your needs and wants. Some said, the can teach love, so sooner or later you will develop the love to your partner.
@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
31 Jan 13
In this case, it is puzzling that if money mattered in first place, why they married. And if her husband got poor in between, this is no execuse to leave the husband. It sounds so bad. Just so immoral.
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
15 Jan 13
You're not naive, you are just moral and you cherish your values. If I had money as my first priority, I should have left the father of my daughter years ago. But I can't, I love him and I want to be with him, and he loves me and our child just that much. We struggle life every single minute and we literally are on the brink of survival, but I would NEVER leave him for not bringing enough money at home. The responsibility for this lays on both of us and we are equally responsible for being so poor and for not bringing home money. No, poverty should never be a reason to leave, but some people just have other priorities than love and happiness.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
15 Jan 13
wow. how can she find those men. LOL just kidding. the question if poverty is a reason to leave... i could say depend on the person. If your cousin thinks that way then the answer is yes. is could be one of the reasons of changing husband. wow.. and maybe she is tired of being poor. Well we can just wish her more happiness in the world now, because we can not do anything about her decision.
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