A family that has favoritism

I have never known a family NOT to have a favorite...It is human nature...Live with it. It was the same in my family and still is and I definitely was NOT the favorite...I am glad of this.

My husband's family has this problem, we are not the favorites by the ways, and they really don't care about how they treat us, or make us feel which goes to show you some people just do not care what they do to others.

My parents have 8 children including me. I am the youngest daughter. Since I am the youngest, I am slightly special because everyone have to give in to me. But that is not always the case, some will order me around too because they are elder 'taiko' ... I am also a Chinese and my parents are of the older generation where they favor the sons more. My grandparents especially my grandmother love and pampered my fifth brother. Due to that he is not a successful person but a burden to the family, asking money from everyone and having many 'wives'. I am truly blessed because my mum choose to stay with me, I am forever her baby.

Oh, yeah. My family. My brother was always the favorite... I think because he's a boy. Oh, and because I have this pressure to live up the expectations, they abused it, and they expected way more than they expected from my brother... let it be grades, studying, how I talk to them, pocket money, what I was allowed to do, household chores, my brother did nothing, and it was okay, yet what I did was never good enough.

I don't think in my family we have something like this, but a very close friend of mine is in one and I can really see how badly it has affected her. She's the middle child, her mom's favorite is their youngest brother while their dad favors their eldest sister. Often times, she would be feeling left out. Sometimes she would deliberately get herself in trouble just so they can notice her. So I am not surprised that she's the first one who left their house to live on her own. She is now residing and working in another country. Last I heard, her family is not doing too well and sort of wants to get her to shoulder some expenses, even those of her siblings' own families' financial needs.

Yes, I think every family has favoritism. It becomes natural. From the time of Old Testaments with Isaac's wife favoritism existed. She favored Jacob than Esau. In modern times, it existed as well. I had accepted that I was not a favorite one. I can see that those most favored are well provided and taken care of. It is kind of unfair however I can't do anything about it. I just accept it to make the family in harmony and at peace.