Dealing With A Selfish Co-Worker

Sounds like she is somehow jealous about the fact that she had to work her career up to becoming a supervisor by starting from the entry beginner's level, while you immediately started as a supervisor. Since I don't know her qualification, or yours, I can only assume that you were more qualified that her at the point of starting with the company, and this maybe a reason she thinks you received your job as a gift. People who struggle more usually are more cynical and selfish, which directly results in isolation from colleagues and they make working connections more difficult. They consider themselves loners and hence the selfishness. Dealing with someone like her will be difficult for you because you are not on the same page she is, figuratively speaking. First I'd suggest talking to her about the problem because solving the problems yourself, without taking it to the boss is the best way (it speaks well of your capabilities to solve conflicts). If it doesn't work, if you have someone else above you to talk to, another supervisor who is her boss, too, you can do it, because team work would be essential and such connection must be built if the employer wants the job done. And I'm not talking about gossiping or direct complaints, but to find a delicate way to carry the information and problem to the next level.

Looks like she doesn't want to work with another supervisor of her level, she wants to be the only one there. That or she somehow resents the fact that she has to work her way up and you don't. Anyway, whatever her reasons for not being a team-centric individual, and who doesn't want to share her knowledge, I guess what you can do is to learn the essential stuff in doing your job on your own, or with the help of some people other than her. Talk with old timers, I'm sure she's not the only one. Set a meeting with your boss to clarify gray areas. Research, and read company operating manuals. We can't do anything to make a person change their minds in an instant. We can only show them that we're not that bad and hope that they snap out of their selfish delusions. Good luck!

I guess she is threatened by your presence. She thinks you're her competition when in fact you both can work together as a team. Maybe she thinks that you got such position without proper knowledge but she was there from the lowest position climbing her way and could not believe that there is someone like you who came and got the same position. She wants to show off to the higher management that she is better than you. Well, I guess what you have to do is talk to her that you are not there to compete with her. You're there to work and help for the company's growth.

I have to say she's just protecting her status in that company. She maybe selfish but as for you, you shouldn't be relying on what she knowledge will share or not, discover them on your own. She's maybe afraid that you new but you are smarter and might be promoted in some short period of times or worse, you will replace her position in the company.

It looks as if she has worked hard to get where she is now. Perhaps if you reach out and be a 'great' colleague to her and re-assure her that you want to work WITH her and that you do NOT WANT TO UNDERMINE her, or work AGAINST her. She is perhaps a bit scared and to protect herself she is putting up this front.

Leave her alone for you not to be depressed. Just do your best, see what you can do. You knew your as she knew her so what's the problem. getting sloe to her is of little help, concentrate on what your doing and she will be left alone. One day she will be the one to seek for your help.

I see this as a sign of insecurity of your office mate. She doesn't want to share what she knows afraid that you may get ahead of her. Try to get the pointers you need from other co employees within the department, just be casual with her without being offensive, and do what you need to do to help achieve your branch target.

sound like she sure isnt a company team player there. Everyone should be working together to make it a great company. Good luck there...

well you can not blame her for feeling that way, she made her way up proving her worth and you just came in and supervisor immediately. This will really create conflict between the two of you. I am sure though that you are placed there because could create more disgusting feeling towards you. so just try to relax and do your job. Be friends with her by just being normal don't take extra, extra of everything towards her, like extra sweet and caring for you will just be labeled hypocrite. Be civil and be courteous. Winning her will take some time believe me, but eventually you will prove her wrong. Never expect that she will help you but still ask her opinion or consult her decision before making one. But if you will find that she is uncooperative, just accept it. She will be cooperative later on. Just work hard and prove her wrong. Congratulations by the way!

Just pray for her to clear her mind and heart for being selfish.