Do You Have A Friend Who Annoys You?

Australia
January 18, 2013 9:12am CST
I like all my friends but sometimes some can get on my nerves. Like ALWAYS wanting to hang out, or coming over uninvited or one of the things I really hate is when they call, and they have nothing to say. Like we literally sit there....with nothing to say. I have one friend who can be a bit offensive and doesn't think they are. She came over and said. "No offensive, but have you put on weight?" I actually was offended because I had been working out for a few weeks and lost some weight. Like she came into my house and my dad's girlfriend was inside and my friend asks right in front of her "So do you call her mum?" I was thinking...what the heck dude no! Why would she ask that right in front of her. It was very awkward! AND my friend will ring...and ring...and ring AND ring and if I happen to not be home she will leave long messages on my machine until the recording has been filled up. Sometimes she will read a book or a passage from the bible to me on my machine OR sing me a song. Ahhh I don't know maybe you need to be with her to see what I mean but I like my friends yet I more than often like to have some alone time but she doesn't get the hint and if I ask, she will ask me a million questions and keep checking up on me! I seriously didn't expect this discussion to be a rant but I guess it has haha Anyway my question was do you have a friend who annoys you a bit? Happy MyLotting. ~AussieGal~
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16 responses
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
18 Jan 13
I have one. Actually he is my husband's friend more than mine, but he's been trying to reach me more than my man. There were times years ago, after we moved to the new apartment, when he always was coming uninvited, without even calling he's on the way. We couldn't make any plans without him in the picture, literally, because he was always present, until the day I asked him not to come uninvited anymore. Of course, he was offended and started acting like I kicked him out. Then the Facebook messaging attacks startet, then phonecalls every day and it really annoys both of us. Eventually even my husband stopped answering his calls because this friendship is turning into stalking.
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
That's not fine with me, if it is only a family affair. The friend of your husband need to be sensitive and step back.
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
18 Jan 13
He is not actually looking for an affair, he has a girlfriend and they are expecting their first baby in a couple of months. He mostly tries to reach me because I am more open to people in general, my husband is more closed. The problem is, that this friend of hours has only a few friends, because he is too loud and too simple )in the bad way, I don't know how to explain it bettter), he cares and talks only about stupid stuff like drinking and hanging out in bars, or watching sports, not one intellectual mind in his brain. Many of his friends backed out and we were amongst the few who stayed loyal because no one can survive without friends, yes? But our patience is very limited now. As a matter of fact I don't want to ignore him completely because one day I can be in his position and probably it's not very pleasant. But as you sow, so you reap, people say.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello iva75cpb! wow. I hope he can stop doing these things. Very childish! I guess he would have felt offended yet he could have taken the hint of how much he was around you guys. Best of luck in your situation. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@Pegasus72 (1898)
19 Jan 13
There are people I don't generally like to be around because of their life choices but other then that I don't have a problems with them.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello Pegasus72! Fair enough. Can't really say much because I don't know what type of life choices you are referring to. But I know what you mean. Thank you very much for answering. :)
• Australia
24 Jan 13
ah well that I can understand. I have known all those types of people and much prefer not to have them in my life. I wish they would get themselves sorted out but I would rather not deal with them.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Yes, there are a coupld of people / friends that i have that often is annoying - they may not be too aware of it but i think they get to be annoying because of the noise, and of course sometimes when they are overbearing.
• Australia
24 Jan 13
Hello chiyosan! That is true. A lot of people or friends can be annoying or even rude without knowing they are. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
21 Jan 13
I have s annoying friend that is always texting me , also my fiance have friends that he cant stand . I dont know why some people cant see that you dont want to hang out every day . You friend sound a lot more terrible than mine though
• Australia
24 Jan 13
Hello silverfox09! Although it is hard to say, sometimes people don't get the hint until you actually tell them you want some time apart or time alone etc. haha well that makes me feel awesome lol! Thank you very much for answering. :)
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
19 Jan 13
There are really people like that they are tactless. They don't know if their words are hurting. I don't have a friend like that. I see to it that I choose friends who know what they are saying however I have a friend that is quite selfish and sometimes it annoys me. Anyway you just have to accept them, what are friends for.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello edvc77! Yeah I know. I always accept people for who they are but after awhile when they start being too rude, I just find it hard to handle it anymore. Thank you very much for answering. :)
• India
20 Feb 13
not exactly friends but there are certain people that i have to hang out with who are really annoying...always try to avoid them but have to sometimes spend time with them.
• Australia
21 Feb 13
Hello xanderkage! Why do you sometimes have to spend time with them? Do you mean like work mates or something? Either way that sucks if you have to hang out with them when you do even want to. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
18 Jan 13
I think that most of us can think of at least one friend that we have that annoys us. They have those certain little habits that simply send us over the edge. We may complain alot about it behind this friend's back but still we put up with these unnerving bits of behavior because these people are a friend.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello sender621! I know what you are saying although I can't agree with some of the friends I have had. Some of my friends were very rude and liars so I pretty much had to let them go. Couldn't even talk to them anymore but as for people coming over uninvited etc, I can handle that.....for awhile. :P Thank you very much for answering. :)
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Hi there AussieGal13, With regard to your post, I do have a lot of friends but I didn't remember encountering that type. Though I have some friends who tries to get in touch by means of some creative ideas like they will gonna send flowers and chocolates even there is no occasion at all and sending some cards just to know how are you. Thus, I really missed those moments since I am not experiencing that today. And that gesture seems so cute and nice for me since they are a sweet once. How I wish, I can have a new friend that seems so sweet.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello airasheila! Those friends of yours sound really sweet. How nice of them to do such things and for no reason other than showing they care and are thinking about you. Even though they haven't done it in awhile, maybe you could send something to a friend or friends you know now. Sometimes it can feel really wonderful to give. Nice feeling to have when you make someone smile or show someone you care about them. I hope you can find a nice new friend soon. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
19 Jan 13
If I had a friend like that, I would either tell her to stop doing things that annoys me or I'll start ignoring her. I know that it could be great to hang out with her sometimes, but there are limitations which she should learn.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello jenny! Yeah I agree. We don't really talk that much now. I did have a full on go at her last year. I caught her out on so MANY lies and I just lost it. It was and is very hard to trust her. She was sometimes fun but hard to try and be friends again with what she had done. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
I do have some friends way back in College. I feel annoyed because they just knew me if problem arises in their lives. Definitely, a friendly user.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello Shavkat! aww I know exactly what you mean. :( I had friends like that too but not anymore. I couldn't take being used anymore so I stopped talking to them all. Sorry you had people like that use you. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@willc98 (67)
• United States
18 Jan 13
Yea, that sounds pretty annoying. I used to have a "friend" who would always start arguments and would come over to my house without asking first, then acting like they were too tired to go home so they would stay over night. Thankfully we got into a major argument a few weeks ago and we aren't talking again. Choose your friends carefully! A true friend should be concerned and thinking about your interests, not just fulfilling their own.
• Australia
19 Jan 13
Hello will! I have been there before! I have had a certain friend who would act tired to stay the night. Was annoying and I do agree with you when picking friends. Just sometimes peple become friends and stay friends even if they can be annoying or hurtful. haha thankfully you two got into an argument haha! Hilarious! Thank you very much for answering. :)
@Admin1993 (628)
• India
19 Jan 13
Hi friend thanks for sharing this discussions.Unfortunately i've only two offensive friends.One always used to abuse other about this and that,good and bad,discriminating others.Other one always beat others whenever we meet him,or whenevr he came to us,i don't know why those people have such bad characters. Those two friends are most offensive that i have no word to express about offensive things ther're doing. Happy mylottings.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello Admin1993! My goodness! Those two sound horrible! I hope you can make new and much more nicer friends because they seem like a bad group to hang out with. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@MaylaJay (349)
18 Jan 13
I had a friend who would always complain. All she wanted to do was complain about how horrible her life was. She hated her mother and all that, but she never wanted to do anything about it. I was always telling her she could do this or that, but she never did anything. It was so frustrating. I wanted to shake her and tell her to quit complaining.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello MaylaJay! I also know that type of person too. I used to try and help people like that but after awhile, it was hard because I had my own stuff going on and I get a bit annoyed when people pretend to listen to my advice but never act on it! Sick of hearing myself repeat the same words and sentences over and over again. I think some people like to be unhappy and feel sorry for themselves instead of moving on and bettering themselves. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@prabu6683 (113)
• India
18 Jan 13
It depends on the place where you find a unknown person. Some friends are by the luck you can get good friend.
• Australia
20 Jan 13
Hello prabu6683! Yeah I see what you are saying. I remember this friend randomly said hello to us in high school and then we just all of a sudden became friends haha. Thank you very much for answering. :)
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
18 Jan 13
No I don't. The thing is I don't like to be with people who annoy me. Those I do have around me I accept and respect the way they are. So they do not annoy me.
• Australia
18 Jan 13
Hello WakeUpKitty! haha that is fair enough. Wish I could say the same. Thing is I respect them but most don't respect me which sucks. Sometimes I consider not talking to them but I'm not too sure yet. They aren't THAT bad but if they do something really horrible then I have no problem not being their friend anymore. Thank you very much for answering! :)
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
18 Jan 13
I do, I have this one family friend here. She drives me crazy. She has a big heart. I just hate to see her around men. She says some of the stupidist things to men here. Oh well, her problem. Take care there..
• Australia
19 Jan 13
Hello maria! haha Do you often get embarrassed by her? Yeah it pretty much is her problem. Do you think you could talk to her about it or would it really offend her? Thank you very much for answering. :)