Do you ever feel like you have to get out of the house to relax?

United States
January 19, 2013 3:27pm CST
I often feel this way. I just recently started setting Sunday late afternoon to early evening as time for myself. Last week during that time period I decided to try and staying home and working online as time for myself. Which ended up not working.I ended up doing things for my husband, daughter, and around the house. Which then the night was over and I didn't get to really relax. Tomorrow will be sunday and I'm not sure what I want to do. I do know that I have to get out of the house but I don't want to spend a lot of money or if I do really good I don't want to spend any .I think I might go to the park and read a book. I like reading and it's relaxing so I might take me a can of soda, a snack, and a book.
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@2855994 (126)
• United States
20 Jan 13
I work from home. Therefore, getting out of my house to run errands, pick up my sons from school, or go anywhere is relaxing to me. Whenever I do not work at night, my kids are in my office with me asking me to show them different things to do on the internet. It is hard to relax whenever you are trying to help someone in your own working environment. Today, I was able to relax when I took a long drive to another city-alone. I felt great while I was driving and looking at the passing scenery. I turned my music up loud and chilled all of the way home.
• United States
2 Feb 13
Yes I understand what you mean. That is how I feel. Since I'm home most of the time I feel that it is necessary to get out of the house every now and then. To do something that I enjoy and that makes me feel good and relaxed. I think it is nice to have things to do like that, it breaks up the day better. I'm glad that you had a great time that day. That would have been a great drive.
@MaylaJay (350)
20 Jan 13
Oh, yes. I often feel like if I could just get out of the house for awhile, I'd relax easier and feel better when I got back. My problem is, I have no excuse to leave and no friend to talk to or place to go. Besides, I'd feel guilty leaving my daughter with my grandma and brother.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
Sorry to hear that you don't get to leave the house like you would like to. But you shouldn't feel bad about leaving your daughter with your grandma and brother. We all need a break to breath a little. And you need a break for yourself. I hope that you will be able to get one soon.
@NailTech (6884)
• United States
20 Jan 13
Sometimes yes. My brother is here all weekend and more than half the time he is usually watching TV (boring!) and it is on loud and drives me nuts. The rooms here are too close together. So I get bored easily when he is here. Tomorrow I plan to go out again and shopping is on the agenda if I find anything I like at the thrift store--they have half off sales at times and tomorrow is one of those times. I don't get the first of the choices though cause we always get there too late.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
Shopping at thrift stores is fun. It's nice to get more clothing and at a great deal. In the town we use to live in I would go to the thrift store and find nice clothes for very cheap. Now that we have moved I still have to check out the thrift stores in our area.
@Raine38 (9508)
• United States
20 Jan 13
There are times, yes, especially if it's been crazy and a lot of stuff going on in there, like the holidays. It doesn't mean that I like to get away from there forever, it's just that I want to take a breather every once in a while. Refresh myself and then voila! I will be fine again.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
We all need to take a breather every now and then. It is good for us. It allows us to have the time for ourselves that we need. To do something we enjoy and that is good for us. And it refreshes us to help us to be better able to care for our family.
@silverfox09 (4721)
• United States
19 Jan 13
I think the park is a great place to go and relax and not have to spend a lot of money . I often do that , whenever I just want to be somewhere calm and nice I would go to the park and enjoy the out doors .
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• United States
2 Feb 13
Yeah I enjoy being outside. Especially when I have felt like I have been in orders for a long time.I can't wait until the weather gets nicer and we are able to get out more. It breaks up the day and makes it so much more enjoyable.
• United States
19 Jan 13
To be honest when I want to relax I get my computer and get online. I don't need to go outside at all. I like to go outside when I need something or if it is summer time to be with family and friends. I wish going out would do it for me but,really it does not.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
I'm glad to hear that you are able to do what is relaxing for you. I feel I spend enough time online with other online work that I need to get a break from that too. I need to get out of the house more or I feel like i'm going to get depressed. I'm hoping that with time my circumstances will improve and my daughter and I will be able to get out more.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
19 Jan 13
For me this is a Yes. I have a harder time during the winter months. When the weather is good I to go for long walks or country drive at a slow pace. People may not like my driving but I put my hand out to tell them to pass me. Walks seem to call me down and allow me to think. I teach college students and I teach day classes and night classes so walks are very benificial for me. Yes, when on online I do get eye strain and need to focus on the outside if sit here for two long. I also love taking taking pictures too when I walk. You never know what you may see or encounter. Thanks Unique16
• United States
2 Feb 13
Yeah I agree with you. I can't wait for the weather to be better so that my daughter and I can go for walks. It's so much better than being stuck inside all day. I think it would be nice if we could live somewhere that the weather is nicer all year around or at least take a trip during the colder months.
@WakeUpKitty (8696)
• Netherlands
19 Jan 13
If it comes to vacation, real relaxing time the answer is yes. I don't know but if I stay home every day will stay the same. I do have a garden but it doesn't feel like privacy. I spoke with my daughter about it last night.. she doesn't recognize that feeling, quess because she has plenty of time for her? Always in her room. But I even do not feel relaxed if I am in my own living room and someone is banging on the window or keep ringing the front door bell. I don't like people to do so and kind of force me to respond. Also elsewhere (outside/abroad) somehow the lifestyle is different. Year ago I went to the library to stay there for some hours. Reading a book or some magazines just to have some quality time with me.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
Yeah we at times do need to take a vacation. We don't go on vacation often but I'm hoping that this will change. It was going on three years since our last when we went away for a weekend. It was a much needed vacation. I'm hoping that we will be able to do something once a year even if it's only for a weekend.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
Hi Dominique! I think I really need to have some time to go out of our house and relax. There are times that I feel so bored and tired inside the house and need some air and space to relax. I want some pampering for myself and also to keep myself away from stress. I don't like to spend much money too, but I think having some of my friends with me, even just talking with them will make me relax and feel better.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
I hope that you get the time that you need for yourself. I think that it is very important for mothers to get out and do things with family or friends, or just by themselves. I have felt the same way you do. It gets pretty boring being the house all day. And since I don't work that much i don't have money to spend to get more things for us to do while at home. I do agree that spending time with friends help a great even if it's only to share a cup of coffee and a little chat.
@babyeve (1049)
• Seychelles
22 Jan 13
Yes all the time. I am the kind of the person that does not like to stay indoor. I am the kind of person likes to stay outdoor and have fun. I'd rather go the beach than stay all cooped up in the house watching TV or sleeping.
• United States
2 Feb 13
Yes I agree with you. I strongly don't like staying in the house for long periods of time. It is important to be able to break up the day or week by getting out. So for my time to myself I have to get out of the house otherwise I will not use that time for myself. I need to be doing this for myself because it's only once a week.
@jenny1015 (13376)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Some people would think that being a stay at home mom is a lot more stress-free than being a career woman. But of course, we know better than that. We are just like doctors who are always on call 24/7. But I hope that husbands do give us some time off once in a week to be with ourselves and reunite with our own "circle". It is tiring to be constantly doing things in the house and worry some more later on. I do have my "me' time at least 3 hours in the morning. But I feel that it is not enough coz practically during those times, I could be doing things in the house. I just hope I can have one free day to just be with myself and be worry-free and stress-free.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
Yes I understand what you mean. I hope that you will be able to have a day for yourself as well. Like you mentioned our job really never ends. There is always something that we have to be doing. We don't weekends or Holidays off. When I have my me time I have to leave the house for a little otherwise I don't get that time off for myself and I really do need it. We stay at home mothers all do.
@anshu23 (147)
• India
21 Jan 13
I think relaxing is important. I regularly take breaks and go out daily. But I try to work online all the time. It kind of makes me sharp. Occasionally on Sundays I go out. Yesterday I went to a movie for relaxing a bit.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
Yeah I as well spend a lot of my time online. So it is good every now and then to be able to do something different and relax. It gives us the relaxation that we need so we can get back to work and our regular routine.
@ulan12rc (223)
• Qatar
20 Jan 13
Hmmm...sounds great! You've got a nice idea, relaxing without spending much. I did it last night too even though I'm not alone, I'm with a friend and we walked around the place so nice and had our coffee there afterwards we went to seashore it's along the park where you can see a breathtaking view of the place at night time, there's a lot of people which come and go there to take a look for a while and had some chai tea. Their are some tea shops near the place that serves good chai and it is actually cheap so we can try also... ;) It is a pleasant evening without spending much.
• United States
2 Feb 13
Yeah that really is the best way to do things. To relax and not have to spend a lot of money. When we spend a lot of money we often will feel anxious about that and then we aren't relaxing.So it's good to be able to be with friends and not be stressed or anxious. To enjoy that precious time with one another.
• United States
20 Jan 13
Not usually. Often, going out means that we have an appointment or are going to the nursing home; so, staying in actually holds some appeal. It would hold even more appeal if we were in a house that I really liked; this rental has quite a few problems, so it isn't really as appealing a place to be as I'd like.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
I'm glad to hear that you are able to stay in when you want to or go if you would like. Yeah I understand not being in a place you like. We use to live in a house that we had to heat with wood and it was awful. My husband would have to go out and cut wood and make sure that we had a basement full and then we would have to start the fire, and try and keep it going. We would have to get up in the middle of the night and put more wood in. It really was a pain. I'm so happy to have a thermastat again even though I would like to have a different home.
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Yes, there are a lot of times when I want to get out of the house just to relax. However, the most tempting thought for me is getting out of the house for good and starting a totally independent life. If mom is still as active and energetic as before, I'll definitely convince her to come with me and live somewhere far away from our place. Sad to say, mom is too old to travel already and her diabetes is giving her health complications which means she has to stay at home. I can't leave her in the house. I want to be able to take good care of her myself. We live in a house owned by the mother's mother (my grandmother) with two of my maiden aunts. Me and my aunts don't get along pretty well. My parents are separated so I have to look after mom now that she's not capable of finding a job. This is not an issue to me but our other housemates tend to depend on me too in terms of our monthly bills. My mom's medication and my insurance is taking a great percentage of my monthly earnings. With the payable added to my responsibilities, I can't help but feel sad because I can no longer enjoy my salary. That's the reason why I'm trying my best to land a part-time job online recently. I need to make sure I still earn some extra cash in case of emergency in the future. There still my family and escaping my responsibilities would make me look so selfish to them. I'm still keeping my hopes high. I just pray to God that He give me more strength and courage to know the right thing to do for the problems that may come my way.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
It is definitely a good thing for you to save. Especially if you want to move away from their and get your own place. It will cost more than what your paying for rent with your family members. So it is good that you are trying to find other way and to start putting a lot aside for savings. I hope that you will be able to support yourself and your mother.
@airasheila (5456)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Good day Dominique25, I always feel that way, as I can't really take my relaxation whenever I am at home. After what happened between me and my brother, I guess, relaxation cannot be find at the doorstep of our home anymore.
• United States
2 Feb 13
Yeah at times it is necessary for us to leave our home in order to be able to relax. I know that I just can't relax at home. I often times will end up using my free time for other things. Then before I know it that time is gone and then it is time for me to go to work. So I have to take advantage of that time while I can.
• United States
20 Jan 13
Yes, going outside even if its for just 30 minutes per day of walking is always a good thing.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
Yeah I agree with you that walking is good for us. It's one of the best things that we can do for our bodies and for our health. I'm looking forward to when the weather gets warmer and my daughter and I can go out for walks. It's nice to be able to get outside and she really enjoys getting out of the house as well.
@Shavkat (93231)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
I used to walk from the house every other day. I did this to maintain the endurance of my body. I do feel sick if I am not going out from my comfort zone.
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• United States
2 Feb 13
It is a good thing for us to get outside and walk. I look forward to the weather being nicer so that my daughter and I will be able to go for walks. It really is good for our health. I would like to back to my previous weight so when the weather gets nice it will be great to go outdoors to walk instead of exercising in the house.
• India
20 Jan 13
Yes going out of house is a good way to relax for me.I usually take long walks during the evening.It is a good way to relax as well as a good exercise.If I stay at home,I would get engaged in some kind of work and won't be able to relax.
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@Shavkat (93231)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
It is really a good thing to find time walking in outdoors. It will make us more refresh. Being at home for a long period of time, it takes a lot of time dealing with stress.
• India
20 Jan 13
When ever I want to relax ,I phone my friends and we get together and gossip over tea and then return home to finish the household chores with more energy .
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• United States
2 Feb 13
That is a great thing that you and your friends get together and catch up. I think that simple things like this is so important.It doesn't cost a lot of money and we are able to have a good time. That is one of the best things that we can do. It really does give us the energy that we need to do other things when we get back home.