I cried just a little bit....
By jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
United States
January 23, 2013 9:44am CST
My son informed me yesterday that his girlfriend will be moving in with him shortly. Since he got a divorce I have been picking up my granddaughter from school three days every other week when he has custody. We have enjoyed this time so much together! He emailed me yesterday to say the bulk of what I will be doing will not be so much as his girlfriend will take responsibility for getting her from school. I drive 20 miles each way to get her and take her home, then stay with her until he gets home from work. Sometimes I make supper and we all sit together and eat.....then I go home. I know it will save me alot of time and money as gas is not cheap. But it hurt to know I won't have that time with her anymore. I did tell him that if she wants me to pick her up all she has to do is tell him and he can let me know. I want her to know that I am still available anytime she needs me. Would you be happy about saving the gas and time, or would you have cried just a little too?
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23 responses
@narthan (325)
• India
24 Jan 13
Hearing what you told i feel a lot sad... But still if you feel that you need to spend more time with them and want to pick your granddaughter from school then you will have tell this to you son. Tell him you will miss them a lot otherwise and i an sure that he'll understand
Regards,
Narthan
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
24 Jan 13
I understand what you are going through. Your in a no win situation. Im sure he will figure out a way for you to be with your granddaughter.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
24 Jan 13
sad.. 
but like what others said, you can still see her as much as you can. or even in school before she's fetch by her new fetcher. tell her personally that if she needs you she can call you and give her your phone number. this is sad...and missing.
but like what others said, you can still see her as much as you can. or even in school before she's fetch by her new fetcher. tell her personally that if she needs you she can call you and give her your phone number. this is sad...and missing. 
@olivia2013lovelife (65)
• China
24 Jan 13
dear Jill, I'm deeply touched by your love to your granddaughter. I really understand that you want to be with her for more time.If i were her, I will tell you that: I love you, grandma. No matter how far you will live away from each other in the future, i believe she will always miss you as you are a wonderful grandma.
@davidfrankk (3)
• India
24 Jan 13
Hi Jill, I totally understand your concern here as this isn't something easily to deal with. I hope you're able to cope up with this change and can find happiness.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I can understand why you are so upset. This is the best thing though about having a close family. My mom always watched her when I was at work but then again she was always over or my daughter was with her. Even though we all lived separate we all spent time together. We had girl days out and that would be a great thing to do once you get to know the girlfriend better. Just because you stop picking her up doesn't mean there aren't things that you can't do together. Heck go over on a random day with everyone there and offer to make dinner and everyone can have a nice dinner together. My daughter does that for everyone every so often now.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
23 Jan 13
Aww, what a sad little story jill. Yes, I would cry too. Maybe you can talk your son into letting you do this at least a couple times a week. I'm sure he'd understand if you explain a little to him. 
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
23 Jan 13
It is understandable that you're a bit sad, since you do value this time with your granddaughter.
However, even if you aren't picking her up from school, you can still make a point of having quality time with her. Surprise her with a trip to the local library or museum on the weekend, or arrange for her to have a sleepover at grandma's house on a Friday night--complete with a movie marathon and delicious snacks.
The routine may change, but you can still have quality time with your granddaughter.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
I am not yet a grandma but I am a mother.
I understand the feeling- no amount of gas can save the tears from falling.
Maybe you can still spend some weekends with her for the meantime.
Wish the new mom (girlfriend) will get along with your granddaughter.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
24 Jan 13
If I have a granddaughter that I love so much, I won't mind to drive that extra 20 miles to see her, and I can still handle that little gas money. It wasn't like I have to pick her up from school every single day. It was like every other week. I won't negotiate about that gas money against to see my granddaughter. Most importantly, it is that I can see her from time to time. Why not tell your son bring her over sometimes, since she is the precious in the family.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
23 Jan 13
Oh i understand your feeling and love for your grand daughter. When we love some body. Worldly things are immaterial infront of such love and care. Dont cry dear. You may go on week ends to see your grand daughter. As it will make you both more happy.
@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Well you will have all the opportunity to do as you wish. You may take turns and I am sure if your son's GF is sane, she would be happy to. Anyway the child is your grand daughter.
@CarraC (69)
• Canada
24 Jan 13
So sad. I would have cried a whole lot. When your kids are all grown up, your grand kids "replaces" that motherly feeling. So it's ok to cry...look on the bright side, they won't be so far away from you so visits are not a hassle. You'll be ok. Hang in there. She's always there. Calls, online chatting, webcam...you will feel just as close! (big hug)
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
1 Feb 13
Personally I can see how this would leave some mixed emotions for sure. On one hand there is the Gas money, and time, but on the other hand not spending the time with your granddaughter. Personally I hope your son will take this all into consideration and think of your feelings as well, and still let you come get her. If not just continue to always hope for the Best.
@AmbiePam (85660)
• United States
27 Jan 13
I would have cried too. And maybe you can ask if a couple of times a month you can do instead of his girlfriend. I'm sure neither his girlfriend or him would mind, and I'm sure your granddaughter would like it. I just got back from spending three days with my own grandmother. She lives about 2 and 1/2 hours away. As she's getting older I wanted to spend some time making some memories.
@suzzy3 (8342)
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2 Feb 13
I feel so sorry for you.You really came through for your son and your grandaughter.I used to have my grandchildren while my daughter worked a few times a week,when they went to school it broke my heart.I still see them like you will see your grandaughter.It is not the same.I still have them in the school holidays and if they are to ill to go to school.Invite her over for the weekend because she will miss you as well.I am glad for your son we all deserve to be happy.I would spend money for my grandchildren,but you have to be sensible that situation could not go on forever save the money for a treat instead.I would have cried as well.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
25 Jan 13
Aw...Jill I'm sorry. I am not a grandma or a mother, but I most likely would have cried too and maybe a lot. But the upside you do save money and hey I'm sure that he will let you visit her whenever you like when he has her. Just talk to him about it and I'm sure he'll understand.
@flapiz (22415)
• United Kingdom
23 Jan 13
Well I am not yet a grandma but I probably would have cried a little too as I easily get attached to people. I don't mind spending money for someone I love.
But then again be positive, you can always visit her if you want to.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Jan 13
Aw, I'm sorry Jill. Knowing me, I would have definitely cried. I know when my sister stopped having me watch her kids because her fiance could do it, I did cry too! I loved having them around and my kids loved having them to play with. Now I don't see them very often like I knew I wouldn't so yeah it made me sad...
I hope you still get some time with her...
