I am treating others the best but I can't even get a better treatment...
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
January 23, 2013 11:56am CST
A pleasant day Fellow Mylotters,
Whenever I am doing something or anything, I always think and make it a point that I am working on to the best of my ability. As I want to be fair to everybody. So I am always considering the golden rule, "do not do unto others, what you do not want to do unto you". But despite of doing this thing and following the golden rule, still a situation will exist. A scenario wherein someone will do something disgusting towards you, that will get you annoyed and pissed off. Why such people do exist. Well, I am always treating others the way I want to be treated but this is not really happening. I give fairly but I am receiving unfair treatment. I am doing my best but I am not getting even the better. Why like this. Why such things happens. 
Though I know that in some situations, that when you give, don't expect things to be returned fairly to you. 
. What to say.
Though I know that in some situations, that when you give, don't expect things to be returned fairly to you. . What to say.11 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Sad to say, but that is the reality of life. Even if you do only the best of intentions for others, still there will be people who will test your patience. Just don't be bothered too much by these people. For as long as you make people happy, that is all that matters.
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@xocolatedrool (414)
• India
23 Jan 13
dont worry, keep on doing good Karma. What goes around, comes around.
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@Archie0 (5636)
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23 Jan 13
Well i think that happens to most of us. I have always tried to be better to my friends, but when they got new boyfriends or friends they have left me and more over they have spoilt my name and spoken bad about me. I find so disgusting that how people turn their backs when their matter of being with us is fulfilled.
@5mahi05 (666)
• India
24 Jan 13
hello sheila, good day to you too.
As you said, at some point of time in life, well I must say, most of the times in life, every one feel something like what you are feeling now and I have also always felt the same thing. the main reason for this to happen it because these people own 2 faces. they do not remain the same as they are to you at your back.
these people live for the moment and they change as soon as they are away from you. they do not know that they would be hurting someone else because of their deeds. They speak about you, because that keeps them with someone else. Else, there is nothing for the other person to be with this person. It all sums up to these people just wanting to speak something or the other and make a lot of friends. When I say friends, they just want people to speak to them and want them as the center of attraction.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
24 Jan 13
Well,so you have the point already,when you give,don't expect things to be returned fairly to you,and I want to add something more,yes may be you will not get a equal return,but follow the golden rule will make you face less bad situation and get less hurt,so pls follow the golden rule right along.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
I have the same experience as yours. I treat people very nice and kind and in return they would stab you at your back. I've just realized that people are not perfect. If you are kind, they would abuse you. Of course, not all. I decided then to be strong and firm and not trust people rather I trust God. I even help a person when she was about to die and when she recovered she even stole from me and back fight me. I think some too are envious. Be very careful and love yourself. Don't think of these people much and enjoy your life. Be a better person and find ways to improve yourself. In this way they will be silenced. Just a suggestion.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
Don't think it's bad.
I know everyone has the same question after giving/treating others fairly and with kindness.
It doesn't mean that you are doing the wrong thing.
Sometimes it gives you lesson to learn- keep some for yourself.
Remember that, the more you give the more people ask for more.
Greedy people are not satisfied with little kindness,rather they want the whole of you.
As long as you doing your best and helping them- that is enough.
If are receiving bad response- let it be, it's not your sin anyway.
Someday, all the good things you've done will be rewarded (so stop asking why) just do what you can do.
Rewards may come at last, but it is worth waiting for.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
23 Jan 13
airasheila
Your goal is admirable. I think we do more good for ourselves when we just concentrate on our own behavior and don't measure others very much.
You can only control yourself, so why worry if others are being as nice as you are??
Where necessary, you might lose friends, but if you keep the emphasis on yourself, you will become the best person you can be.
You are so wise to know we can't expect others to return the same to you fairly!!
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
23 Jan 13
I also used to think that way when I was younger, that when I treat people good, they will in turn be nice and good to me as well. Wrong! And quite a very dangerous frame of mind set. Because mean people are everywhere. Whether you do something good or bad, they will still be mean because that's what they are. We can always try to see if they will soften a bit and appreciate how we treat them, but expecting that they extend the same courtesy to us is a bit tricky.
@sunshinefame (287)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
that's the saddest situation for us, if we give our best, consider their limitations and give maximum tolerance, still some friends will abused us. that just happened to me yesterday. but don't be desperate, your attitude is great, don't expect that they will reciprocate what is important you give the your best, don't be stress with them.. karma will do its part. just be happy and continue your good attitude.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
We just have to learn to not let people who don't treat us right, bother us. It is best to leave the negativity behind us. And focus on the good people and the good things in life.
If you are still kind and someone isn't kind back, then the next person will be kind towards you. Someone will indeed appreciate your kindness. So, it is important to always be fair.
I am sure, if you think about it, that you know people who are positive and kind. Focus on those people. :)
