I am Fat, so What? :-O
By Archie0
@Archie0 (5636)
January 27, 2013 5:04am CST
I don't understand what is with people's mind and why just they can't manage their own business. I am fat, and from somewhere i get this friend of my sister. Who visits my house rarely, because i have warned my sister not to get her home when i am there. Because she has this thing. She always has something to say that pinches me about my weight. She is skinny and she looks very pretty i don't deny the fact. But i haven't given her the authority to call me fat, or pass comments indirectly on me.
Today out of no where my sister has got her home, and the moment she entered. She is like, Thank to god i am not fat, but i want to become fat. I am so skinny and people call me this and that.
That was a word of her filthy mouth on me. Definitely my sister is dead after this nerd friend leaves. But then i want to ask, why do people make it a fuss about other people's disability? I have rejections from guys just because i am fat. I never rejected any guy that came to saw me just because he was ugly black, or he had no mannerism of talking or eating. This is another reason why i don't want to marry, i don't want or need a man who will judge me by my looks.
Other part of this type of friends, i don't make much friends because of this thing. They always have something to pass on me, or make fun of me. I know i should take it lightly and not serious but how can someone take it easy when people are passing comments on something that is not easy to cure. Being fat is not just eating, there are several other problems that causes that. I agree i eat a bit more. But then i have been this fat since i was small. And that does not give those smart looking females or those geek guys to pass comments on me to entertain themselves or get themselves on lime light, i am not going to feel broken.
I hate such jerks.
That was a word of her filthy mouth on me. Definitely my sister is dead after this nerd friend leaves. But then i want to ask, why do people make it a fuss about other people's disability? I have rejections from guys just because i am fat. I never rejected any guy that came to saw me just because he was ugly black, or he had no mannerism of talking or eating. This is another reason why i don't want to marry, i don't want or need a man who will judge me by my looks.
Other part of this type of friends, i don't make much friends because of this thing. They always have something to pass on me, or make fun of me. I know i should take it lightly and not serious but how can someone take it easy when people are passing comments on something that is not easy to cure. Being fat is not just eating, there are several other problems that causes that. I agree i eat a bit more. But then i have been this fat since i was small. And that does not give those smart looking females or those geek guys to pass comments on me to entertain themselves or get themselves on lime light, i am not going to feel broken. I hate such jerks.2 people like this
12 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
27 Jan 13
Hi Archie!
It is a human tendency to pass such comments so that they could prove or show - "Look! am smarter than you".
If someone is fat or is over weight, it is subjective. There could be many who would weigh more than you then in that case you become slimmer in their comparison.
You see it is difficult to stop such comments, try to take it on your stride. If someone points it out to you that you are over weight - you could answer - "Look! I am like it only, if you have to accept me, accept me as I am."
It is not that you do not want to become slimmer than what you presently are, however, sometimes our best efforts do not make us slimmer.
All the best.
It is a human tendency to pass such comments so that they could prove or show - "Look! am smarter than you".
If someone is fat or is over weight, it is subjective. There could be many who would weigh more than you then in that case you become slimmer in their comparison.
You see it is difficult to stop such comments, try to take it on your stride. If someone points it out to you that you are over weight - you could answer - "Look! I am like it only, if you have to accept me, accept me as I am."
It is not that you do not want to become slimmer than what you presently are, however, sometimes our best efforts do not make us slimmer.
All the best.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
28 Jan 13
If the use foul language it is a reflection on their personality, not on you.
@alexpreston (136)
• China
27 Jan 13
Hello, Archie0. I don't think being fat is a fault. Being fat is another beauty. But those people who love to make a fuss about it are really annoying. Have a nice day!
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
i could totally understand you, back in college i was skinny but after having kids i turned chubby.. 
but i really don't mind as i know i am still beautiful 
but people do always point it out..when i see old friends they would say it, my parents would say it..and thank God hubby learned not to comment instead i told him to just appreciate him the way i am right now and he learned to compliment me.
Don't feel broken, there are people like them who say stuff about other people so they would feel nice about themselves. 
but i really don't mind as i know i am still beautiful
but people do always point it out..when i see old friends they would say it, my parents would say it..and thank God hubby learned not to comment instead i told him to just appreciate him the way i am right now and he learned to compliment me.
Don't feel broken, there are people like them who say stuff about other people so they would feel nice about themselves. 
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
28 Jan 13
No, I totally agree with you that no one should just comment on how someone is fat and really no one should make any type of comment like that about someone at all. I think that that is just plain rude. I mean really, so just out of the blue she made that comment about being fat? But was was the reason for anyway. I agree that you shouldn't marry someone who is just marrying you based on how you look. My husband could care less how I look, I know that he would still love me. Then about the friend thing, if people are going to make comments on you being fat especially when you didn't ask for their advice then they are not a good friend after all. When I was a bit more heavier set, my family members would always comment about me being fat and how I should lose some weight. That was a bit hurtful and I kind of steered clear of them because of the comments that they made. My husband even advised me because he saw how hurt I was by their comments. But then all in the end, it come to find out that I was having thyroid problems. Which I found out after I one day lost a whole lot of weight. Before I used to be real skinny and then I gained like a whole bunch of weight and when I found out that I had thyroid problems I lost a lot of weight. So yeah some people can't help being fat or its something that cannot be cured because some people that are like me who kind of can't control their weight problem. Mine kind of fluctuates and its kind of hard to control. But right now I'm not were I used to be I'm a bit lighter then were I used to be. But all in all people shouldn't make comments about people's weight without knowing the whole story cause some people have health issues that cannot be controlled like me.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
There are just a lot of people who are not sensitive enough towards other feelings. They are not aware how there comments affect other people's lives. And some have gone to the extent of killing themselves coz they have been bullied a lot of times. You should not waste your time with those people. So what if you're fat? I think that beauty is always from within. Others maybe beautiful- good skin, great body, shiny hair and all, but what else does she have if she is stripped from those outer beauty?
@else22 (4317)
• India
27 Jan 13
I can understand your pain.You have some extra layers of fat on your body,but people have nothing to do with it.Why should they ridicule you just because you are fat and not slim.I have already undergone the bitter experience.Years ago I was a stammerer.That was my problem.I had to cure my self or live with it,but people,especially my classmates started taking undue interest in the matter.They would laugh at me whenever I failed to respond to my roll call or stammered while answering to the question teacher had asked me.I was utterly depressed.I had to face a lot of difficulty curing myself and regained fluency of speech.Till then I was their target.
Take it easy,although it would not be easy for you.Be aware that people have the tendency of poking their nose in others' matters.
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
27 Jan 13
some people are just a**holes.
if it wasn't a weight comment,i'm sure they'd find something else to give someone
crap about.a lot of times it boils down to them being insecure themselves.
if it wasn't a weight comment,i'm sure they'd find something else to give someone
crap about.a lot of times it boils down to them being insecure themselves.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I have a low opinion about those people who does not have anything else to say other than about weight. Those people who comment on your weight when they see you. I mean, why not comment about the ugly haircut or nice skin?
And yes, weight is not only about how much or how little you eat. There are other factors that affect your size.
But do not worry too much about them. Your are beautiful.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Hello Archie, that's her problem, you know i have read about another discussion from a friend here about a woman who is also fat or gain weight but she is always glamerous, kinda and confident with herself. that's right, confident, she comes to the office with the blooming but simple attire and nice to other people. i think if you totally ignore her remarks you would understand that she's just trying to hurt you, don't let it happen.
you are pretty. don't let others stomp you simply because they have a different taste.
you are pretty. don't let others stomp you simply because they have a different taste. 
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Hi Archie!
Really, don't mind those kind of people because what's inside you is more important than what meets the eye. I also get comments like that from people who sees me now but they don't know what happened to me and I don't need to explain to them. Thankfully I have true friends who knows me for who I really am. For those who still can't keep their mouth shut I sometimes snap at them and say I love eating and I can't help it if I can spend for it. They get taken aback but they just realize that I was just as rude as them.
I know that being fat is not all about food intake. I know a relative of mine who has been big since childhood and it's because of hormonal imbalance. I don't know how to explain it but the chemicals inside us has something to do with our female hormones which has great effect on how we feel and look on the outside.
Anyway don't think that being bigger than other girls is a disability because it's not. Girls who are skinny on the other hand does have more to work for to maintain that or has other medical conditions that we won't know just by judging the way they look. So be happy and live happily no matter what others say!
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 13
It is okay to be fat as long as you are healthy Archie0. Making friend is about having lots of things in common like hobby, sport, perspective... etc and being fat or skinny is not that relevant in friendship. Make as many friends as possible and it'll just be a matter of time before you find a good boy friend :)
