Would you pay for a surrogate mother if you can't have children?

We adopted. It cost to much to use a surrogate and besides we found there was problems. For instance, what if she stole my husband's affections? What if she decided to keep the child? Also there is the moral thing, for instance it would be adultery and the legality - she would be giving the child she carried for you to adopt. I prefer adoption.

I don't know about being mother or not. But i think i prefer adopting a child. This will be my concern. I don't know about my husband, and at some point i would not like to share my husband with someone else for surrogation. I find it very disturbing for myself. I would prefer adoption.

Nope chiyosan, I wouldn't. I have learned from many cases problems would be caused by surrogate mom. Like run away after she has pregnant. Regretting and refuse to give the new born baby, etc. If I were to be in such situation and really need to have a kid I prefer to pick from the local orphanage. Further more many orphans are in the waiting list to be adopted. I think it's win win to adopt kid from the orphanage. Both sides are beneficial after forming a warm and happy family Happy posting

Yes it is a good option rather adopting a child that I don't know where the history came from. At least it's still our own child from our own genes.

Hi chiyosan, I won't pay for that because there are many unwanted children around the world who needs a home to care for them. Instead of making a potential child's life complicated because of surrogacy I'd rather help and save a child through adopting. Surrogacy may be acceptable because it is a breakthrough in science but I think it is against human nature. Human beings are smart and we should also keep in mind to be conscientious. Why do scientists experiment on this? It's not curing any disease nor saving human extinction (we are no where near that!) Parent's who would do this is not thinking about the child but their own selfish benefits.

I am totally OK with this kind of issue,I mean,pay for a surrogate mother and adopt a kid all can be a option to me.

Elton John would..and has..twice!

I think that it could be great to have a surrogate mother, but then the worry would start if the woman gets attach to the baby. And that she might not willingly give the baby by the time she gives birth. So i think the best is to just adopt a child.

When a woman can't have baby of her own than she has to either adopt a baby or hire a surrogate mother, it is a costly affair though. Thank you so much for this discussion.

It's hard to say. Personally I would do it for free for someone I would care about, like my eldest daughter for example. Unless I am not able to pay for the doctor or so. I don't know if I would ask someone to carry a child for me, but if so I do find it normal I pay her costs and make her life easier. Being pregnant is not a piece of cake for most women. No matter if it's you being pregnant of someone else for you, I think good care is important. Also that person should not feel abused, plus there is nothing wrong with paying for the medical care and the fact her body won't be the same after the birth anymore. I don't see this for paying for the child, but I do find it normal/decent to pay for the surrogate mother to keep her in good shape so she can continue a (good) life after the birth as well.

if she would agree that she will not later take the baby away from me, then yes I would. Who wouldn't want to have a baby especially if there are no means to conceive one but pay for a surrogate mom. Wherever the baby comes from if you are happy to accept the baby wholeheartedly as your own then it would be a wonderful feeling being a parent to the baby.