Do not do unto others what you do not want to do unto you...

The Germans have an other saying: Gutheit ist dummheit (which means: if you do good to others you are a stupid idiot). It already says enough.. if you treat people well, Always do, you will attract abusers. So you better use this saying: treat others the way they treat you! If you do that you will attract people who do care about you and the abusers will stay away. BTW it's the way to raise people! Nobody likes to be abused and stabbed in the back so why tolerate that?

I know from first hand experience that if you are kind, gentle and caring to others you are seen as weak and easy to manipulate, that is what my ex's saw when they first met me, they saw someone so kind, giving, generous and warm, because I was taught you treat others how you yourself expect to be treated, but sadly in the real world that doesn't work. And my ex's used that against me and you also become easily bullied too. Now sadly after the abuse I went through I have changed, not for the better, I am wary of people, suspicious and I don't trust, these qualities I see as defence mechanism. I guess you learn the hard way about people. I have had enough of being a doormat to others and expecting them to treat me kindly for it.

I wish that people would treat people the way that they would like to be treated.I feel that there are a lot of people out there that will do what ever they can to upset and hurt other people no matter what. We all have friends and in the past one of my friends broke my trust in her and as a result after trying to split my marriage has spoiled what relationship I had with my husband, as all trust has gone in him now.

Well, this saying must be used with caution. Just because you show kindness to people, that doesn't mean you can expect them to show you kindness as well. The world doesn't work that way, and if you think it's that simple, chances are you will be taken advantaged of most of the time. If one time they offended you, forgive, move on and be wary of those people. If they did it again, time to take action. Stand up for yourself because you can never expect someone will do that for you all the time.