Youngest in the family who is begging for love....

I don't get it,because in my mind,people tend to love the youngest child usually,so I think you should communicate with your parents and other sibling and find their love you do bot notice before.

A pleasant day to you Bhebelen14, Your post is somehow the opposite of my story. As I am the eldest among the four siblings. Since I am the eldest, a much more obligations has been tasked to me since I was a child. At the age of 7, I was teach how to give care to my brother who is 3 years old then. Until such time my third sibling was born. Until we became 4 as my fourth sibling has also been born. Despite that I am doing the best to attend on different chores, appreciation is the least thing that I am receiving. What they always see are the errors and mistakes but little they realized that I am just a small kid then to take care all of my three siblings. And when the time I became weak, I even not heard from them asking, how am I. Until this time that I grow old, though my siblings can take care of themselves, my parents wont bother to ask me, how am I. It is like until now I must beg for any appreciation from them. And up to now, honestly, I sometimes feel that appreciation is the least thing that I can get. Same thing, I even don't feel the love.

Based on some interviews and observation from my friends, I think it's impossible for a younger child to beg for love from their parents. Most of the time, youngest like our family are always been the centered and cared by all of us his siblings. I don't want that my parents will be unfair to any of us. That's the reason why all my siblings like me for treating them fair. In your case, it might be you become black sheep of the family, that is why your parents was disappointed and give you punished

Why do you think that they love you over them? I mean, was there any incident before that made your parents somewhat mad at you that they are not treating you fairly? Have you ever tried talking your parent about how you feel? I think that it is best for you to let them know what is going through your mind. Just try to talk to them and listen and try to understand what they have to say.

that's so sad but, have you talked to your parents about what you feel right now? I think it's good if you talk to them so you would understand one another. I know it's hard for a daughter/son to confront their parents because you're ashamed but it's not bad to try it. everything or every problem will be resolved if the family will be open to one another and that's the value of a family--understanding and respecting each and every member. I hope you'll be fine sooner or later. =)

Its really sad to hear such situation. Parents usually dont admit that they have a favorite child but it shows. Now, that you are the one supporting your parents and you feel that they still cant appreciate you maybe its time for you to find a special someone who could return the love you are giving out. When you start a family you will forget all the hurt you've felt. Your dreams and hopes will now be for your own family and all the things thats arent perfect before will be forgotten. If your not planning to have a family yet, just continue doing good things to your parents because no matter what you are nothing without them. You might also consider talking to them about it and have an open conversation.

Hey bhebelen, it is very difficult sometimes for parents to pay attention on their kids. But it is also not right for them to give all their attention to only one or two and leave the others unattended. In my case i am eldest in my house. But my dad is a person who always hated me for what i am. My mother was the one who always invented fights with me for very silly reason. I was grew up as a depressed child. And was in so much depression that i tried to end myself. I was looked after by my cousin and i am close to her. It was then when she told my mother that i tried to end my life, was then my mother soften and now she sees that she does not hurt me. I do not want to give you a bad or wrong message here. But i don't know why most of the parents are like this, why is it that they speak so bitter to some of their kids. When i will give birth to mine i am going to see that they are loved with the most of my love and there won't be any compromise. I really appreciate you, that you being hated most are the one who is looking after them. This thing will surely worry them one day. When they realize how they have behaved with you and you in return have helped them and respected them. Sometimes it does not matter how the person before you behaves with you, but it really matters how you in return act to their behavior. That surely makes a difference. Feel good for you, that you are with so much dignity in spite of being hurt. You are sure to get your part of happiness one day.

Maybe it's cultural reasons. Like most eldest child in most cultures are more expected to be the responsible one and the rest of the succeeding children are given the other responsibilities accordingly. I'm the youngest child too and I sometimes get confused if I'm favored or not because my sister and I have each our strengths and weaknesses that shouldn't be compared with because we're each unique. You might not know it that your elder siblings are held by the neck by your parents because they expect too much from them. Or that your other siblings are in return feeling the same about you, you're the favorite one because your parents are just letting you be.

First of all, I'm really sorry on your condition. I can say that I can relate to this in a way. We are also three kids in the family, all boys. Time and time again, I feel that I'm always alone and the least appreciated even though I do the good things at all times and do things that would make my parents proud. I feel like that I'm not a real part of the family, an adopted son, I think. That's why, now, I'm doing my best in my life, to be self-sufficient and not to rely too much on them. I hope, I can see what's in their hearts, to know the truth. And so to you, good luck. be strong always. Thanks

Hi friend, sad to hear about your story, but don't think you are the unwanted child, each and every parents have the same love and affection with all their kids, so surely they have lot of love and care about you, don't think they corner you, give your utter most affection to them and made them to think a lot about you.

It's really hard when we start to harbor the feelings of being unwanted in our very own family. It's hard to bring it up and when we finally did, we would wish we have never brought it up in the first place. Anyway I would like to know how are your two older sisters treating you?

I had the same thing here, Im the oldest girl. But my other two sisters got everything. Still do. If it wasnt for my brother, Id really of had a bad time. He was and is still always there for me....

It's hard if someone have the feeling of unwanted in the family. Usually parents do have favorite child, although most parent won't admit or even not realized that they are playing favorites, but it'll show and the child who feels not getting love, will feel miserable. Well, for you though, you're a nice and kind person for looking after your parents even if you feel that they don't want you. But it's a good thing to do, as mean as parents can be, they are still your parents.