how to be more confident?

Philippines
January 31, 2013 10:24pm CST
sometimes i get really nervous when my professor call me and i dont know the answer of his question, i feel nervous and i dont know what to do. sometimes my face turns red, and sometimes i start to sweat. i feel torturing when he is the professor. i hate him, in his time the whole classroom is quiet because if he is your professor he/she call you when you open your mouth and you cant sit down until you answer his question.
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17 responses
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
1 Feb 13
In your situation th only thing I can think to say is to study more and try to remember key things you read that way you have the answer and won't feel nervous...
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• Philippines
2 Feb 13
yes im study harder on that subject but the thing is i hate that subject more. I want to give up that subject to take it on the summer class.. But my parent dont agree so no choice i have to continue it.
• United States
3 Feb 13
Its best just to get through it then, do the best you can.
• Indonesia
2 Feb 13
Confident is build from our vision of something. What we think what we touch depend to conclusion we made. So don't panic before we know sure waht happen to us. For example the professor is like monster according to MIKEMONTEZ. He feels unconfortable everytime he sees the professor. So, make our vision calm, talk to him (professor) with kindness, discussion with fairness. From the start you will go on your living with happiness.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 13
a short but meaningful answer thanks. if he ask me or talking to me, i reply, i response too, but i never ask him. im scared. your absolutely right confident is build from our vision but for some reason while on his time i feel scared, for his scary face, and his scary attitude and also my classmates they feel it too.
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
2 Feb 13
I think you are an introvert, easy to be nervous in public. When I was in high school, I always can do answer correctly in class and be laughed by classmates. But after entering the college, as there was no one know me before, I tried to act as a different person from the one in high school. After taking part in debate competition several times, I can speak in public. With one success after another, I now feel confidence about myself. In you cases, you can try to set a series of goals, then achieve one after another, you may feel confidence become more and more.
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
even i don't know the exact meaning of introvert, yes i can be more confident but not on that situation. if you only know my feelings when that time happens, even my classmates too. they scared when he is the professor in the class. I study now harder to escape easily from his tasks. anyway, thanks for advice.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
Nervousness is quite normal, but you can minimize through preparation. Come to class prepared. Read your lessons at night and be ready to be called. When you are called by your professor, he is giving you the opportunity or training to practice public speaking. Always grab every opportunity thrown your way. Speak up, say what you have in mind, whether it's right or wrong, it does not matter. It is important that you have that training so you will be able to conquer nervousness in the long run.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 13
im shy to my classmate when i got a wrong answer, im gonna thanks to you, even wrong at least I try to answer. I can now be prepared for all the time. thanks for your advice. have a good day ms.Cutie :D
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
The best way is to come to class always prepared. That way, even if he calls you, you will be able to provide answers to his questions. I also had some terror professors in College. And with them around, I tend to give more time in studying the subjects that they teach. And guess what, I am always on top of the class with their subjects! I am also not the kind of student that would be raising her and all the time. I just wait for the professor to call me. But I make sure that I come to class always prepared.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 13
college life is more hard unlike the high school. thanks you understand my situation and give me some advice. yes i do prepared before going to school but sometimes., a possibility that i dont know the answer is were the timing to call me =( thanks ms.jenny =)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
Know your self first, then be your self and relax. If your professor calls you and you don't know the answer tell him or her you didn't know the answer, but I suggest you do study so that you could answer your professor. And if you really don't the answer and you can't sit down it's ok, do your best next time to answer the questions of your professor.
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
if he is your professor and if you don't know that answer Its better to keep it than to say it. He is the kind of teacher that never accept the word "i don't know sir" you can be able to sit down when you answer his question weather its correct or not. thank you.bantoot
• India
1 Feb 13
To be more confident be always positive.Try to understand your positives and negatives.We cant build confidence with in one day.It is a slow process.Our friend circle is important factor in shaping confidence.
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
i try to be positive but i cant when that situation happening..
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
1 Feb 13
I have to question his teaching if he makes you hate him and the way he makes you feel, that isn't healthy for anyone, surely the anxiety and the thought of him challenging you will make you forget what you have learnt? How you can you respect him if he has that affect on you. Is it just you or do all the students in your class feel the same way about him?
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
whatever happens i hate him, i dont care of him, all of my classmate's hate him because wether outside the school or not not in school time, when he talk to our parents his attitude never calm. he never give us a high grade although we gives our best to make a good grade. thank you mr.wolfie. I understand you..
@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
Don't worry, you are not alone. So, next time, like many others, they prepare themselves for the class and pay attention to the lesson.
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
thank you for your advice mr.toyota. have a good day =)
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
1 Feb 13
It is normal to be nervous, it only shows that we are human and we are affected by what is happening around. I also have this nervousness which until now I am experiencing especially when I am in a uncertain situation. Well, just what our friends had said, be prepared. Remember also that this professor of yours is also human and sometimes this attitude in front of his class is just something he is doing in order to prevent others from abusing him. I remember, I hid a coin inside my sock as advice of some friends just to prevent from getting nervous. I don't remember if it do me any good though. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
what did you do in the coin? your right i need to be prepared all the time to be confident whatever the problem or the tasks happen. i hope i can do it. thanks for advice have a nice day too. ms.aries =)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 13
When the professor calls you, take a deep breath and just go. Stand up in front of everyone and think comforting thoughts. Speak loudly. Not too loud, but loud. It will sound normal for the people who are listening and they will actually be able to hear you. Speak clearly, pronouncing the words out. This will also play a key role in your listeners being able to hear you. Don't be over confident just relax and be calm .
• China
2 Feb 13
In oder to be more confident, you need practice more and never feel tortouring when you are resuired to answer in public. Once i was as nervous as you and my face turned red when peole stare at me.But i compel myself to answer in public as more as possible. You should keep in mind that mistakes make you better. You need practice more to be more confident.
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
it is really hard to practice to be strong when facing your fear. but i will and i will passed through this small thing for my future. i cant understand why if how much confidence here in online is the opposite in actual. its sad to say it =(
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
Why not learn to study your subjects and be prepared before coming to your class. Self confident came from inside of us we must be prepared and know what we are doing. Reading a lot can also help and mingle with people with bright ideas where you can learn more by just listening to any topic they discussed.
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
i cannot say that im prepared or im not ready.. because everynight at home im always studying my lessons for that day. i cant say that all of the discussion for the quarter or for the year is i know. there are sequences that sometimes i cant remember. like reviewing the lessons. anyway, thanks for advice have a good day mr.teotimoponcerosacena.
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
I remember back in high school we also had a teacher whos really terror. What I do for me to avoid standing in class, I prepare before going to school. I read in advance so that once our teacher call me, I can answer her question. Maybe you can try to prepare too and always bear in mind that the only way to defeat your teacher is to show good performance on his subject.
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
yes, from now on I try to study more. even there are many tasks i have to do it. to defeat my teacher in class haha =) thank you.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
you just need to motivate yourself. You need to face your fears and be positive in life.If you want to be successful then you need to step and get out of your shell.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
The key here is to study hard so that when your professor call you you can answer confidently. Show him what you got. You can do it. Just study hard.
2 Feb 13
Try a little introspection: Are you nervous because you fear you will not know the answer and be embarrassed? Do you have a fear of public speaking? These or other reasons would each have an individual path to resolution. It is easy to say will gain confidence by being better prepared but this may not be the whole answer. Fear of public speaking is common but can also be rooted in deeper feeling of inferiority etc. Look inside yourself. Further, you could seek someone to talk to... many colleges and universities have as part of their campus health programs the chance to speak to psychologist or therapists - it does not mean you are crazy and should not be seen negatively.... you may feel better having someone to listen to your feelings as talking about them is the first step to solving.