What? No thank you?!

@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
February 5, 2013 8:09am CST
I was in a meeting at work and there was this other attendee. Well too make the story a bit shorter, she dropped the cover of her dongle and it fell on my back seat. i saw she dropped it but i do not know where it fell, exactly. The thing is I looked for it and i picked it up for her ( i had to put down my laptop, stand up and get it for her. She was waiting for me the whole time, and i gave her the cover. and after getting it she turned her back on me, yeah that is what she did and did not even say thank you!! Wow, i thought okay, so that was really something, this woman who could not even say thanks for what was done for her.. okay so that's her.. "Eyes rolling" =P Ever had to do something for someone and you did not even get a Thank you?!
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10 responses
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
5 Feb 13
You should have said thank you to her , just a little reminder for her about manners. I always say thank you to people and I don't understand why it's hard for other people to say those words.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
Correct Verna!!! =) haha i wonder really why other people find it hard to say thank you when they were supposedly taught good manners as a kid, maybe over time some loses what they learned instead of being better and improving at being a good person. ;)
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
oh its not working! :D she has no authority over me and my decisions does not include trying to please her or everybody else at our workplace. :D
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
5 Feb 13
Some people want to establish authority over other person by being rude, maybe this is what she wants you to know.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
5 Feb 13
Most people don't say "thank you" to me. No matter if I pick up something which is theirs, if I gave them a lot of money, if I took them in my home, etc. So now the question is: what will you do next time? Help her out again or just ignore her? Since as long as you (just like I did year after year after year) keep helping people who take it for normal/take you for granted, they will keep on behaving like this. Rude, impolite.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
I may have experienced unappreciative people in the past who does not say thank you to me, but then i guess i was just surprised as she was no stranger at all - we have been in the workshop for months now and wow, i was just probably not expecting her to be rude like that. Like you though, it was just a surprised me that felt sad about the whole thing (for a time) but i guess i would still be doing things for her as i have been doing so in the past... (haha or maybe like tell her to seat beside me and ignore her and pretend i do not hear her when she speeaks)? just kidding. thank you kitty for your response! :D
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
All of of want to appreciated when we do even the smallest things for others. But unfortunately, not all could even recognize a help. There was a beggar, about 9 years old who went inside the jeepney I was riding. He distributed envelopes to all of the passengers hoping that somebod will give him money. But I do not feel right about it. So I asked my son to give his biscuits which he did not eat from recess that day. When the beggar took the pack of biscuits, he just sat down on the step and started eating it. Well, I was kind expecting that I wouldn't receive a "thank you" for that, so I just kept quiet. But my son whispered to my ear and said. "What? NO thank you?". Then I just told him that maybe the beggar was not taught to give thanks so he didn't.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Thank you for sharing this, i actually have had experiences such as this, and many do not say thanks, in reality because when you give it to them they would just take it. No offense meant to people asking for money in the streets, but i too wouldn't expect to have received thank yous for them.. but for a professional - well educated woman, i would expect her to act accordingly.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Very true! So you should have told her not to mess with an ASSUMPTIONSITA! (Students from Assumption College) Or you'll throw at her all the vocabulary words seldom used in the dictionary! I wonder how she'd react to that!
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
I agree to both of you. But I also had the same experience with beggars getting on the jeepneys, distributing envelops and asking for a few pennies. But some beggars do know how to say thank you! It was late November, I was working in Commonwealth then, and there was this boy who got on our jeep and gave each of us an envelop. We were just a few commuters in there as I could remember, but most of us gave a penny,even the driver shared some coins to this boy. And when the boy was about to get off, he just said one big thank you. Just "thank you", yet you could feel on his tone how happy he was then. And I really felt good about it. We didn't know how a simple act can do to that boy and what a simple words of gratitude can do to us in return. And it was really worth it!
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
maybe she didn't want to "lose her poise" in the presence of the other attendees that she may be trying to impress. (that's why i don't like dressing up too much at work, the whole makeup, hairdo, clothes and shoes thang, you know?) it's a case of adding insult to injury. first, she did not get down to help you look for it even though it's hers, then didn't even thank you. (oh, wait, maybe she has a health condition that prevents her from bending down in case the blood rushes to her head? hahaha!) in jeepneys, when i pass other people's fares and don't hear them say "thank you" and i happen to be in a good mood, i say "you're welcome." some get it and say a belated "thank you," some remain clueless. when others don't say thank you, i shrug it off. i still help if it's needed and do it out of kindness, common sense and practicality. hopefully, i collect enough good karma so it comes back to me just when i need it in unexpected places from unexpected people.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
he he okay, first, there is no poise in her that i see, she dresses casually in meetings, not minding that we were having meetings with the whole departmental heads. Second, yes that is true, she didn't even bother to bend down as well (even if she pretended to, that i think would have been at least enough) and yeah, no thank you too, i sure had a bit of trouble finding it, but then i did.. and third, she turned her back on me. I bet you have already collected enough of the good karma and is probably collecting some more. I guess i am just ranting, out of the frustration because of her reaction and basically what she did after there was no thank you uttered. Not really the thought of her not thanking me. =) he he
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
haha yes, that is true i won't sit again with her.
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
don't ever sit near her next time.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
6 Feb 13
In her behalf "thank you" . we are living in a world full of strAngers, there are lots of strange things in here. did she ever smiled at you? i hope that's the most basic "human" reaction one can do for your effort and time. hmmmm don't you think she might be from out of this world? an alien perhaps?
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
oh to answer your question, no she did not even smile at me, i would have let it go and i do not burden myself with petty things like this but no thank you and turning his back at me.. oh geesh that is too much, right? probably her family has different views but mind you she won't be having second helpings from me anymore.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
hi mavic!!! yes, i would be helping out others, i am like that. ha ha funny that we are talking about this, just a while ago i passed by her and her jacket was on the floor. I did not picked it up. :D no one did from the group even told her about her jacket. I guess she is like that to everyone and she's not getting any help anymore.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
6 Feb 13
yes, that's true, she won't have any second help not just from you but also from others. It is okay... but this should not let you stop from helping and assisting other people Chiyosan.. keep on doing that.
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
There are more people like her in the open, don't get offended. Not saying thanks is not that matters what matter is what will be her outlook to you in the future. We lived and grow in different environment each with their own exposure.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
hi there.. i am not really yearning for the thank you but i was surprised at the attitude because she turned her back on me as if it was my task to pick up her pen or whatever things she dropped on the floor. i understand we all were brought up differently.. but yeah maybe as you have said it is what the outlook will be, then for me my idea of her has been turned to sour.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
yes, actually red, i would be ok with a smile or a nod. that would really do. i would not make a big deal out of it if she wasn't really what she was when this whole thing happened. :D
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Actually, she didn't have to say a word, but a simple nod or a little smile will do. And yes, it does matter. It's part of our interaction with other people. So just ignore those kind of people, they don't deserve a single minute of your time.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
6 Feb 13
Like others have said, too many times their are people out there who think the world should revolving around them and then when it does not, they forget to be appreciative when someone does something nice to help them. When the person did not thank you that is a low blow and maybe in time no one will be there to help them, and what will they do then?
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
That's true! when these people never appreciate what little things people can do for you, it just so translates that they will never even be appreciative of even other things done, and people will know, they will count those little things, because collectively these does matter, right?! Thank you for your response. have a great day! :D cheers!
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
5 Feb 13
That was so rude of her. I can't imagine not thanking someone for doing what you did. Some people just were not brought up with proper manners in their home. I believe many females are like that with their nose up in the air thinking they are better then everyone. It makes me sick to see someone without manners. I believe this happened to me at least once but I can't remember the circumstances.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Yeah, she could have just smiled at me, right?! but why would she turn her back on me!!! I don't know about her but i think that was really very rude of her to not have said anything.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
There are times when little things like this are forgotten. I am guilty of it also. Someone gave me something and because I was also busy doing something and there were a lot of other concerns at that time, I left the place with the thing given to me without even saying a thank you. I feel really guilty about it and it would take some time before I go back to that place again to see the giver.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
oh maybe she did forget??? i dunno but it felt as though she was really the type who does not say thanks to anyone. she was not in a hurry, she was seated right in front of me at the time and still no thank you! This morning we were the only people in the room while waiting for other people to arrive in our meeting and guess what.. she looked at me as if she was eyeing me! The nerve really.
@TLilly12 (1229)
• United States
24 Mar 13
The woman has no manner she was brought up right, this is what I don't like about some people, you do something for them, and they can't even say thank you, that shows how much manners people like this have.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Mar 13
that is why i felt as though it was a waste of time. it was not like i was asking for a reward or a recognition but i did expect her to just say "thanks" and she didn't. yes she act as though often she has no manners at all and just wants to receive favors all the time.