Why is life so tricky?

@averygirl72 (16728)
Philippines
February 6, 2013 8:56pm CST
I experience this everyday. I want to be envious of the people who seem to have the greatest Facebook life posts ever. Then, I will feel so ashamed of myself I am like a garbage and so far below this type of people. Then, I will see people who are so miserable than I am and I can't imagine being in their situation. All of a sudden, I consider myself so lucky. If I remember a young girl who has birth defects and stays on her bed all day long, I can't stop thinking that I am still lucky. I also see in the news a young man who cannot go to study anymore because he had a tumor above his nose. Then I will look at celebrities, showing their brand new SUVs and newly acquired homes. I feel down again.
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• Lenox, Georgia
7 Feb 13
I don't think there is any reason to be jealous of other people and what they have. That will not get us anywhere... And it's not always as great as they claim it to be. Even the celebrities, yeah we think we would love to have their life but would we really like to have so many lies being told about us everywhere? Would we like to be followed around 24/7 and getting our picture taken in our most private moments in life? I would NOT enjoy that kind of attention so no I don't want their life, they can have it! As for people on Facebook, how do we know it is not being said for attention or to hide what their really going through in life? We don't know for sure that they are being completely honest. It could all be a big fat lie! The grass is not always greener on the other side, we should always remember that...
@Raine38 (9201)
• United States
7 Feb 13
I agree. If it is from or on Facebook, always have room for doubt. Half of it isn't true, or there are some parts in their story that they purposely leave out to make it sound even better. Oh I have lots of friends and acquaintances on Facebook that have nothing but good lives to post. But since I know them personally and I can see how they live day by day, it's just outright hilarious. Anyway, you can turn this around and see it from another angle. Instead of being envious of your Facebook friends' "good lives", why not be inspired to work harder so you may also get to experience that. Who knows, right?
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• Penrith, Australia
7 Feb 13
That's true, dont compare yourself to others, the only person you have to compare to and surpass is yourself. Those people on Facebook probably dont have all their sh*t pulled up together either. You see when people go through dark periods in their lives, its usually kept a secret, i mean, who would want to brag about getting wasted or getting into rehab or being unemployed. Especially if that person is a twenty something like me, there is nothing more obnoxious than a twenty-year-old pretending to have their life figured out. They don't, its bull sh*t portraying designed to make you feel bad about yourself. At least you are being honest with yourself unlike that idiot who didnt have the balls to admit to themselves what they really are.
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• Penrith, Australia
11 Feb 13
Its true. If you want to become a better person, stay away from Facebook.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
7 Feb 13
Ahh, that is why i do not like Facebook!! I have that too! I look at other people's profiles and they're all successful and everything. That is the main reason why i wanted to delete my Facebook. And the. One day, i was scrolling and i found my high school friend and saw that she got really really fat. And then there was this goth girl who writes very very bad poetry and so i decided to keep my Facebook. Maybe someday i can use it if i become really really successful too and i could post it on there hahaha! See. Look at me, wants to be a better person but cant just yet. (Maybe when i become really successful, ill delete it and start being the best version of myself yet.) Jealousy isnt worth anyone's time. not yours, not mine either. So whenever i see those people more successful than i am, I just think to myself "i know some pretty awesome people" and that makes me cool too.
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@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Who needs that facebook? I don't want people to easily talk about my life and be updated of what is happening in me and I don't want to care what they eat and where they go all the time. So what's the deal? Okay your life is so good and my life sucks, so what?
• Penrith, Australia
11 Feb 13
That's true, it is just a medium for gossip and people making making each other feel worse about not having good lives. Its stupid, a lot of people use it though even though they know it is bad. Facebook is the opiate of the masses.
@jricky1 (6803)
• China
7 Feb 13
Life is so differnt toward different people,so thankfully we are lucky and we can do things that we'd like to pursue.Grabbing good oppotunities and being gratitude to people who helped us,and i'd really love to give some help to people who need,and make the world better.
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@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Life is different. Life has different colors. Some are lucky some are not so lucky.
@mods196621 (3630)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
That is life. SOmetimes in up and sometimes down. I am also the same of your thinking if i saw some unfortunate and most fortunate people i feel the same. But the most thing i can do now is too pray for them...have a happy day!
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@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
I feel the same and my feeling is tricky not life actually.
@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
7 Feb 13
Such is life averygirl72! One has to give thanks for what one has and the opportunities I got and feel sorry for the people who have less than one has and who did not get any opportunities in their life either!
@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
So, we still have opportunities and at times we don't get everything in life.
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
well, just don't give up trying your turn will come. Life is not tricky it is just challenging to anyone who want to try. They tried and succeed so yours is about to come keep it up.
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@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
I realized that, life can have challenges and some are given challenges others are given less challenges.
@HosmanF (93)
• Belgium
7 Feb 13
Good evening dear averygirl72 , life indeed it has its strange up and downs , and i know at least one say that is universal stating that one saddness leads to someones happinnes , strangely thats a pretty sad philosophy but i verry oftenly seen it been proofed in real life , to myself directly , members of fammilly or friends , even in the animal society i've seen that metaphore aplied , well i personnally dont endors it , i believe in individual freedom and in knowing how specially we all are . I wish you a great evening dear averygirl72. HosmanF.
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@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
Life has really strange ups and downs and quite unfair.
@lil_toni (206)
7 Feb 13
I was smiling and also thinking while reading this discussion. You have a point and I also feel that way. Sometimes, I feel down and lose hope. But I just think of happy thoughts to ease the pain and it make me feel better. We must think positively and eliminate the negativity. Be happy always. God has better plans for us. Maybe this is not the right time and God knows what best for us.
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@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
These are my questions, but as of today, I finally got the answers. There is no use to be envious and we must be contented of what we have. I see these winners will turn losers too when we all die-all the glory will be gone. The losers in life they will turn winners when they die because-all their sufferings will be over, they will have peace and rest. So, the point is we just enjoy what we have at the moment because everything is just passing, fleeting.
@govenu (90)
• India
7 Feb 13
I have also faced a lot of situations like this and I also feel a lot jealous of these people who have so much to post on the facebook and they have so many people to comment and respond to their posts. there are a lot of people who like their pictures and posts and links that they make. For me, my posts and pictures will all be avg and I will get anywhere around 30-40 likes to my pics and around 10 likes or comments to my posts or links. That way, when compared to my friends, they have all 100+ posts like, link likes n picture likes will exceed even 150+. that way, i don't know, i feel like a sheep in front of their posts. but at the same time, i have friends, for a few I am the only liker of their pics and comments, so that way I am fine. in the other aspects also , i feel the same. i see a lot of my colleagues , who earn even less than me, having all hi-fi gadgets and the latest technology, at the same time, i see people who have basic old models. I am in the middle , and so, i am satisfied with what I have. It all again sums up to the same thing i feel. You get to see 2 sides of the same coin, it depends on your personality and attitude to choose which one to look at it and decide whether you should fee happy or feel like a cursed creature for being kept deprived of a few things. I always choose to see the right way , i mean to say, the satisfactory way, because i believe that once we start seeing the wrong side, the other way, we tend to get greedy and selfish.
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@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Some people are like cursed creature you don't know why things have to be that way. Well some seems to be living all the time in roller coaster ride full of thrills. Either way, you can have so many things in life but no contentment or have few but happy and satisfied.
• India
7 Feb 13
Happens a lot to me too. But I am trying my best to stop doing it, as someone I really care a lot about and respect a lot said to me, it is much better to stop paying attention to other people, and focus on ourselves. If I am happy and content with the work I am currently doing, I will feel successful, even if I don't have the luxury of SUV and decorated home. I am not saying money is not important, hell, money can solve 98% of the problems people have, but, to focus on money instead of focusing on the work we have to do in order to be happy, is wrong. We may get few fortunes here and there, but we can never be permanently happy by that approach. Know the story of the one man not happy with his torn shoes? One day, he was walking by the pavement to find a man walking on crutch, he had no legs. We should consider ourselves always lucky and work on to get better with time, but not with the feeling of jealousy towards others, but with the feeling of upgrading ourselves only.
@averygirl72 (16728)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Hell, money can solve problems a lot often times. I will always consider myself lucky for what I have not for what I don't have.
@allknowing (84319)
• India
9 Feb 13
You need therapy Being able to accept what we cannot change, change what we can and have the wisdom to know the difference is the secret to happiness. Looking around and either getting depressed or happy is not to my mind the best way to go about living our life. It is not how much we have but what we make of what we have could also lead to happiness. I hope what I have said here that will help you averygirl!!
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 13
The worst thing, I have found with experience is to compare yourself to others, that is a slippery slope to making you feel depressed and losing your own self-worth. How do you know they are being honest about what they post? Some people are good at lying pretending to be and have everything, when in fact they have nothing, but they are not going to post this on Facebook for the world to see are they? You are special in your own way. I find it offputting when people boast and brag on Facebook, it's not an endearing quality.
• United States
7 Feb 13
Life is life. Don't compare yourself to other people, it's not worth it. Pull out the qualities that you possess and help others with your talents, don't boast about what you have but be humble. Celebrities sell a part of their soul to be famous, once they reach that pinnacle they can never the same person again. They old life is gone, they have to be somebody else just to make it through the day. Plus, at any time all their fame and wealth could be taken away. It's better to keep whom you are then sell out for who you will never be.
@chiyosan (30197)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Oh do not let yourself down comparing the life of others who seemed better than you are. Always remember that your life is not as bad as you think it is, and yes as you have said so yourself, it is in fact so much better than someone else's life. I think what you need to do is to only look at the brighter side of things. Life is good, and it can be challenging, but at least we have the chance to turn it around. * with regards to the post you made here about seeing how good your friends' life may seem when the have such wonderful activities in facebook, i would say never believe that to be constant in their life, like yours and mine our lives all changes, there are a lot of things we are going through in our lives that only we know, and that it is not perfect, never gonna happen. What they post are those that they want to boast, but it does not mean they are problem free.
@salonga (27842)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Well dear, if you wanna be happier you should learn to count your blessings everyday. Stop comparing the blessings of others with yours. Be contented with what you have. Happiness rests not on the abundance of things that you have but how you enjoy and thank God for the things that you have. Remember, in this life contentment is the key to happiness. You may not be the most blessed person in terms of material things but in non-material aspects you can be the most blessed if you only know how to count and appreciate them day by day.
@ARIES1973 (9535)
• Legaspi, Philippines
7 Feb 13
Generally, the rule of not comparing ourselves with others should apply. But on some instances, if you feel envious because others have something that you do not have, use this as a motivation for you to strive harder. Just remember that we are still lucky that we have complete set of the 5 senses. These are the greatest gifts one could ever have. That would be enough for us to think that we are being given equal opportunity. Make us of these gifts wisely. Have a nice day!
@gimong (124)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 13
It is better for us to see that there so many people which has bad luck compared to us. Look for upper us just for spirit/