Falling Inlove

Philippines
February 7, 2013 2:30am CST
Is it okay to be in love with a woman 11 years older? Shes single. I feel like she does like me. She's showing hints. And I know she knows that I like her too because she's asking some indirect questions. I'm just scared of her reaction should I admit. I don't want to lose her. Better that we stay friends than lose her. Besides, I'm not really sure If she likes me too as sometimes she just don't want to talk to me for no reasons.
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13 responses
@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
7 Feb 13
I think there's nothing wrong with that. Just go with the flow and do not rush things. She's probably that way because she also wants to be sure how to best go about this relationship with you. Welcome to myLot, by the way... I hope you will enjoy it here
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
I know age is nothing but a number. That's true. I have an older lady friend who married a guy who is I guess 13 yrs her junior. They are still together until now with a baby already. Personally, I would not choose a guy who is way older or way younger than me. I would set a range only. Although we don't really know who we fall in love with. We don't chose them, we just feel it. And I hope that will never happen to me. If I were you, try to really feel what's that you have for her. Is it really love? Or is it just infatuation?
• India
7 Feb 13
but u r not clean on yr range, in number i mean ... lol ... ve a nice day friend.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
hahah okay... I would maybe prefer those that are maybe 3 years younger than I... or if older, then.... someone who's... hmmmmn.... let me count maybe at least 5-6 years older than me... that would always depend on the person that we will get to know.
@artemeis (4194)
• China
9 Feb 13
I don't think you are really concern whether it is okay to be in love with an older woman who is 11 years your senior but WHAT YOUR PEERS WILL THINK OR SEE U n FAMILY WILL NOT ACCEPT. As far as you are concern, I believe you've already know what you want and desire her even - as far as your heart is concern. However, you are a over sensitive with what and how others see you; and there is the family's rejection which is really normal. Tell me if I am wrong here. I think before you take a dive, I believe you will need to man up and determine if she has feelings for you. It would be meaningless if you are assuming that she is interested to develop with you in the first place or even like you in the first place.
@kourdapya (924)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
I guess that's okay. Age does not really matter especially if she does not look her age, right? I think just take your time. No need to rush. Just enjoy the friendship that you have, who knows maybe what will happen next will take you by surprise. Don't worry a lot about the age thing. It's nothing, really.
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
She really dont look her age except when shes stressed out and grumpy hehehe... and the inlove would say: WHO CARES.. :)
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
9 Feb 13
Is it ok to fall in love with an 11 year younger girl? Or with someone of your own age? Is it ok to fall in love with someone with an other religion or no religion at all? Is it ok to fall in love with a foreigner? It's clear to me you don't know what "falling in love" means. This is a feeling. You are in love or not. There is nothing to choose, to control, although you can deny it.
• Indonesia
12 Feb 13
i thing it's possible for everybody to choose he/she would love to even if she/he is older then us...love is free buddy if you relly feel that you love her so what's the matter? she is older than you??? no just keep move on and catche her love,
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Welcome to myLot! If you really don't want to lose her, then check you feelings. If you like her and you think that she likes you too then wait for the right time when you can tell her about your feelings. Age doesn't matter. Since both of you are single, then there's no problem with that. I guess you should be responsible and mature enough because she's 11 years older than you. Goodluck to your love life. Happy mylotting.
@Outcast (632)
• United States
7 Feb 13
The age difference is only an issue if you let it be one. If she is showing interest then ask. She more then likely is interested. If she is the one to make you happy then go for it
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Love is something that should not be denied by age. It is not just a number of years between people. It is eelings of the heart. Your heart wil;l tell you if the feelings are real. They are not led by the age of the one you hold dear. So what if there are 11 years between you. It does not mean the relationship is doomed. It could be the best thing in your life.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
There is nothing wrong with that. Age shouldn't matter. Just try sending time with her and know her more.In time you'll realize if she is really interested to have a relationship with you. Good luck!
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Well, there's this saying that age doesn't matter. Well, it shouldn't matter for two people who are in love. Age is just a number. What matters most is what you both feel.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
I think there is no reason for you not to pursue her besides you loves her. Take it slowly and practice the process of getting to know each other stage. It is better to know each other better first than jump already into feeling which you do not know if it is already a love or just an infatuation. Better for both of you to be friends first.
• India
7 Feb 13
Congrats. You are just some inches behind a wonderful honeymoon. Plz never forget to send your invitation card. Go ahead man.