Do you follow your heart?
By wongchoiyee
@wongchoiyee (7413)
Malaysia
February 8, 2013 6:33am CST
I love to have a job where I can think my own thing, what to do next after one and another, but seems that people said 3 months probation is this stage, but I also feel after confirmation also like that, I don't like this feeling at all, like someone being control everything I do. I want a flexible working environment like we can communicate this and that freely without obligation with our employer, but seems every employers I met are very strict. Last time, mum was in hospital and I do find it lonely but somehow independent still I want to do flexible job, my heart want for it, but seems like mum still feel insecure. So, do you follow your mum advice or follow your heart?
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6 responses
@Jlyn10 (11966)
• Malaysia
14 Feb 13
Hi Choi Yee 
For me, I have to follow my heart as my mom and dad are no more around. 
You're lucky that you stil have your mom to give you advice, maybe she knows what's best for you. But then again, you are old enough to make your own decision and hopefully a wise one.
If you think that you like flexible work, you would have to prove to your mom that it will really work out for you. Moms are good at worrying for their children (young or old) whether they are financially secured or not.
I'm sure everything will work out for you. 
For me, I have to follow my heart as my mom and dad are no more around.
You're lucky that you stil have your mom to give you advice, maybe she knows what's best for you. But then again, you are old enough to make your own decision and hopefully a wise one.
If you think that you like flexible work, you would have to prove to your mom that it will really work out for you. Moms are good at worrying for their children (young or old) whether they are financially secured or not.
I'm sure everything will work out for you. 
@GreenMoo (11834)
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8 Feb 13
Following your heart is great if it also pays your way. If it doesn't, then perhaps it's time to follow your mum's advice. At the end of the day, I'm sure she has your best interests at heart although she is telling you something you don't want to hear.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
hi there wongchoiyee..
i think even if i do want to follow my mind, most of the time i still fall victim to this silly heart of mine. Often i have told myself, never again only to realize that not only a few months i am already in a very awkward position... this being the forgiving me... especially when it comes to friends and mending relationships with them (just to be clear i do not, or will never get back to an ex who cheated on me... this i am sure that i am firm).
now going to your discussion, i'd say that you should really listen to what you want when it comes to career decisions... whatever is in your heart, that is where you will be more productive. the stress would be doubled, tripled when you do not like your work as much and it would irritate you and won't make you a very happy employee.
I can only suggest you to go ahead and find the job that you want, but you should really resign when you find a replacement as you may still need to be having that pay day coming.
I wish you good luck. Have a great day and happy mylotting.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
11 Feb 13
What you desire is not entirely wrong. However, when we are serving under a employer, we are required to go by the rules and regulations set by him for our employment. We being the employees just can not alter the rules, terms and conditions as per our wishes.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Following my heart is lame! I never will do it again! It just causes more pain and frustration for me! I'm middle age now and I need security! Especially on the job! So I am not going to do something stupid I will regret in the future! My advice is be smart and don't follow your heart!
@ayushbhatia27 (18)
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8 Feb 13
i think so you should follow your heart but be rational....this attitude will surely make you successful.....
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
With such situation, think of what is most likely that can give you a peace of mind. It is hard sometimes to be put in such predicament wherein you find a good job and yet you are afraid of not being in touch of a family member. If you could not make a 9-5 job possible, then find something that you can do at home, yet would give you as much as you would actually earn from your part-time job.
