Stop the Comparison! I am not HER!

Philippines
February 10, 2013 11:35pm CST
I happened to crossed path with my ex-boyfriend again. We talked, YES and spend some time together. I am quite in the good mood, eventually, feeling nothing with the sudden reunion. Eventually I can say, I am being successful in moving on that I am not much affected of him unlike before, whom I used to be panicky whenever he's around me. It just startle me when he finally spoke about that girl whom he chooses over me that's why now he's already my ex. Suddenly, my mood changed when he keeps on telling me that I am far different from that girl. "She's pretty. She's slim. She wakes up early for my coffee. She didn't have to be told to arranged my stuff. She doesn't complain. She's gentle and ladylike. She's far more better than you!" That's what he meant for every single word he dropped over me! You know that feeling of wanting to punch him in the face? I really love to do that to him that very moment for the fact that I don't deserve any of these comparison! Even a single bit, I don't deserved any of his words towards me that very moment! And yes! I am far more different from that girl. I am not that pretty but I am a true friend. I never pretended to be someone whom I'm not; being kind and all of that when in the end, a backstabber! Yes! I am not gentle and ladylike for I am frank and straightforward! I don't have to do such demurring acts just for my ex to like me again; being so pretentious when in the end, a total flirt! Yes! I am a complainer because I know my limits. I don't want people to abuse another people just like you abusing me before, that's why I complain and complain and complain; and also I am not the kind of person tolerating people to be lazy! Yes! I am not slim but I am proud to be a chubby girl of my family. Besides, Its not a hindrance for me, as long as I am happy with what I am and who I am; size/weight;height, any of that doesn't matter because I am happy and the people who adores me loves me for what and who I am! And yes! I didn't woke up early to brew you coffee but I definitely fought for you when my family is against you! I defended my love and you from them for us to be legal which that girl can't do to you! Up until now, you're waiting for that girl to fight for you, right? she tells you that she loves you but can't commit to you and let you wait? and can't post pictures of the both of you and you're expecting her to fight for you? Oh common! So now, I really can say that she's better than me! Really better! Pardon me for sharing this Mylotters. I just wanted to blurt this out for me to be at ease. Now, I can say that I don't have to stress myself with people like them, when eventually I am already over it. It's not my problem anymore I know, but him comparing me to that girl when we're already over was such a stupid move of him! I just can't help myself! But definitely I can say, that both of them deserved each other, right? :)
6 responses
@Lucky12 (767)
• United States
11 Feb 13
Yep they do, because he is horrible from just reading what you have said. I cannot believe he would say arrange his stuff lol. So what she wakes up for coffee and his point is? See yeah he was right when he said that you are not like her, because you are different and you will make someone else very happy one day. Some men cannot see good women until they are gone. He more than likely tells her all that stuff too and then later you will see him divorced and you will be happily married. Trust me I know I went through this stuff as well. Now I am happily married and doing fine. Leave him where he is and I would not even talk to him anymore, because basically he wanted to just see you to tell you that in my opinion. Most women like that do that for a short time and then when they have that guy later like maybe a few months to a year they change, so d not worry about it girl. You will find someone that will treat you the way you need to be treated.
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@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
I do understand how you feel. And I think that he was so insensitive to be saying those remarks in front of you. Why, of all people does he have to tell all those things about the girl? You should have punched him if I were you. He should know what to say and what not to say.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
11 Feb 13
Your ex sounds rather shallow if you ask me and you're better off without him. Fancy comparing you to his new woman like that. Scumbag..and I would DEFINITELY punch him in the face!
@Angelpink (4031)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Oh my God ! As if he is not gentleman ! He had spoken like that in your front ? He is not a real man ! He is not worthy for you , he got no values . No one has the right to compare anyone to the other , we are all unique and beautiful in our own ways . We got the attribute whom other's don't have and vice versa ! Now if he did that to you ,then put an end to everything , he is not even worthy of a smile and to be treasured . Leave him , he doesn't know how to value you and your emotion , actually maybe he doesn't have loved you because if he did he couldn't have afford to hurt you verbally. Find a real man that knows how to value you , i am sure one awaits for you.
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Whew! You might have moved on but I know it still hurts especially coming from him. You should just have acknowledged him by a nod, nothing more.
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Thanks for sharing your hurt feeling towards your rubbish ex. I guess it is good to say hi or hello when you happen to cross roads with exes. But then, talking more than and hi or hellos is a red flag. I guess it will just hurt you both to talk again about your past. I guess it is a nature to compare, but to tell it to you is not so gentleman. Furthermore, if we look into the brighter side , Just take it as a challenge. Why not try to be slim, make yourself prettier than before. Not complain,serve your next boyfriend as he is the king of the world. Just make it as a challenge and sure your next love one will adore you.