I love being married, but I enjoyed being single too

@34momma (13882)
United States
February 11, 2013 10:52am CST
My husband and I have been together for 9 years and we will be married for almost a year in April. I love my husband. He is my best friend and true life partner. However, I was never the kind of girl who needed to be in a relationship. I always enjoyed being single and having that time to myself for myself. Are you the kind of person who needs to be in a relationship, or are you okay with being single?
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• United States
13 Feb 13
I was convinced that I could Never be loved for myself so i never looked for a boyfriend. So my time was my time to do what I pleased. But three years ago my guy found And fell for me! He gave me all the space I needed. See we were friends first. And now he Still gives the space I need. You Can have both.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
13 Feb 13
It's so good to be friends first. You get to know each other on a different level. good for you. I wish you and your guy all the very best
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• United States
14 Feb 13
Thank you. Happy Valentine's Day!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
I am okay being alone sometimes, but having a partner is something that would make my life brighter. I guess, I just need somebody to cheer me up and somebody whom I can show my love as well. Being single can be missed sometimes, but when you feel satisfied and contented having your partner, then you'd probably say that you'd like being in a relationship. But of course, being in a relationship should not tie you down. You should still have time to be with your friends.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
12 Feb 13
There are perks in both situations. however going into a relationship to feel complete or to make your life better is such a bad idea. You should always going into a relationship whole, happy, and with a bright life. Then only together can you both experince all the love and happiness. You both must be give 100% all the time
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
Ideally yes, but of course, life isn't perfect. But we try to have a real good relationship.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
12 Feb 13
I don't know anymore. I've been married for 7 years now, and we have a child, and I don't think I am the same person I was when we got married. I'm too used to having a partner and somebody to lean on, and right now with a child and each of us working full time I don't think I could run my life with us separate.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
12 Feb 13
Trust me my friend. YOu can do anything you put your mind too. yes having a loving supportive partner who is there for you and helps you.. Is amazing. I love my husband for doing all he does for me and our family. But before I met him, I was a single mother of 2 boys for 14 years. We are all adapt to what we have to so we can take care of our families.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
I am married too for almost 7 years but there are times that even we love our husband very much as a wife we still need a time and space for ourselves. Where we can do anything we want and we can go anywhere we want like we used to be when we were still single. Sometimes due to busy schedule taking care of our family and household chore we forgot deal with our own needs as a women. I am just glad that my husband gave me a permission to go out alone once a week were I can do anything on my own without thinking of anything.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
11 Feb 13
I have never need permission to go out or do what i need to do. but yes you are so right, we do need that time for ourselves to just be. to focus on us.
• Ireland
11 Feb 13
I'm very much a relationship type person but I don't mind being single, it does have it's perks lol.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
11 Feb 13
They both have their perks. I love my husband and I enjoying being married. but i will say this, If we have got ended our marriage, i would never get married again.
• Ireland
12 Feb 13
I personally don't get that but as I say I prefer being in a relationship then not but sure everyone is different.
• India
12 Feb 13
I am married to but I recognize I love to be single much more than a married one and that is just because my man is not a man that i wanted. so wwhen life goes with force I wish of time that i was single.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
12 Feb 13
why would you marry a man you didn't want to marry?
@dlkuku (1935)
• United States
11 Feb 13
I'm divorced, but have a boyfriend. We don't live together, which is fine by me. I still have my space, and yet I have him to do things with. He is great, even cooks for me, takes care of me, and maybe some day we will get married, but right now, I am happy with the way things are. I am in no hurry to get married again.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
11 Feb 13
good for you. I think everyone who ends any relationship should be single for at least a year after. to give you time to heal your mind, body, and soul. to grive and move on with your life
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
11 Feb 13
Once I might have been but I have had bad relationships, was the only one Always investing in it. In the end you find out you have no time for yourself anymore. It's not only because of the children, they ask for way less attention as a man does. So I was happy to divorce (22 years ago), happy as I ended the relationship with my ex bf after years of waiting, cheating, hoping, Always making time for him but never came to me. I love to be single although I did remarry but the good news is my husband lives in an other continent. It was his wish to get married because it makes him feel more "important" or belong to the society. I still have my single live most of the time which I really need, to be honest I am also counting the days my children don't need me anymore. It really scares me if I think for how long I still have to take care of them, after that my life is over. So I started to do what I like again, and I will do so more and more every day. I don't have the time and energy anymore to Always invest in others. I need to be with me.. plus I want to be free.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
11 Feb 13
Ouch Wakeupkitty... you make being a wife and mother sound like being in jail. My oldest is 23 and he lives on his own. But I will always be his mom and looking out for him when he needs me. Like you, I am ready for my other two children to be on their own. But I don't ever want to be "free" of mothering them. that's just me
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
11 Feb 13
Many feel that way. I hate to be alone. But sometimes its best.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
11 Feb 13
you have to first love being in your own company if you ever want someone else to enjoy it
@Janurmas (642)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 13
I am okay being a single. But, sometimes I want a partner to enjoy life together. I think there is the time to be happy being a single, and there is the time to get married to someone we love and trust. Until now, I am not planning to get married, because I am still not established in term of financial.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
11 Feb 13
I don't think you need to be married to be happy. of course it's great to have someone to share life with, but that doesn't equal happiness. Happiness comes from inside of you, not inside of someone else