Entitlement complex?
@TheDemonicAngel (699)
United States
February 14, 2013 12:30am CST
I wasn't sure what I should call this but I feel that this is the best description for it.
So anyways, I am a black woman currently I am engaged to a white man that I love very much. Not sure if this happens with any other race of men besides those of my heritage but I do hear and see a lot of black men feel like they are entitled to black women.
Whenever there is a black woman with another race of man I will hear a black man say something along the lines of "You must haven't gotten it" or "Why are you with him when you can have all of this?". I have seen some men actually grab at their junk dictating what they "could" possibly offer better than the man that the black woman is with.
I have been asked the question of why I am not with a black man and the answer is quite simple. Although I am attracted to black men (light skinned black men mind you) they, black men, aren't attracted to me. So I choose to date and will marry a white man because he was actually attracted to me and treats me very well.
So has anyone really noticed or can tell me why black men feel like they are entitled to us black women? Because I find it highly immature and a complete turn off.
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@lacieice (2060)
• United States
14 Feb 13
The heart wants what the heart wants. You are entitled to love whoever you choose.
I may be way off base with this next comment, but here goes. A long, long time ago when I was a very young lady, I was told that the black race was committed to "overcoming" all other races in the U. S. by having many children and keeping their race 'pure'. Perhaps these black men feel that you are betraying your race by not keeping it pure. Like I said, I may be totally wrong, but since I was told about this idea of 'overcoming', I imagine many of the black race have tried to follow it.
I also realize that the idea of "overcoming" could just as well, and probably does, mean overcoming discrimination and achieving their civil rights. I just wonder if both ideas could be correct.
@TheDemonicAngel (699)
• United States
15 Feb 13
You are not off base at all with your comments; I love to hear the views of others and I have also heard that as well but back then I was very young and wasn't really paying attention.
As I said before, black men aren't really attracted to me. Not sure if it is the way I look or my sense of humour or what have you, but I have always had better luck with men of a different race. Except for African men oddly enough, because Africans in general want nothing to do with black people because we are not "pure".
A crossbred child will be black as long as one of the parents is such. So my children with my husband will be considered black before they are considered anything, although is they are anything like me they could pass for white or Asian.
@eagletrek2 (5514)
• Kingston, New York
14 Feb 13
Hi in.my Area I see more black guys
Dating or married to whites ladies.
I call the guys you are talking about
Archie Bunker complex all in the family
TV show. This is how I see it
It not the color of skin it the soul
When you find your soul mate
That the one to me souls have no
Color.
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
14 Feb 13
I am Filipino with Chinese descent,but I like a woman who may also not just love me of who I am but also like me because I am me.Most Chinese descent here prefers to choose a partner in their own skin,and you know what I mean.Just like a Filipino girl
family like to find a guaranteed person to give her all that she wanted in life.I think that is the essence of all of us to have a good life.You have your own choice to pick your boyfriend who might not belong to your race,but who care,as long as you both share the equality of love,share the blessings,that is what I call everlasting feelings--you can grab him baby and the whole world is with you.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
14 Feb 13
I think that these black men is somehow having an inferiority complex over those white male. They might be envious of the acceptance you had from the white man's society. And you are very well aware that there are still a lot of people who could be a racist. And you being accepted is one thing they think they could never had.
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
14 Feb 13
I have no idea about the character of black men,but all i know is that, strictly speaking love happens anytime and anywhere,so we cannot choose the person we love, love happens in unexpected moments and unplanned feeling.
Happy Heart's Day!
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
14 Feb 13
no one and i mean no one no or ever has the right to impose such a thing love has color god put us here to love and and not be judge you have my support any time Pastor David
@WildHorses (718)
• United States
14 Feb 13
My mother used to say to me, "Cada uno con su pareja." It means to each be with their own. There is a but to this though. She said but as long as you treat each other with respect and love then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I was raised on the theory that we let our hearts rule our path in this world and that not much can go wrong.
I, also, learned over the years that it is true men react as badly as you state but it isn't just with blacks. I remember watching a show a long time ago on this and those who felt the strongest about staying within your race were black people. It's what we have mostly been raised on for generations going way far back.
I mostly feel that in my opinion it's a threat to their insecurities as a man within the same race. My parents would have preferred if we had all married a Cuban. It just didn't happen that way. Most married a Mexican and a couple of us went from Mexican to white men.
I think black men who have this complex though are hypocritical because I have seen couples where the man is black and their partner is either white, Asian, or Mexican.
