I don't know who gave me 1 stem of rose and a chocolate
By Metatronik
@Metatronik (6198)
Pasay, Philippines
February 14, 2013 7:08pm CST
I am sure it was not my boyfriend who gave me that because he knows that I don't like flowers nor an avid fan of bouquet and he is not someone who will give me chocolate. When I entered my bedroom there was 1 stem of rose on the bottle with water and with chocolate. I am not that overwhelmed of that mysterious gift because I know it came from one of the members of my family. I didn't bother to ask just to say thank you. I just let that be or didn't replace it anywhere, and I just place the chocolate inside the ref that later on I am going to eat it.
I still want to project or show that giving me gifts will not change everything. I know it was the thought that counts here but there are other moral values that I need to my life which is RESPECTING ME as a person and woman which I will bring it for the rest of my life. Materials can be gone for just days, weeks, months or year but not how I was being treated. I don't want to be fooled just because of the materials. I don't want to experience the normal days wherein I am always hearing negative comments which makes me weak. It is better that it was not the normal wherein I am in peace that I am not hearing negative and insulting remarks from my family. Understanding me as a person is another important thing which they don't want to listen. As I've already obeyed their request that I should talk to them then unfortunately it was just failed because I thought they will understand but it still end up into argument.
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@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
I have always been the type myself that does not like flowers. i thought it should just be kept (its too expensive) and just be used for something better. But honestly speaking even though i am practical i would still appreciate receiving a rose or a bouquet once in a while. It would show me how thought ful a person is and that i was remembered. I would know who put it there, and who it was from. the person would want to know how you felt about the gifts you received, right? I think it was your partner/husband because it was in your bed.... probably just a surprise that our men would do to show how much they love us even if they know we do not want these things.
There are many ways people show their love - yes material is not everything and it will wither, it may be consumed, it will go away.. but then as i have said people show their love differently, others spend time with you, others love to make you feel special by the gifts they give you, others by showing they want to help you with everything they do and all. It all boils down to appreciating every efforts made by our partners even if we may feel that they are unnecessary.
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
18 Feb 13
I am sure it was not my boyfriend and of course the rose and chocolate was not on the bed but on the table. I appreciate the thought but I will just have to keep it to myself rather than showing it for just one day then after that it will turn to horrible normal days. I would rather accept the normal basis that can make me emotionally strong rather than giving me material things which are just temporary.1 person likes this
@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
18 Feb 13
btw, of course my boyfriend can't make it during that day since he has work and I am a bit far in terms of living.
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@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
I can completely understand you. I know that you feel bad and that receiving those gifts would never change your mind unless you see that the people around you do make some changes themselves. And I have felt the same way, too. I am also not into flowers. And I feel that it is just like putting on a show by giving something that coincides the occasion and yet the reality of it all is that everything is masked up only for the special day.
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
18 Feb 13
My boyfriend is not like that of being fond giving gifts to show the real love. I really feel that everyday he is giving me gifts because of his moral values, good treatment, respecting me as woman, motivating me and other more of helping me to be a better person. It is like in television series of showering gifts but then the real score there is they are violent, which can also happen in real life situation that they are fond of giving too much gift but their attitude are still the same that can ruin the relationship.
Therefore there is nothing difference in family that sometimes parents thought that giving them financial support is already enough. Which is NO that is not the true responsibility of parents, they must be supportive and patient enough on how to handle their children. More so they shouldn't put their children down in times of being failed or unsuccessful in chosen field.
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@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
18 Feb 13
My boyfriend is not like that of being fond giving gifts to show the real love. I really feel that everyday he is giving me gifts because of his moral values, good treatment, respecting me as woman, motivating me and other more of helping me to be a better person. It is like in television series of showering gifts but then the real score there is they are violent, which can also happen in real life situation that they are fond of giving too much gift but their attitude are still the same that can ruin the relationship.
Therefore there is nothing difference in family that sometimes parents thought that giving them financial support is already enough. Which is NO that is not the true responsibility of parents, they must be supportive and patient enough on how to handle their children. More so they shouldn't put their children down in times of being failed or unsuccessful in chosen field.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
15 Feb 13
I think most probably it must be someone who like you very much or a fan of yours. I hope the person who gave you rose and chocolate most probably will come in front of you and tell that person have given you chocolate and rose.
@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Feb 13
I don't know if you have read my whole post. How I wish it was my fun who gave that or a secret admirer if any. I am sure it is not coming from outside. Because if that is the case then I would know who. Well who else will enter my bedroom. No strangers can do that.1 person likes this
@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Feb 13
I understand though materials are not always meant of everything. I would only thank that person if he will change his attitude into positive. All I want is the motivation that can make me positive.
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@mondaylover (183)
• Poland
15 Feb 13
Seeing the title of this post I thought it will contain some romantic story about secret admirer but it turned out to be about someone's hurt ambitions. That's just a nice gesture so you shouldn't think about it too much. I would be happy if I got a present like that.
But I wonder if that kind of gift fits a family member? Maybe it really was some secret admirer that sneaked into your room? Your boyfriend will be jealous! Wouldn't that be cool? Guess that kind of things happen only in books...
@Metatronik (6198)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Feb 13
I think even our maids had given a chocolate and roses too, I saw it they have roses too on one vase though the chocolate was different brand. If that was my mom who gave that then of course I would be happy for it.
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