Is it Possible

United States
February 15, 2013 1:05am CST
I had one love in my life I thought would last through eternity. I don't know if I was just that infatuated... obviously I was since it didn't last more than a year. I really miss that feeling of love though. I often wonder how I will over come that tragic loss. I never have though it was many years now. I don't trust well. I think that a lot of people will find love in life but me it isn't going to find. I feel I'll be skipped over and missed. In life I've missed out on a lot already, why not add love to that list?
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@kprofgames (3098)
• United States
15 Feb 13
I think as we grow and mature our expectations change. I know what I thought was love wasn't. I was never more lonely then when I was married. Because it was an awful marriage trust was a huge issue with me. But, when I wasn't looking for anything is when I found something. I enjoy the companionship right now but not in any hurry for it to go anywhere. Maybe that is still a trust issue but taking it slow has given me more then jumping into something that can't handle. In short: We will love several times in our life You can't truely love until you open up and opening up means trusting It's a risk but we can't experience any possibilities if we don't take risks We experience greater love from others when we love ourselves You are young and I don't want to put some bogus statement out there that 'it's never too late' because the more I look at it is when we're ready to truely love a person and them us, that is when we'll stumbled across a person and it will stick.
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• United States
16 Feb 13
A lot of good insight in there I think, thank you. I too have some small issues with trust but I think from the past I've learned not to let that be an issue to the point I was letting it be. With the right person trust wouldn't be an issue, you would think. Though its cliche to say it isn't too late, life keeps moving and we never know what could be, really.
• United States
17 Feb 13
Absolutely! With the right person trust isn't an issue!! That right there speaks volumes.
• United States
22 Feb 13
It makes sense to me at least if you're with the right person well there shouldn't be a trust issue.
• Indonesia
15 Feb 13
Dear twin, it is 6am in my country and Im getting ready to work but I want to share something with you. I know how you feel, I've been there before. Well, my love life is not perfect. I thought I had a perfect boyfriend years ago, but then we broke up because we both have a high ego and self pride. The broke up wasn't nice thou, I stopped looking for lover for a while not because I dont believe in love or such thing but the problem is in me...I'm so hard to please, it's hard to find someone that can suits me, Im not good looking and not attractive enough for the guys to look at me. And then I had an accident, I survive but somehow I changed a lot, I have PTSD (Post Trauma Stress Disorder) I feel flat and emotionally numb). This is where I found myself unable to identify emotions, unable to feel it, I feel so distant from everyone. I don't care about relationship or love anymore although sometime I envy those who has found their soulmates, I told myself ready to live as a single for the rest of my life. I want to tell you about someone new in my life, we are not officially in relationship but I feel happy and calm whenever I'm with him. It started when I meet my old friends again, short of reunion, and this guy was and is one of my best friends. I dont know twin, sometime I still feel this emotional numbness but he promised we will cure it together. So dont ever lose hope, perhaps he is someone you never thought for love. I have to go to work. see you.
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• United States
15 Feb 13
Thank you twin for stopping by to share this with me before you went to work, I appreciate it. I'm glad you were okay from that accident you had... even though you have a numbness of emotion I think its just good you're alive and well. I hope your friend and yourself can get through it together like you hope to. It sounds like a nice thing that's happening for you with him. I'm not sure something so nice is in store for me in the future. Though we don't ever know what the future holds for us. I won't lose complete hope for this in life, I'll still have my doubts til it happens.
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• Indonesia
16 Feb 13
Thank you I hope you will find him soon. I was like you, but then everything changed slowly. By the way...he told my Godmother that he has liked me since before I had a boyfriend. ew that is about 4 years then. Love will find way
• United States
16 Feb 13
That's nice for you I'm glad. I don't see it now but I don't think it is completely impossible...
@jenny1015 (13376)
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
Don't lose hope, echo. I am sure that the right person for you will come.I am sure it will be all worth the wait.
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• Penrith, Australia
15 Feb 13
That's right, one day you will find the one and they aren't afraid to show you how much they love you. They're supposed to be waiting at the end of the road as reward for all the heartache and loneliness. You desreve them. You've earned that kind of love. They will make sense or ever and won't ever want to leave you behind.mim telling you this not because it is true but because it NEEDS to be true. We are all entitled to this kind of love. So. Its worth a shot.
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• United States
15 Feb 13
Thank you and I hope you're right in saying this. In life we do deserve one great love. Especially with all the pain in the world and all we have to go through by ourselves until or if we find that one love. Until that time I'm going to try to keep my hopes up like you say. It can't be good going through life with a heart filled with "I don't think it will ever happen."
@jenny1015 (13376)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
Just don't focus too much on waiting for that love. Don't look for it. It will find you!
@missjahn (4576)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
well, about my story - i am in a stable relationship right now. but i guess, sometimes, the length of your relationship will be misused or shall i say being abused in some way. it is because too confidence in one partner may leads to actuation of being negligence of once responsibility to your partner. so i can say that some of the rumors of the married person is true like the relationship you have with your partner is sibling - like. i guess i am a passionate person, i want to stay sweet and my partner does the same. the spark of love will be as ease like of the first meeting and so. so that is why, i just like to share this thing to everyone
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• United States
16 Feb 13
That's a good thing to keep your relationship fresh. That's another reason I wonder about love in life is that it might become an every day thing os much that you don't know or love the person how you once did. How you describe to keep it sweet or passionate taht sounds good. Hopefully then at least you're doing something to keep it different for you.
@missjahn (4576)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
because i hate to see couples in the house when they acted like a simple acquaintance. would it hurt someone when you just stop and give a smack to your partner or just give a warm hug and restore and make the relationship like a brand new one always. i hate to hear that there would be no dates anymore or such things. gosh :)
• United States
20 Feb 13
I understand what you mean, I've seen it happen many times.
@aqirock (857)
• Malaysia
15 Feb 13
I was in love so many times and it didn't turned out well, now already one year after my last in being love, well not because I'm give up but I have noone that can be tought as a special one, anyway wish you found your truth love
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• United States
15 Feb 13
I hope I truly do have a real love in life. I never have gotten over the one who i lost. its probably holding me back from seeing others though.
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• United States
22 Feb 13
You're quite right about all of that Avijit, sometimes some people go through life and their relationships never really feeling what love is like. I do think I felt that in at least one of my relationships. Now I miss it though.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
15 Feb 13
Everyone deserves love, you do too. You deserve to look for it, if that is what you want, but you must be ready to accept it when it comes your way. Its true that there are times where in you might feel very overwhelmed or you might not believe it when you realize that there is a person who actually loves you for who you are and wants nothing more than to be with you, however, you should be able to embrace that unconditional caring with your own. Wrap your arms around them and know that you are a good person. You are worthy of such joy. You deserve not to question everyone who gives you a compliment or tells you that you are really wonderful as you are. You deserve not to think that they might have an ulterior motive towards you. You should realize that you are worth loving because you are ready to love back. Sometimes we can feel so weak but then know that moments of weakness does not make you fundamentally weak, only fundamentally human.
• United States
15 Feb 13
You're very enthusiastic and encouragingin in this matter, thank you. It is a breath of fresh air for someone who feels a little lost at sea in the whole matter. The pains of love really are harsh sometimes but so are the rewards that are deep and beyond measure. Its either sink or swim. I think I will... doggie paddle...
• Penrith, Australia
15 Feb 13
I have to. i might come accross unlikeable but i think people love you and they don't. That's how humans are. They are very fickle creatures. Sometimes a relationship ending has nothing to do with you, its a waste of time to feel unlovable afterwards because chances are you will fall in love again. The main thing standing in your way is not your perceived shortcomings but fear.
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• United States
16 Feb 13
From our interactions I don't find you unlikable at all! Though I see what you mean with all of it. As humans we shouldn't blame ourselves or really the other person because we are fickle in nature... our minds change a lot about everything, even love.
@allknowing (86828)
• India
15 Feb 13
I suggest that you keep this discussion stored somewhere. Things change echo; the base changes. A changed base can bring in new possibilities. You need to put in a bit of effort to change that base.
• United States
15 Feb 13
I have been thinking along the same lines myself. Small movements toward change can take us far. Maybe it will finally lead me in the direction I need to be going!
@allknowing (86828)
• India
16 Feb 13
I think I have been hearing this "I need to be going!" ever since I have met you here. Pretty boring. Right?
• United States
16 Feb 13
I'm not sure what you meant... I usually discuss well right?
@kourdapya (926)
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
Of course, love is one of the most wonderful thing in life. Everyone has to experience it at least once. Since you already had, don't lose that hope of finding one again. Even if you don't find it, love will find you, just like what I've experienced. I wish you all the luck and may you be happy forever!
• United States
15 Feb 13
It is as the saying goes. "When you least expect it, love happens". I should stop expecting it then? I think I already have though. I don't expect to fall in love again any time soon and I don't expect it to be anything like I hear about. I haven't exactly lost hope it just seems far fetched now...
• Penrith, Australia
15 Feb 13
Thats a bit tricky as when you follow that saying. Well, you're still expecting then. Well, i can tell you though that my mom is 50. And she's got more suitors than i have. And... She's getting married to someone within this year, and that someone is a hot very stable guy. And he's really nice too. My point is, it is never too late for love.
• United States
15 Feb 13
that's a nice success story for your mom, good for her!
@Aja103654 (5651)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
If you feel like you are missing out, you find a way to make up for it as soon as possible. Sulking in a corner alone is not gonna help. I know that from experience, haha! I'm a bit of a recluse myself. I think love is possible for everyone. Just because you did not find it yet doesn't mean you won't ever. Losing faith in love is... half failure, so that should be changed too.
• United States
20 Feb 13
You're right, I will keep the faith. I am not in the mopey stage at all except sometimes every once in awhile I really miss love in my life from a special someone.
@Aja103654 (5651)
• Philippines
20 Feb 13
That is a natural feeling. We are humans and we have this need to be loved and accepted. As long as you are doing something about it and not lose hope, everything will turn out well in the end.
@cmania (207)
• Portugal
15 Feb 13
-_- you´re to young to think you´ll be a forever alone echo ! Sorry for your lost but things happen right ? I guess it was bad losing it but one day in your backyard you´ll find a wierd guy and you´ll ask yourself o.o is this dude homeless to be in my backyard doing whatever ?
• United States
15 Feb 13
You're too funny Cat! Yay your first response in myLot was on my topic, I'm so happy!! I hope the guy is mowing my lawn since he's in my backyard?
• Penrith, Australia
15 Feb 13
Yeah and maybe he could "call you maybe"
@dorannmwin (36651)
• United States
20 Feb 13
When I got married to my husband almost nine years ago, one of my best friends told me that she was jealous of me because I was able to find a good man to spend the rest of my life with and she felt like she was going to be alone for the rest of her life. I assured her that the right person for her was out there somewhere and I was sure that she would eventually meet him. She was lucky enough to eventually meet him and they were married for just over five years before she passed away. Don't give up on love because I really do believe that you will eventually find love in your life.
• United States
20 Feb 13
I hope you and the others here who have said the same, are right. Maybe its just not my time in life yet.
• Pamplona, Spain
16 Feb 13
Hiya echo, Know that feeling but don´t give up as life is love itself. It is always around us though we cannot see the forest for the trees. Only advice I can give you is not to give up try not to focus too much on the other one. We all have broken pieces of friendships, love in our lives. Its a matter of carrying on going forward and its not easy. xxx
• United States
20 Feb 13
I haven't quite reached the point of giving up. I've felt a time or two i almost said love isn't for me. But it sjust hard being alone all the time.
@tyleremy (170)
• China
16 Feb 13
It is not easy to forget someone you love.But you are still capable of finding your love again.The only matter is the Time.Some times you don't marry to the one you love, you marry to the one who is right for you.
• United States
16 Feb 13
Yes sometimes that's a factor. Hopefully there is love as well not just because of the convienience.
@Hatley (164170)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Feb 13
hi echoforever I found my tue love art work he walked in tol help; nme make a s urgical bed. He said"Im the new orderly they sent me t o help; you make this surgical be. He had sparkling eyes and a grin and six weeks larter I married him laughing e es and all lnd ofr better or worse we had 33 years together before he had a sudden fatal heart attack in 1991 so I have been widowed a long time. I was 31 and he was 37 and we had love at first sight and it lasted too. yoy will find y our love one day just wait and see.
• United States
16 Feb 13
Its so nice to hear those kinds of love success stories. My grandparents are one as well being maried over 50 years and still both alive. I would love to have that in life. I won't expect it but who knows what life may bring.
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
I am happy now with my present relationship! $ years ago I had a boyfriend and we were together for almost 4 years. He was my college boyfriend and we made plans together and I really thought that I will end up marrying him. I don't have any regrets that it didn't happen because I know that God has better plans for me and so my present boyfriend came unexpectedly. Well, I had other bf's first before he came. We have up's and down's sometimes I feel giving up but at the end of the day I realized that he is worth keeping =) I hope you can find yours too.. I know God had reserved the best for you =)
• United States
15 Feb 13
I hope you're right in saying this. I believe there's someone for everyone. I just wonder if I will find them! This world is huge you know. Unless God plops them right in front of me I may never know it. Then I'll be stuck forever alone and unhappy. Maybe not unhappy, I suppose I was being a bit over dramatic.
@hsofyan (3447)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
15 Feb 13
In love with someone only a small part of your life. You still have a lot of love, and many other people who love you. Love never goes out while you are alive.
• United States
15 Feb 13
Yes I know there can be many loves in life. Mine though that I describe I really felt a very deep connection with. I felt we could have lasted for all of our years together... though given the obvious less than a year together... i was just going off really wrong infatuation feeling...
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