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By fearlessgara
@fearlessgara (1113)
Philippines
February 16, 2013 5:32am CST
My aunt have several friends when she have a lots of money before.Almost everyday there is always a visitor in our house and we always prepare food special for them.Anyway it is also part of us being Filipino whether friend, relatives or not being Hospitable to a visitor.It seems like before that My aunt is a friend of everyone.Everywhere we go ( When sometimes she told me to go with her to go to groceries ) and there are always a person who first greet her. Sometimes they do sleep in the house,and most of them when they go out with my Aunt.My aunt is always the one who pay for all their expenses .Some of them lend money to my aunt and most of them do not pay my aunt. Now Since life is not permanent and My Aunt now was separated with my Uncle and all Her properties was gone . It seems like she is living alone in an Island, and those friend that who are with her before seems like she wasn't recognize nor remember her. Instead , they gossip on her situation now. This is also the reason why I myself was discourage to have a friend. I better consider my family to be my friend too and here in social sites like this my lot instead of others who are around me.Now us, her family who haven't her treated and help as the same thing the way she treated and given to her friends was the one one who are with her during tough situation.Now I realize once more beside on my own experienced and with my aunt that she have friend that is not really friend but a 'USER' because now that she have nothing and they think that they haven't anymore benefits making friend with my auntie so they don't need my Aunt in their life .And they forgot all the good thing that My aunt even us showed to them and the help that they received.
4 responses
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
17 Feb 13
Your aunt doesn't need anyone of those people because if they only came around when she had money then they weren't her real friends any way. Only the ones that stay with her through the rough times and don't ask for anything from her but help her are her true real friends and family. I saw on a t.v. talk show once a lady that said she as so poor she was living in a motel and couldn't even afford to keep her stuff in storage anymore. Then one day she wins the lottery and millions of dollars. Then all of a sudden she gets calls and visitors saying i'm your long lost friend or i'm your relative. She said to them you were not here for me when i was down and out and poor and needed the help so you are not getting anything from me. Then she told them goodbye. This is what your aunt needs to do with those users is tell them goodbye she doesn't need them. I'm very glad she has you to be there for her. Your a great family member to her.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
17 Feb 13
There are really a lot people whom we think are our friends. But in reality, they are just there during good times and when you are down, they are nowhere in sight.
My husband ran for a local post. There were a lot of people who seemed to show their love and concern for him. I was against him running but he said that it was his "friends'who encourage him. Well, I thought, "yeah, right!" They think that my husband was rich like his parents. And all they were actually after was the help that my husband would give them in terms of money whenever they need it.
Unfortunately, my husband did not win. And so after the election, they were never found. If they were really his friends, they could have sent a message on his birthday or Christmas, right?
@iluvusabado (2559)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
i'm sad with what happened with your aunt. she only lost her material things and the people she considers friends betrayed her. i guess they were never real friends but leeches who want to suck everything they can from your aunt. and when she has nothing left, they would just transfer to another potential host. anyways, she still has her family to support and love her.
though your aunt had a bad experience, i think you should never be discouraged to find real friends. it's a case to case basis. there are still people aside from your family who would love you for who and what you are. you just have to be careful in treating them.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
16 Feb 13
having money is wonderful but how to spend money is really important . a person has money is like a sweet cake and people who come to make friendship just for money are like flies around the sweet cake. well, It is not that way to pay money levishly and for anybody like that. sometimes we do mistakes and for that we blame on another ones. It is good to spend with friends and pay some money but if it goes out of limit real friends also will change color to a fraud friend that as much as you can pay he or she will be your frined and when your money finished all of them they will leave you. so it is really too important who is our friend and how to spend money.
