I ran away from my grandma.

Penrith, Australia
February 17, 2013 5:23am CST
My grandmother receives pension every month, but last month a form came into the mail where in she is required to accomplish so they can still continue financing her. She didnt have connections and didnt want to do it herself so she asked me and my mom to do it. We did it. But we never knew that she had to show the form to the bank to get her money, we just submitted the form. So she went to the bank, they didnt give her money. Now my grandma hates me for it. But i could do anything as today is a Sunday. Offices are closed on Sundays. She wants it fixed right now ASAP. My mom is out of the country at the moment and i already talked to someone on the phone to have it done. I told her these conditions but then she took it negatively that i didnt want to act on her pension. I blurted out that my mom is a really busy person and so am i, if she wanted something to be done about her things her way, she could have done it herself like all the other elderly people in our neighborhood. Then she got angrier as she told me that i had no sense of gratitude for not putting any efforts on her money and she has only been putting up with us since the beginning. Then she started cursing and calling me stupid and degrading my personality. So i walked out of the room. I took my bags, packed, brought my little brother, took the car. Now I'm at a friends place and she has super fast Internet. I contacted my mom with what i did, and she was like "now you understand what i feel" To be honest, i do feel bad about leaving, but i dont think what i did was wrong. I told my mom i shouldn't have left but she was like "I feel more at ease that you're in ******'s house" i feel bad for disrespecting my grandma, but i dont want to let her step on my personality like that. My brother has school tomorrow but he forgot his school at at the house. I dont plan on returning without my grandma's pension form. What to do?
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
You are brave to be able to talk to your grandma that way. Coz, I don't think that I could ever do such thing even if my grandma was just like yours. But of course, you might be having some bigger issues other than just that incident to have caused you to pack up. Anywa, if you are decided not to stay with her anymore, I think you need to get all your stuff from her house. Well, atleast just be kind enough to ask her to allow you to get all what has been left.
• Penrith, Australia
18 Feb 13
I am really hoping that what i did was brave and not stupid at all. That's right, there were bigger issues between our family and my grandma. I have a feeling that we wouldn't be the same anymore after this incident and i dont think our relationship is going to change positively either. Looks like It was wrong of me to have somebody get stuff from her house, now all the doors are locked, i wish my mom came home sooner, she'd probably know what to do. I am working on her pension papers though i am planning on what is going to happen when i do so.
@Raine38 (12258)
• United States
17 Feb 13
I think I can understand your mom when she said that she feels more at ease with you and your brother in your friend's house rather than in your grandma's place. For one, she probably knows what will happen next with your grandma's temperament and she just wants you guys to be spared on what is going to happen. And lastly, I always think that it is better to love and respect a person still from afar than be together all the time and hating and each other.
• Indonesia
17 Feb 13
It's very frustrating when our dignity trampled upon and insulted .. but they are an elder in the family we are .. So whatever they did to us we must respect them .. We must be patient in taking a stand .. So basically we have to hold our emotions, but still have the principle ..hopefully it can help because I've been there ..
• Penrith, Australia
17 Feb 13
Its true as they're old and we should understand them. I do feel bad about leaving home, i really do. I want to go home really as i wasn't able to get anything else but my backpack and some underwear. Hmm.. Do you think i should go back tomorrow?