Everything that is... I've done to myself

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There comes a point in time in everyone's life where they reach a midpoint... not a mid-life crisis.. but simply a midpoint. If you've reached a mature stage.. at this point, you will be undergoing and successfully complete a self reevaluation of yourself and your life. This includes your past set goals.. whether you have reached them or not.. the new goals you have in place.. your family & values/morals.. the people you have in your life (i.e. friends, business associates, lovers, etc.), your previous, current and expected future living conditions, your hobbies/interests/what you like to do, what you have been doing since graduation from high school or at least over the past 5 years. There are so many elements to consider... including relationship preferences.. whether you have any or not.. When people think of the word "FUTURE".. it can be very frightening sometimes especially if you have been half-stepping or going backwards. Some people may realize that they need to play catch up and quickly or will get left behind. These are things we do not like to ponder during our everyday lives because it adds stress to the pressure of things we already have balanced or unbalanced in place. I am 25 years old.. I will be 26 this August. I've looked back to see what I've done with my life.. I'm looking at what I'm doing with my life now.. and I am looking to what my life has in store for me in the future. I have performed exceptionally wonderful academically through high school and college. I have various certifications, a technical diploma, an Associate's in Business Administration and someday I will be finishing my Bachelor's in Internet Security to go on towards my professional degree. I am very intelligent.. but my life reflects differently. I live in a rural area in Virginia where there is limited opportunity forcing me to work from home online in a different, bigger city. I could be doing lots better financially.. but with the economic changes over the past decade, everyone can say that they've been in a financial bind or twp. But.. steadily within this self reevaluation, one must realize that everything that has happened unless it was completely beyond your control is YOUR fault. Once you accept this and stop placing the blame on others for what has happened in your life, not only will you start to feel better and become happier.. but you won't feel as if the world owes you something. You won't feel as if those people THAT YOU ALLOWED into your life has it coming to them at the hands of your becoming successful. Become successful because you want to prove it to yourself.. Prove to yourself that despite all of the mistakes you've made in the past that couldn't be fixed overnight and maybe took some years to repair.. can be justified. Things can change.. but only if you choose to seek help for yourself. "Never help a person that isn't willing to help themselves" is what someone told me once.. if you start thinking of yourself in that perspective, it will change your life. Things happen, good and bad.. some of which we can or cannot prevent.. however, for those things you can prevent.. if you start now, you can change those things in a matter of years. Do you have the dream job you want? Have you been working towards it? Do you have the education you desire? Have you been taking any steps towards that? Are the people in your life beneficial for you or benefiting from you? Only surround yourself around others that you can mutually benefit from as they equally benefit from you.. If either of you can't do that (acquaintances or anything of the like).. then there's no need in wasting time out of each other's lives. Do you love yourself? Do you love those in your life? You can't successfully proceed to love someone else if you do not love yourself. Do you live in the home you want to live in? Or the city you want to live in? These are things that should be in consideration. Set reachable positive goals for yourself, build a strong support system, organize your time and life in a livable manner starting small (i.e. a to-do list), treat yourself once you reach a goal or complete a bullet point. If your morale is low, find a partner to help as a mentor until you establish a steady routine. A lot of this is easier said than done because honestly if I knew exactly how to get to that point, I'd be there by now. But I am a work in progress, are you?