started the day screaming angry
By Cutie18f
@Cutie18f (9551)
Philippines
February 20, 2013 5:55pm CST
The helper, who was supposed to come yesterday but only came now did not use her common sense again. You see the last time she was here she left one work unfinished and now a couple of hours after in the house, I looked and the task is still undone and what was she doing but just sitting and pretending to be cutting grass. WTF! I lost my temper. How can I be telling her everything she has to do she is old enough to know this and she's been working with me for a long time now, and being so stupid all the time is what I am getting from her. If I could only find a proper helper to do the household chores for me, I wouldn't be wasting so much energy and emotions telling her what to do every step of the way. It is just so exasperating. She is old enough but doesn't know what she is supposed to do at work. I am always losing my temper when she is around because she is like useless actually.2 people like this
14 responses
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
21 Feb 13
if you have to write what she is to do in great detail if you have to and pray that she nows how to read
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
21 Feb 13
well pens do come in many colors now days sad that this has to happen to you and I wish you all the best of luck to resolve this issue
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
Why not fired her and do for the meantime the tasked assigned to her, I think you consumed too much energy in supervision than if you will just do it yourself and at the same time, you can do another form of exercise by so doing. The other way is to talked to her heart to heart of what she was doing and your planned of dispatching her as a helper.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
21 Feb 13
I don't blame you. It is not like she just started. Maybe she is too secure and has gotten lazy in what she's supposed to be doing.
Make a check list for her that she has to check off the tasks as she does them. If she is checking them off and still not doing them, then maybe it's time to find another person who wants to do the job.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
21 Feb 13
Hi Cutie. I am so sorry this happened to you but there are just some people you can't explain anything too they seem to just never understand anything. If you found her through an agency tell them how she works or next time she comes to do the work you want her to do stay right on top of her while she is working for you. I was always taught a job worth doing is worth doing the best you can. Good luck my friend.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
21 Feb 13
Calm down, I know exactly how you feel because it has happened to me before. My dad said, that we should be more patient with household help. They are not really that "bright" (for lack of a better word) that is why that is the only work that they can find. But that doesn't mean that we can just put the blame on them for anything. That is why they are called household help, "help", meaning they are there to help us do the chores, not to do it all.
@TLilly12 (1229)
• United States
21 Feb 13
You just need to fire this woman, and hire some one else, that can do the job that you want done you may need to go through and agency, to get the kind of person, you want to work for you because if the person, don't work out the agency can, replace them for you.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 13
Wouldn't you think she'd be glad of the employment, not sure what the job situation is like in your country my friend, but in my country it's awful, I am in the process of looking for a job, and I know my age is against me, as is my depression and I don't hold a lot of qualifications, there is tough competition, so I would be grateful of anything that brings me money. I am happy to do anything, within reason, I won't wipe people's backsides and I won't be in a call centre or answer phones. Seems she's hard work and added stress that you just don't need! When you give someone jobs to do you expect them to use their initiative and get on and DO IT! Not having to check up on them like they were a child!
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
21 Feb 13
Can you take pictures? I mean, of what the completed task should look like, so you can say, here is what I expect the kitchen to look like when you are done. Maybe she really has no idea what she is expected to do (although she does sound a bit lazy).
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
well, that's really a useless and a helper full of pretense, we can really lose our temper with this kind of worker at home, maybe it is time you fire her and get another helper who is responsible enough it fulfilling her duties and chores at home. we pay them to do their work but there they are just being lazy and wasting time. that is really stupid.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
21 Feb 13
Sad to hear about your house maid's activity. It is really hard to deal with such kind of persons we need more patience for this
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
21 Feb 13
I'm sorry your helper is not doing her job. It sounds frustrating. I suggest looking for another if this one is not doing what she should.
@ksktika (271)
• United States
21 Feb 13
calm down Cutie, sometime we need to find the source of problem and try to understand what make her like that ?
Maybe it because too much work to do in 1 day, maybe she forgot, maybe she got stressed, or etc. maybe you should find the problem first, and try to talk with her. that is my suggestion.
it's not good for you to get angry, just try to train ourself to be patient.
it happen to me too before, and i realize it was not goot to me when i get angry all the time.
One thing i always remember and this make me more calm, if they can get a better job.
