Please Help! I can not stop my hate

God is busy, God helps those who help themselves, you should help yourself, did you try to seek help from local police or law? or call your family and tell them all this, and ask them if they can contact the consulate to help you back to your country?

Don't blame God for what is happening to you. Blame yourself because you allowed these things to happen. If you wanted a better life, leave the man. That's it! Find a way to live as a single parent. That is probably better than staying with this man you hate so much. God won't help people who don't help themselves. Don't ask him to punish others, you have no right to do that. Do what you have to do and stop ranting it on people and God. If you want things to change, do something about it.

Hi Extremefun4fun and welcome to my lot. In the USA women wouldn't put up with this. I can tell you what I would do if it was my husband I would wait till he had passed out from the drinking tie him up and beat the living day lights out of him. Believe me if you did this once he would stop his nonsense because he would be deathly afraid of you. God wants us all to help oursleves as much as we can. I don't know how it is in your country but can't you call the law in your country? When evil is near me I take some olive oil that I have asked God to bless as anointing oil and then put a little on my finger and anoint myself with it and the evil fleas from me. Luke 10:18-19 God gives us the power over all evil in the name of Jesus Christ. All I can do is pray for you but you can do so much more if you ask God to show you a way out HE will show you. Keep the faith in God and believe that God will help you. Never give up on God because if you give up on God HE will give up on you! Since you cook for him put a little sleeping pill in his food and then beat him he won't do it again if you do this. You are a child of God and God don't want any of HIS children to take anything. Go listen to this man he can teach you what God would want you to do. http://www.shepherdschapel.com/index.htm

Hi, Now you are NOT living in the premitive world and this is the modern era. There are solutions around and your are not moving as per law. I repeatedly ask you that in India in which State you belongs now. There are so many Sates in India divided primarily on linguistic majority basis. You have given rough and unclear clue wherein the people around finds difficult to comment precicely on it. As being an Indian, I can partially help you on your issue but needs to know more about your surroundings. Even in different State, there are exclusive law which prevails and there are so many ways to help you in this issue. First of of all, there are so many women organisations to whom you can approach. Also, you can coulsult with a lawyer or advocate (locally) where you belongs. Again, as per your earlier discussions, I understand that you are here in India for the last 5-7 years. If you are a catholic believer, you can approach the nearest church priest where you can confidentially have a discussion and get his opinion on it. Next, if it is not helping, you can file a police compliant with the nearest police station, again it will help you. Now, what all things you need to be considered, as being a non-Indian citizen, have you taken the Indian citizenship, does you have a valid passport, are you got married leagally and do you have sufficient proof for your marriage. As per your country or origin, there are different laws exists and it varies on countries. If you are a citizen of USA, UK, Australia, Phillipines, or whatever it is, there may be different criterias to be verified. If you are in India on a job visa, or married to an Indian and become Indian citizen, and your child is considered as an Indian and you are a foreigner, your h/b again is an India and the law insists with different norms. So, you now better to find out from internet or other sources, which women organisation can be approachable to you and make certain studies on women organisations. There are a lot of such NGOs and other Social Services Centres to help women in this regarad and there are prominent people from India is headed to it and you will get proper solutions for all your problems. Also, in this case, calling on God make no solution and it is absolutely depend on variuous other factors. So, be actived and think positive to get some solutions to your problems. How educated you are and is there any chance to get a job in India for you? If you are just wasting time at home and doing nothing for you, make no way forward. Understnad the facts and move accordingly. You can get contact numbers or address from the internet aboauth these organisations and find out how helpful are them. Please understand that a discussion over here wont make much influence and your own action through the proper channel is required to get resolved from these kind of issues. If he beats you, and banned you to visit your home country are totally illegal and you have adequate and sufficnet reasons for a genuine complaint. Why you need to suffer from such a person? You can legally look for a divorce (if nothing works out), wherein you need to have proper marriage certificates etc. However, you can PM me with your details and I can think of some positive way forward on this issue. But need to know where in India, so that I can somewhat estimate about your current position. These all are not supposed to speak out over here, but hope it will be a help for people who are having the same situation. Have a nice day.

I have to ask how you got yourself in the situation you are in now? Do you have family that can help you get away? If you can write on the internet you could get a hold of them and see if they can help you out of the situation.

Hi extreme! I really feel sad upon reading this post of yours. I don't know much about the law in you country but definitely one thing is sure, you are being deprived of your right as a woman and as a human being. In our country, we have this law about women empowerment which gives women equal opportunities as that of men. Although there are cases of violence involving women, these are rare cases. You can solicit the help of the authorities in your country to help you. I am sure no one wants that a woman will suffer. There must be a way. Have a nice day!

Your discussion and its contents make me feel sad after reading it. What apparently you are suffering is called 'Domestiv violance'. If you are basically from India you would have heard about it. You could seek legal recourse under Domestic Violance Act. You seem to me an educated and mature person, what stops you from catching the bull by horn. You should confront and tell him that he is doing injustice to you and if you take any step he could be behind the bars. Be bold and courageous, the more you tolerate without any resistence, the more he will torture you. All the best.

You know, I really do believe that prayer is something that really can help in our lives. However, I also think that when we face situations in our lives with a lot of adversity, we have to take some action for ourselves. There are places where there are counselors that will be able to help you through the abuse that you've faced and this will give you the strength that you are going to need to break free of the abuse that you've had to deal with in your life. I certainly hope that you are able to get yourself out of this situation before it is too late.

if you have been treated badly by this guy, then why stay? You are only tormenting yourself even more by allowing yourself to stay longer in one roof. Why do you allow him to beat you? You should have left your house the first time he did it. Never encourage him to look down on you. You are a person and his partner with his kid and that should be reason enough for him to respect you.

Hello friend ! thanks you are still around , hang on there and pray , God won't leave you ! He will protect you ! My friend my eyes were filled with tears upon reading this post . How a man can afford to do that to a woman. Friend your husband is a beast ! Thanks God you still have that little braveness left in you , hold on to that , that is the only thing left in you that is the thing that will take you from that darkness . Do you have a media there ? Can you not ask help from them ? Some friends ? I guess the best is the media if the police there has no good also. I have known some men of your nationality but they are do good , God fearing people. My friend don't just pray and do nothing , you should do something. I guessed in that place some good hearted people can help from you , go ask from them. Some guru in the temple go there , seek rescue from them . Don't just accept those beats and whips , you and your baby moved out from that place while you alive. If you are just in my country , no problem you are very protected by our law and many women NGO who will help you even me i will look for you and will rescue . My friend we are not in Barbarian age , we are in modern age . Meaning , we have the right to live peacefully and safely . We have the right to fight and stand for what is humane and right. Women are empowered now ! No way to be oppressed and abused. Don't lose hope . Don't be afraid to fight ! Help is on the way ! Fear not God is there to help you. Evil will never triumph over Good! I am feeling your pain too. In spirit we join you to fight more and have that strength . My prayers for you and to your kids. You can pass this nightmare , believe me you can and you will !

I understand the feeling of hate for years. My mom might have been in the same situation as you did. I really hate my dad to the point where I wish I could just disappear so that I won't be able to see him again. My sister and I have been traumatize for so long. My father thinks he's always right, has a VVVVVEEEEEERRRRRY huge ego and pride,he doesn't want to be told especially if my sister and I wanted to talk back to him,he hasn't found a job and did not even bother to make an effort to find one because he likes to be the boss rather than to work under the boss, most of the time always at home and does nothing but eat and watch TV, keeps saying things what to do and not to do and being a hypocrite. My sister and father never got along and until now they are still fighting, they live together at the same house but act as if they don't exist. Need I say more, there's plenty of that where it came from. I have been hiding my anger for the past years and so was my sister because we were told by our mom to not talk back to our dad so that it won't cause anymore trouble. I can't forgive him, I swore with my life that my I can never forgive him until I die. I know this is wrong and I really find ways to forgive but I can't. To tell you the truth I never question God why. I had enough and now I'm like some zombie waiting for the day when I can disappear. My only way to get away from him is to save enough money to live on my own along with my sister.I'm not sure if this is good but the best way to do that is to keep away or better yet leave. It's a bad influence to your child that the father is like that and maybe someday when the child grows up either your child will grow up to be like him or will also develop hatred towards him. That's what me and my sister are right now.

Hi there, the ironical part is that your story and your name are in complete contrast. I am sorry for whatever has happened with you or everything that you are going through. But we must understand that these things happen because we let them happen. You have access to internet, you can definitely reach out for help. Being a victim is surely not going to do any good. Stand up for yourself. Help yourself and God will definitely help you. Take care.

I felt very sorry for your situation.You are not alone experiencing that miserable life you have right now. We never knew what's the reason why your husband act like that. The're might be reason for that. However, he doesn't have the right to do it. You have to stand and confront him. God sees you and hear your agonies.He already sight solution of your problem it just that you haven't feel or see it. You didn't feel His existence because you are full of hatred and negative thoughts. Keep your faith in Him.Trust God and you will never fail. Open your mind and heart.I know you already know what to do but you don't have the courage to do it.

I feel the same way. I cant stop myself from hating others too. Eventhough i believe in God and know he's words, still i cant stop myself everytime I think of them..

Hi there extremefun, First of all, i am sorry that you in such a situation. I would assume that we are talking about your husband in this discussion? From what i can make of it you are a foreigner to the land and you followed him there for the sake of the family you are supposed to have with him, is that correct? I can understand that you have such feelings for this man and hopefully not with God. He has made you expect on things like how you are to be treated and you got the opposite. The situation you are in with this person is not final. I know it isn't and you can do something about it. It is up to you to take the first step to improve and change your situations. Ask yourself these questions and know what you can do and work on the answers: 1. Do i still feel that this man can change? 2. Do i deserve this? Will i allow this to continue with my life? 3. What are the things I can do to change the situation?? 4. Why is this happening now? When did this start and how is this going to stop? You see, if you continue to do this if you just hate if you do not do anything about it... i think you will always be in the situation and its already too deep before you realize it could be too late to get out of the situation. Gather your strength and contact your relatives who can help you with the situation and plan your actions. Help yourself first and everything else will follow.

I think I can understand how you are feeling now but I hope that you will not let your anger confuse yourself to start hating and forget to protect your child and yourself. I hope that you will remember that you have a child who needs your attention, care and protection. You mention that you are not a citizen of India and as such I wonder if you had ever thought of seeking your country's embassy to help you. I am sure they would be able to help on how you could go about with your problem even if your child is an India nationality. You will probably need to bring the child's birth certificate to prove you are the mother besides your own passport. I believe there's a women's helpline (1091) which is toll free for you to call with your plight. I understand the government has set this up to help women in distress and many other problems in real time. I think you may need to be as detailed as possible when you call them to make a report. Also, there is a women's protection organization - Ministry of Women and Child Development where you may seek out if you are unable to get through the helpline or too far to get to your country's embassy. The website address if you are interested is: http://wcd.nic.in/ Let me just say that no one including you should tolerate domestic violence and that you must never believe that your man that he will not repeat his acts of misdemeanor or violence. You need to be away from him and let him go through proper counseling to deal with his problem. Walking away does not mean that you are wrong especially when you are doing it for the sake of your child. Stay alive and take good care of your child.

It is hard to give advice without knowing in which country you now reside. Knowing your religion would help, too. I will say one thing. Your husband may have forced you to give birth to a child, but it is not the child's fault. Your child can sense your unhappiness and the tension you are under. Try to be happy for your child's sake. It is very hard to respect someone who lies, but God does command that we love (respect) our husbands.

Well, I think you need to decide on yourself and not let that man to abuse you. Why don't you leave him, if he is always beating you and hurt you. Do the right decision in your life. Do not let anyone to maltreat you because your a woman. If your partner threaten you when you leave...better to go to the police to protect you from such abuse done by your partner.

First, I want to welcome you to mylot, I noticed your number as being fairly new. I don't want to sound disingenuous, but in having a hard time believing everything you say as complete and accurate truth. Is your husband some big, important person like a diplomat or some kind if rich mob boss? How can he buy off the police to tear up your police report? How can the whole population of India be against you so that you are essentially a prisoner in your home. You can't be destitute. You are using the Internet. It just does not make sense. If I'm not understanding the seriousness if your post I am very sorry. I don't want to be disrespectful. If you are truly being abused and held prisoner as you imply here with your words, you must get up and do something besides pray. Your prayers hit the ceiling and go no further. You must do something to change your life. What possessed you to be with him if he is such a monster? Something just doesn't ring true to me. Are you playing with us? Everything everyone has suggested you have shot down. In sorry but every country has an embassy I think. I'm not positive if that, but I can't believe thus post is as dire as you make out. Mylot is a great place to vent and to give information, but we can't get you out if a bad situation. You have to put on your big girl panties and do something to help yourself. I hear the laws in India are not 'women friendly' but I have a hard time believing there are no resources for women at all, citizen or otherwise. I went to your profile and looked at your discussions and I don't see the desperation in other posts. For some reason I feel that your discussion doesn't ring true. I mean, you have shot down every suggestion to appear as a victim. If you really are a victim of abuse, in very sorry for my thoughts here of unbelief, but you don't make it easy for me to believe you. Not when I see you playing around in discussions. You mentioned in one discussion that you were bored. I think bored people will create a discussion to attract attention to liven things up. I'm sorry that I can't believe everything you say. I don't mean to be bad or cruel. It just doesn't ring true to my sense if logic.

I think your husband is also in great trouble and may be emotionally disturb more than you.As any mentally and emotionally healthy person can not do such things with his wife.You should start fresh and talk to him nicely in order to solve the problem as why he does what he does such things and IF after your repeated effort he won't change than leaving the person is best option but you should do this after giving him one more GENUINE chance to him.