No feedback!!
@allknowing (130066)
India
February 22, 2013 9:28pm CST
I enjoy giving gifts but I also expect feedback from the receivers telling me how they liked it with all details. This was the case may be a few years ago. If I presented someone with an outfit, I would expect them to tell me if it was fitting and whether they had worn it and what was the reaction of their friends, etc. If I gave them some food item made by me I expect them to call me back and ask me for the recipe.
All this is history now. I just gifted a bottle of wine made by me to a friend. But no feedback. Do you give feedback and expect it too? What were the gifts that you exchanged in the recent past? And what could be the reason why gifts are no longer appreciated?
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
I would ask family members or other close relatives if the gift that I gave them was of any use to them. But I really do not expect them to call me up and tell me.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Feb 13
There is so much that can happen when gifts are discussed and the topic can last for days or even months. But since everyone these days has so much of their own stuff that gifts play a small role it seems
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
Yeah, I know what you mean. with our fast-paced life now, everybody seems to be involved with a lot of things. And being thankful for things that we receive are seldom left out.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
That is true. When there are less things to worry about, then you tend to have more time to focus on the littlest thing.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
I don't really give gifts. But when I do, I would appreciate some feedback. If they don't give it, then I ask them casually what they think about the gift and what they did with it.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Feb 13
You would ask? Never. I would never do that. The idea is that it should come from them. They should have me in their thoughts and not be forced by me to bring me in their thoughts!
What's it with today's world. I just do not understand them. I don't belong there. I have so many plants in my garden for example and each day when I pass by those that have been gifted to me I think of them and whenever I meet them I tell them about the progress those plants have made in my garden.
What's it with today's world. I just do not understand them. I don't belong there. I have so many plants in my garden for example and each day when I pass by those that have been gifted to me I think of them and whenever I meet them I tell them about the progress those plants have made in my garden.@allknowing (130066)
• India
24 Feb 13
No thanks Aja. I prefer it the way I think! If I force it out of them then it is not natural
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
Why wouldn't you ask them? 
It will save you all the psychological trouble. People don't think the same way you do, so you let them know. You should take the initiative.
It will save you all the psychological trouble. People don't think the same way you do, so you let them know. You should take the initiative.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
Hi there Allknowing!
Well, like you, I love getting feedback from the gifts that I gift especially when I exerted time and effort in working on it or even in choosing and buying the gift that I gave. I, myself always tell those people who give me gifts what I did with it, what I like about it and of course, I appreciate the fact that they exerted effort in getting a gift for me.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
3 Mar 13
That is how it should be really. I too get back whenever I receive gifts and have a discussion on them.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Feb 13
I'm fine with a simple "thank you", but more details are nice to have.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
3 Mar 13
I somehow find it odd if people just accept gifts and say nothing about them. I get back and spend time talking about them.
@aminul842700 (861)
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
23 Feb 13
Hi, your expectation is very reasonable. I also the same like you. It is courtesy to give feedback and thanks to the persons, who gives gift but if anybody does not give, it is the failure of his/her part. Probably they are not doing good thing. we should express our gratitude to the persons, who give gifts. OK, dear friend, do not get hurt because all men/women are not same courteous. Have a very nice day.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Feb 13
It is not about me alone. It is the general attitude which one sees these days. May be one receives too many of them that they are taken for granted.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
When we give gifts and we get a feedback from the receiver we feel happy by their reaction. When I give gifts I expect feedback but if I don't get feedback I make a call and ask them whether they liked it or not. I don't expect appreciation but I become happy by appreciation.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
3 Mar 13
Exchanging gifts is just the beginning of the process of fortifying a relationship and not saying anything about the gifts received will take a friendship nowhere!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Feb 13
Just like you, my friend i would like to have a feedback on whatever gift that i gave. It makes me feel proud when they like my gift.
Last December, we exchanged gifts during our Christmas party. The recipients had made known what they want, so the giver gives whatever it is that is in a specified amount.
Thus, until now i am disappointed that the recipient of the t-shirt i so meticulously chose for him, because i never saw him wear it. Although he said he has worn it on Sundays when it is my rest day and he said he likes it.
If he likes it, then why would he not wear it on a weekday so i could see it on him?
@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Feb 13
There could be a pleasant conversation exchanging all that is there to talk about gifts. There are gifts that we use every single day and that could be a good enough reason to start a conversation and tell the giver how they are remembered the gift is used. Could it be that people have so much to talk about other subjects or they receive so many gifts that they find it boring to talk about them?
@tyleremy (170)
• China
23 Feb 13
Hi,allknowing!
Unlike you, I always got feedback of how they feel in the past when I sent something to my friends, because they had asked for it.I found myself selfish sometimes when I got a present from one of my friend and I never said"thank you" but more than "I got your present".I definately need to change myself not being selfish anymore and to appreciate those who give me presents.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
23 Feb 13
It makes on feel so nice when people come back and talk about the gift on which time and money is spent. A gift is a gesture of good will and it should not stop the moment it is handed over but be in one's memory too.
