I'm jealous!!!!!!!!!!!

@fatlex06 (895)
Philippines
February 25, 2013 6:26am CST
What should I do? My boyfriend will be having a ballroom dance with the girl that I am so jealous with. What should I do? I am a jealous person. I know that for him that event is nothing, but for me, it really kills me to death. I hate this feeling!!! HELP
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18 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
It is not healthy to be jealous about the person when your boyfriend has assured you that there is nothing between him and the girl. Try ditching the feeling. You may never have that healthy relationship if you feel that every single girl could be a competitor. learn to trust your boyfriend. And believe that no matter how many girls will come by, it is still you in the end.
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@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
26 Feb 13
If you feel like you can trust him, then don't worry about it. There is no need to feel jealous over anything, especially if he hasn't given you any reason to be jealous. Just trust him, he loves you and so he knows what he's got waiting for him, so trust him not to step out.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
25 Feb 13
Jealousy is part of a relationship, it is nice to know that someone is afraid to lose your attentions to someone else. But extreme and unnecessary jealousy is destructive. The mere fact that for your bf its nothing is enough for you to feel secure. But if you still feel that you need anymore assurance, open this to your bf. Let him know how you feel so he can be extra considerate of your feelings. Did he ever do anything to betray your trust? If he doesn't have any history of cheating or making you doubt him, then calm down. Make him feel that although you are not 100% sold to the idea of him dancing with that girl, you will let him because you trust him.
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@MissBlack (356)
• United States
26 Feb 13
The girl your guy is dancing with isn't his girlfriend. You are. Be comfortable and secure in the fact that you and him will not break up over this. It's just a dance..I know I would be a little jealous too. It's in our nature to get jealous over something like that. Just don't let it upset you. I am pretty sure if you two are in a relationship, he does care about you and will not be going anywhere because of a dance...
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• Philippines
25 Feb 13
Don't be jealous Lex, you have him, that's one thing. Second is, Discuss it with your bf that might help lessen your jealousy when you hear his securing words to you, you need it. Who's NOT jealous? We all are..It maybe part of the relationship to spice things up. I am jealous,too but Im very open about it. i always tell my bf if something bothers me and that includes jealousy. It's fine with him, he understands and gave me assuring remarks every time and that makes me better.
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@Qudraxis (22)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 13
If you do believe in that you are the only one he loves then trust is build among you and your boyfriend. What to worry about? ;p
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
Just try to relax, as long as you know that for him he doesn't have any feelings towards that girl then you should just trust him on that. For sure if he is very serious with you he won't do anything to hurt you.
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
i think if you have trust to your partner then trust him even that girl flirting with him because once your partner really love you he will never hurt you in some other way like that,though its hard to deal with that feelings.just have a try.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 Mar 13
I think you should talk with him and let him know how you feel. It is important that he knows that you are jealous about this. This way he will be able to put your mind at ease about the whole situation.
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@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
Don't let it bother you. Stop being jealous. Being jealous shows how insecure a person is. If you are truly insecure, then you have to fix that.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
12 Mar 13
Hi, Why are you so jealous? You don't trust your boyfriend? Or you are possessive of your boyfriend? try to give space to your boyfriend and try to get rid of this jealousy.
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@miryanag (346)
• Bulgaria
25 Feb 13
Try to overcomy your jealousy. If you are sure your boyfriend loves you and you trust him there is no need to be jealous. Try to be rational about the situation I know it is easier said than d.one but you have to trust your partner and yourself
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• Philippines
17 Mar 13
Like what you said, you are a jealous person. You can't change what you really feel but you can hide it and that makes you suffer more. Haven't you told your BF that when his with another girl, you got jealous? You can't change what you really feel, same as you can't expect things to go as you like. Life is a mystery and full of surprises. What you need is Trust, if you love him too much, you should trust him. And another thing, the more men are prohibited the more they more likely to have chances of cheating. Just loose enough that he wouldn't fall. I'm sure you wouldn't like him to be catch by someone just in case you let loose so much.
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@iamsittie (327)
• Philippines
23 Mar 13
Actually, jealousy is very common to those who love. But you need to be matured enough to handle it. The fact that it is your boyfriend then you should not be so jealous of that girl. Second, if you trust your boyfriend don't panic. You are just giving the girl a chance to make you more jealous. Just be casual and don't be obvious that you're jealous of her. I know how you feel and that's how I do it even though I am a very jealous person. You can do it girl!
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
27 Feb 13
I love my husband very much . And I am selfish about my husband
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
29 Mar 13
I think most people are jealous and possessive of their partner. I think most probably you talk with your boyfriend about it and he will probably will help you with your feeling.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
27 Feb 13
Most girls would do the same as you,but i hope you'll find the right way to make you feel much better,to tell your boyfriend next time that you don't like that behavior but to tell in a soft way.Hope he will understand and good luck to you,friend.
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• India
23 Mar 13
well all of us we have jealous feeling on this kind of matter. but it should not go out of limit. try to not think that much about it, or try to keep love about that girl or imagine if she is your sister or cousin. then you will feel better about that.