A myLotter wants to die

@allknowing (84186)
India
February 26, 2013 9:23pm CST
I just came across a discussion where a myLotter is fed up of life and wants to die. The responses are worth treasuring, specially this one: "[i]We all feel like that now and again - Life can appear mundane and unrewarding... the only way out is to end your life. It will be quick, hopefully. Who cares about the ones left behind and how they feel - you are now dead...so what. The measure of a real person is getting through these black days because it always gets better. Whatever you think your problems are, there is always someone worse off than you. Tired and weary? - I would suggest a visit to the Doctor, those could be signs of depression. On the other hand, it could be that you you need a change of diet - You will be surprised how a simple thing like that can make a difference. We all feel like that at times[/i]" http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2751138.aspx
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@sishy7 (27367)
• Australia
27 Feb 13
Yes, from her posts I have always felt this user is depressed in real life. I really hope she will get some professional help with whatever her problems are. She seems so sad all the time and shows on her own statement: "Thus for every one happy moment, there will be a ten times of sadness."
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
Expectations are the main cause for any one to get into depression. I read through most of the responses there and found how different users approach their problems but in a positive way.
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@sishy7 (27367)
• Australia
28 Feb 13
By this time it drew 50+ responses already. Lamb mentioned below that such topic was deleted in the past and I kind of understand if it's considered to have negative impact to the community. I read through the responses and from the OP's comments it seems though that the discussion somewhat help here feels uplifted. I almost hope that it won't get deleted. And if it is, I wonder what reason would admin put on an email notification to her, deleted for 'repeated topic' perhaps?
@allknowing (84186)
• India
28 Feb 13
I never could understand the logic of such discussions being deleted. It is still there alive and kicking!
@saphrina (31738)
• South Africa
27 Feb 13
Hi sweetie. How are ya? I read it and cannot really see what the problem is. No offense. There is so many people with so much worries, sadness and really nothing to look forward to each day, but still they cope and deal with every day life. To take your own life is not only a sin, but it isn't the way to go. One cannot die if it isn't your time. I know it sound rude, but dealing with life ain't always fun. There is always a simple solution, we only tend to look for the hardest one. I really hope she will be alright though. A hobby should keep her busy, i hope.
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
That topic has brought out various approaches to handling the kind of situation the OP faces and in doing so it has acted as a therapy even for those who have responded there. That is the true meaning of life. In trying to solve other's problems we solve our own. Where have you been hiding?
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@saphrina (31738)
• South Africa
27 Feb 13
Sometimes it is hard to ask for help solving either one's problems or sorting out one's life, sweetie. Been busy with training. I won't be online for about another 4 months come next week, but i will try my best to pop in.
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
One may not solve each other's problems but there is what we call inspiration. I was an inspiration when I met with a rather ghastly accident and the way I handled that entire episode in a way was an inspiration to many.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 13
Those are all inspiring and encouraging words. I hope that mylotter would take them by heart and wake up from the good reality- that life is still such a wonderful thing. I had the same dilemma when I was in high school. I was very young back then. We had financial problems before (until now we do but before was way way worse). My family was falling apart. My dad worked as a company guard of an actor's family before but he had to quit his job because of health issues. My family lost it's primary source of income and then our store closed. We were just renting a house so we didn't know where to get money. I would do part-time jobs. My father and mother would roam around the neighborhood and ask for bottles and old newspapers sell them to earn money. I got fed up every once in a while and would feel like ending my life. I had a reputation to take care in school as well because I was one of the achievers and I don't want to lose what I already have. I get sick and would often be rushed to the hospital because of those sickness that didn't affect me before. I wanted to end my life just to end it all. One day, I just broke down to pieces and I was in class that time. My teacher talked to me and told me, "If you are feeling down because you keep on looking up, try to look down." She told me to think about those people who are in a worse situation than me. She told me not to be selfish and introduced me to God. After reflecting on what she said, I started noticing my friends and those other people who were concerned of me. I started noticing the little things in life and have been thankful for them since then. I thank God for introducing me to different kinds of people and letting me learn from them.
@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
The ability to search for those little happy things in our life can help us surmount hardships. I always remember my mother when she had a fall and was not able to move about. She was stuck to the bed for many years but she had the ability to search for things that made her happy and happy she was till the very end. Happy to know you too know the art of living! The responses to that topic are worth preserving as each of the users there have helped the OP to get out of her rut.
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• Philippines
28 Feb 13
Oh yes! It truly helps. God bless dear.
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
27 Feb 13
I saw part of the post yesterday and didn't think to respond to it til i saw this conversation. Tho i am the 44th person to respond to him i hope he still sees my response and reads all of them and does the right thing. i am now scared for him but hope hes ok. I thought he just wanted to end my lot or was just tired i didn't read the whole discussion. Also i think if he was putting that on my lot hes looking for or wanting help because if he didn't want help he'd just kill himself and not tell anyone on my lot or anyone ever. That was a great response from this person and i hope he takes it to heart and doesn't do anything harmful to himself. I wish we could know how hes doing like an update or something.
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
I think it is a 'she'. You are so right. Someone suggested that instead of coming here she should see a doctor.I feel she did a good thing by coming here. From some of the comments she has left on some responses it seems that she is responding well.
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@dawnald (84076)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Feb 13
I hope that the support system here on myLot helps her enough that she can make herself go seek professional help closer to home.
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
28 Feb 13
It appears that the myLot community is helping her. Some of the responses are worth considering even by those who are prone to depression.
@choconut (298)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
let's cheer her up... i think we should bombard her with messages that will encourage her to live life to the fullest. To appreciate life more...
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
Ofcourse. Her friends could do that.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
27 Feb 13
I also have read that discussion and at that moment couldn't understand what to respond to her..the discussion has found so many responses, i hope it will help her to overcome that mental status..
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
You too perhaps could gain from that discussion as at some point in one's life many go through that stage of despair and some users who have responded may have shown the way on how to get out of such situations.
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@thesids (22231)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Feb 13
No Offence. But, I wonder why many have to act as Gods for some! If someone wants to die, why not? No one can judge what a person is going through to get motivated to kill himself/herself - and if anyone does judge, s/he is doing it just for the sake of trying. I dont have anything to say about the wish of the OP of that discussion as I too was in that situation where I was almost ready with the killing things. And because I have been on those sides, I know, when it gets to those edges, things become momentary. And no suggestion seems apt and enough. As for the response... Well, you can write better than that if you have the skills.So doesnt bother me much either.
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
It is not without reason that therapists are paid huge sums of money for treating those who are under depression. myLot is a platform where one gets to read approaches of different people about how they got out of such situations. If you managed to get out without anyone's help I am happy for you. If the OP has come here just to inform us then that ceases to be a discussion. As you know this is a discussion site and obviously users are right in thinking that the OP wants opinions and may be even advice!
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@jenny1015 (13380)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
I hope that she would look back at the good things that has happened to her life than sulk on her problem now. No one, absolutely no one is spared from problems. It is just the matter of knowing the right approach on making life easier and to take it as a challenge and strive to do better in the future.
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@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
Did you read through the responses there.You could perhaps bookmark that discussion and share it with anyone else in your life who might go through what this OP is going through.
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@roshigo58 (4866)
• Pune, India
28 Feb 13
Hi, It is really sad that someone wants to end the life because of the sorrows and difficulties in life. But sometimes situation arises so badly that one becomes helpless and goes under depression. at this time mental support is necessary, some encouraging words are important. It will help the depressed person to get out of the depression. But some negative responses would make the person negative towards life. So we should try to get happiness by making others happy.
@allknowing (84186)
• India
28 Feb 13
Her discussion has provided a lot of support by myLotters.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
Hello friend ! So sad she is my friend ! We became friends because of Mylot . I never thought she is that emotional because she is the one who kept on encouraging me with life. She is very hard working . I don't know her that much but i know she is a good person. I was in her shoe also once and i have written such thing also in poetry form but i find writing it as one way of healing my pain . When i am already very down , writing becomes my solace and comfort and i never cared about what readers will be saying , all i knew is i have poured all the pain inside. That is why in one of my blog people are no longer shock with my sad lines , like they are used with it. I do hope and pray Aira is in good condition now. I hope she made that discussion as a vent only and not in real gesture. Life is very painful but it is still beautiful , right friends !
@allknowing (84186)
• India
27 Feb 13
The ups and downs of life defines life. It is for us to search for those precious moments that could help us tide over the difficult period. I hope that was just a vent and nothing serious. But I liked some of the responses there which I hope will help her somewhat.
@KrauseHome (36625)
• United States
28 Feb 13
Personally there will always be people who will never believe people and say anything even if it causes more hurt feelings and disbelief. Personally there will be people who will always be like this, until something happens in their life to change this.