May-December affairs

I do not think that a thirty year difference in age is insane, although admittedly at some point I think it would pose potential problems. Then again, any relationship has its problems, so I guess it depends on how the couple chooses to deal with their issues that is the important part regardless of age. When I was in my twenties, I had a close friend that was in his fifties ... a difference of about thirty years. We connected on many levels, and he was very much still a vibrant and physically fit man, which would have been important to me in a romantic relationship. We were not both single at the time, so we were never more than just friends, but if we had both been single, then I think I would have dated him despite the age difference and the fact that he had children that were older than me.

Hi Purplealabaster I´m very sad to hear about you. I know you have not any fault. It´s me. My parent ran away with a lady that is 2 years smaller than me, I was devasted. I think like my father could have raped me. My father cheated my mother with this lady for 2 years, my home was broken, my mother devasted too, their business was broken, their house lost. That´s why thinking of this 30 age difference for me causes insanity. May you understand me? At least you both understood that you wasn´t single and respected your partners, what made of you a platonic love, and having a platonic love is not insane. Platonic loves enhace us. I have a platonic love with someone 20 years older than me, but that´s all no more than platonic. There´s no danger to hurt nobody, and he gives me happiness because we make no harm to nobody. But we have set our limits to rest as platonic. He is single and I´m married, and he is friend of my sons and daughter, and my husband knows him, and they respect each other. I´m sorry to be so negative, but I´m still very hurted by my father. They, my father and his lady were very selfish and irresponsible. I never imagined my father had a love of this type, I loved so much my father, I respected him, he was my hero, he was my support, I supported him in his business. It was really shocking for me. I cried for 365 days. My mother got sick because of the impression, almost to die. I have had very rough time since then. My father betrayed me, he betrayed us, he betrayed my family, he was very selfish. Blessings Purplealabaste... dainy

Dainy, I can definitely understand why you feel the way you do, especially given your personal experience. I am so sorry to hear that your father did that to your family, and it definitely was not right. I do not think that the age of the person that your father cheated with would have made much difference ... if she had been his own age it still would have been devastating to your family ... but I can understand your feelings given the circumstances. I like how you say "platonic love" - I think that is good, and I agree that it can enhance us, especially if everybody understands that it is just "platonic love" or love between friends rather than something else.