It's official he's married to his job...
By choconut
@choconut (297)
Philippines
March 2, 2013 4:03pm CST
We've talked about going out today, Sunday, 2weeks ago... We've already planned it out. Then 2days earlier, he told me his boss is inviting him in a party since its his birthday on the Saturday. I told him, politely decline it because you won't be able to keep your promise of Sunday date if you go. He assured me more than a hundred times that he'll just stay for a few hours and drink a bottle or two, then go home early so he can keep his promise. And while he was assuring me, i kept on insisting him not to go. Today's Sunday, received a text from him 4:30am his message was "just got home, sorry couldn't say no to my boss, we'll go to church when i wake up wait for me?" i replied back at 4:45am saying "just sleep the day, i'll go to church on my own" this is my message because I know him too well that when he's drunk he will wake up around noon or around 1-2pm then he's too lazy to even stand up and just lay down because of massive headache from hangover. He couldn't say no to a boss, trying to impress him maybe that aside from being a good employee he's also sociable. *Sigh* he didn't even remember or even thought about us, or the promise he told me that he'll keep. =( its just sad, it was planned 2weeks ago and it didn't push through while the party he attended push through even though he was just invited 2days ago... and because of this, its official he's really married to his job and probably the "US" wouldn't be so real anymore. =(
4 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Mar 13
Sorry to hear that, as I said in another post men can be dogs some times.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Mar 13
Just like a man, many choose their friends over their loved ones. Dogs they are !!!
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Mar 13
That is how guys are...well most of them anyway. My husband promised me a vacation for our 8th wedding anniversary in April this year. We were supposed to put money aside so we could go. Then, he saw a truck he liked and bought that with our vacation money when we got our taxes back instead of putting the money away for our vacation! So, yeah most men are like this. They promise you one thing and then do another...
I am pretty upset about my vacation as well so I understand how you feel. I have learned to accept these things because being upset won't change it. Men are men, there is nothing we can do to change them. A person can only change if THEY want to, sadly.
I hope you will not have too many more broken promises in the future but don't expect that. Don't expect anything, that will make you happier in the long run. Expecting leads to disappointment, I know I am there...
I am pretty upset about my vacation as well so I understand how you feel. I have learned to accept these things because being upset won't change it. Men are men, there is nothing we can do to change them. A person can only change if THEY want to, sadly.
I hope you will not have too many more broken promises in the future but don't expect that. Don't expect anything, that will make you happier in the long run. Expecting leads to disappointment, I know I am there...
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
I am so sorry to hear this. I think this almost happened to boyfriend and me. Well since we are not yet married, he still considers my feelings. I am not sure what will happen when we are married already.
So we had plans and went to the lazer tag activity, it was pre planned and he was thinking of going to his friends for a couple of bottles and so i just told him he can just go home and i'll not want to be with him already - but he did not go to his friend's place anymore and stayed with me and our friends for a dinner. I told him his plans were just newer and ours was planned weeks ahead so i would be angry at him and would not understand him if he goes there on such a short notice. Of course, i understand boss are different, but your husband could still at least try to talk to his boss and say he has to go home early because he had plans with you already - or make an excuse, to me a promise is a promise so he should know what he should be doing to fulfill his promise and to please his boss.
@Nandita2013 (132)
• India
3 Mar 13
I can understand your feelings. Men are like that. I and my husband used to make weekend plans and everytime he used to go with his friends for a basketball or volleyball match and would come back late evening after enjoying and i used to be home alone. Now its been 4years of our marriage whenever i feel to go i take my kid and go out never waiting for him to take out time from his busy schedule. Oh Men...
