I've Lost my Engagement Ring
By GreenMoo
@GreenMoo (11833)
March 3, 2013 5:58am CST
My engagement ring had lost a stone and was rubbing my finger a it as a result. I'd been trying to get it off all day but couldn't, so I had another go whilst I was waiting for my youngest child to finish up in the toilet. I finally got it off, and put it on my little finger where it seemed quite secure.
When I got back up to the house my partner wasn't well and went to bed so I ended up racing around for a couple of hours sorting the animals, making dinner, organising homework and all that other stuff. Later in the evening I suddenly realised my ring was no longer on my little finger. I checked my coat pockets and inside my work gloves, but no joy. This morning I checked the toilet, the animal sheds, the paths, the kitchen, EVERYWHERE. Absolutely no sign. Of course, it could be anywhere and if someone has trodden on it and it's been pushed into the ground outside I'll never find it. I'm gutted.
Have you ever lost your engagement or wedding ring? I've lost other jewellery before, but this is the first time I've lost something so important. It's not a particularly valuable ring, but it's pretty special!
My parter is heading to the city later in the week and is saying he'll get me a new one if I can work out my ring size. We can't really afford to e spending money on non-essentials at the moment, but he says it's an essential 
Would you replace your ring if money were tight? It feels really weird to be without it.
Would you replace your ring if money were tight? It feels really weird to be without it.6 people like this
19 responses
@patnopy (718)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
that was happen to me by the time i got drunk and walking alone on street when police caught with no reason and accusing me by something that i did not do after that they put me and jail while and jail some jail mate force me to give my engagement to ring damn....
but before morning my mom bail me, i think the police only after for the money and beside i don't write a name to their record book, it is means i don't have record on that station
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@patnopy (718)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
no problem at all i am just sharing how my ring gone but after long long way talking to my fiance we end up for buying a new one and that new ring become our wedding ring too lol
for short it was just a small piece of ring that symbolize love but what if that symbol is still and your little finger but in the end the love's gone?
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
5 Mar 13
There are just some things that are worth more than their actual value. I'm sorry to hear about losing your engagement ring.
I think your partner understands that it needs to be replaced as it symbolizes your relationship. I'm glad that is viewed as AN essential.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
3 Mar 13
I was going to ask you the same thing Dragon did...do you have a metal detector? It might be worth your time to rent one to see if you can find your sentimental engagement ring since it's so precious to you. It would at least give you the satisfaction that you really tried hard to find it.
I hope somehow it just shows up for you...sometimes things like that happen when you least expect it. I take it you didn't have gloves on the whole time, right?
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
3 Mar 13
Oh I really hope it shows up for you and it's not in the compost loo! If you get a metal detector you mind find more than your ring too. Wouldn't that be fun, but it might just help you find your precious ring. Hopefully, that will be another discussion. 
Wouldn't that be fun, but it might just help you find your precious ring. Hopefully, that will be another discussion. @GreenMoo (11833)
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3 Mar 13
I did the animals, so I had gloves on and off. It could e anywhere to be honest, although if it fell in the animals shed it will probably show up one day when we're cleaning it out for compost.
My worst fear is that it fell down the compost loo! We only empty that every two years and I've no urge to go digging in there until then really!
A metal detector is a good idea. I'll have to have a think about anyone who may have one I could borrow. I used to have one myself, but goodness knows what happened to it.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
3 Mar 13
You have just given your faceless, nameless "partner" a personality for me and I feel quite fond of him right now. How sweet of him to want to replace your ring!
Do you know anyone with a metal detector to retrace your steps and find it?
I would replace it. It is valuable to your heart if not your bank account. I know how it feels to have an empty finger and know that something is missing. When I was divorced I foolishly gave my wedding ring (my grandmother's) back to my dad and told him another woman in the family could use it. Even after 7 years my thumb still wanders to that finger, seeking that ring to play with. I sometimes wear a ring on that finger just to get rid of that "missing" feeling.
@GreenMoo (11833)
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3 Mar 13
Haha that did make me giggle! My faceless, nameless partner! I AM pretty closemouthed about him, aren't I? 
Would a metal detector pick up gold? To be honest, it could be anywhere. I'm rather concerned it may have flown down the compost loo when I threw sawdust down there after my son was through. I'm not sure I really want to investigate too closely, although I did shine a torch down.
The jury is still out on a replacement, although I think I do want to replace it eventually.
Would a metal detector pick up gold? To be honest, it could be anywhere. I'm rather concerned it may have flown down the compost loo when I threw sawdust down there after my son was through. I'm not sure I really want to investigate too closely, although I did shine a torch down.
The jury is still out on a replacement, although I think I do want to replace it eventually.1 person likes this
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
3 Mar 13
Yes, metal detectors are routinely used by people looking for gold on beaches, in streams, or in rock. You have to know what you're doing and tune it so that it won't pick up tin, nickel, or copper or other things you're not looking for. If you know someone with a metal detector who knows how to use it you can probably find your ring.
Yes, you are very reticent about the partner! For awhile I did not even know if it was a "him". Or if you were committed--where did the children come from, I wondered, whose are they or is this family actually a band of outcasts that somehow came together in the wilderness and made a home together at an abandoned farm populated by wild pigs and goats and chickens that they domesticated? Is he really committed to her or will her heart be broken? I tell you, you've provided my fertile imagination with a lot of exercise! That's definitely not a bad thing in these days when everyone seems to be an open book and tells people much more than they need to hear at times!
@GreenMoo (11833)
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4 Mar 13
A bunch of outcasts , an abandoned farm .... yes, I feel it all coming together now
I was being stupid about the metal detector and gold. I used to have one, years ago, and of course my greatest aspiration was to find gold! Why I didn't think of that I've no idea. Too busy trying to domesticate wild pigs I guess 
I was being stupid about the metal detector and gold. I used to have one, years ago, and of course my greatest aspiration was to find gold! Why I didn't think of that I've no idea. Too busy trying to domesticate wild pigs I guess 
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Mar 13
I lost an anniversary band because I dropped it somewhere on the living room floor and it just disappeared. That was more than a year ago. We haven't replaced it. I still have my wedding ring and engagement ring but they just look so lonely without that anniversary band.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Mar 13
I'm sure.
I actually haven't worn my wedding ring in awhile because it doesn't quite fit right anymore. Needs to be resized. I kinda got used to not wearing it.
@inertia4 (27978)
• United States
4 Mar 13
I have never lost jewelry before, but I never had lots of it. I mainly had my wedding ring which I no longer wear since I am now divorced. I stopped wearing the ring right after the evil ex left me. I still have the ring and I cannot seem to lose it no matter what. It haunts me. So I am thinking about selling it for gold. I figure I would rather have the money instead of the ring. It used to be special, but not anymore. And besides, it might be a symbol, but it is still only a piece of metal. It can be replaced. Keep looking, you never know. Usually we find things when we are not looking for them.
@inertia4 (27978)
• United States
6 Mar 13
I will get rid of it. It is just a reminder of a failed marriage and an evil ex. A lying cheating eve ex. But thats behind me now. I am with the girl I should have been with all these years. I am going to sell it and buy something for my girl friend and my daughter.
@jillhill (37353)
• United States
3 Mar 13
I have not ever lost and engagement or wedding ring. I am divorced now and that the ring melted down and I made it into a ring I would wear all the time...however I am giving it to my daughter...it really has no meaning for me. I am glad you are getting it replaced.....
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Mar 13
Never lost it. I did have the same problem where mine had lost a stone, and I had taken it off, and forgotten to wear it to work that day. But that's about the worst...
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
4 Mar 13
Hiya GM,
Not lost my Engagement Ring because I never had one as such. I did have one that was a sort of one and the stone itself kept snagging all my tights and one best skirt and blouse that I had.
I turned the ring around to the inside of the finger but funnily enough I lost it without even wanting to just lost it and that was it.
Was upset for a day and then forgot about it.
Not only that my best clothes lasted much longer too.
So sorry that you have lost yours especially when it means so much to you.xxx
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
4 Mar 13
See here I am adding a comment to my own comment. Had a ring that was rather loose and we lived several floors up in a flat and a lot of times I forgot to take that ring off when I was putting the washing out on the lines outside and the silly thing would fall off.
Would you believe it I found the same ring at least three times in the Street when I went down. Came across it just by chance I do believe it did not want to leave me so I took it off altogether and kept it in a safe place.
Third time lucky I suppose did not want to chance it again.xxx
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
3 Mar 13
A few months after we were married (2008) I lost my wedding ring. I was absolutely gutted about it at the time as - like you said - both wedding and engagement rings are important pieces of jewellery, whether a lot was paid for them or not. In the case of our wedding rings we went into the local jewellers to pick them. John bought my engagement ring 'blind' so to speak from the same place.
Anyway, I just couldn't get used to not having a wedding ring on my finger and John kept telling me he'd buy another one.
I told him it 'wasn't the same.'
Well, imagine my surprise and delight when the ring (some months later) actually turned up in the house. It was in a recycling bag along with some other stuff in my chest of drawers (dressing table) next to the bed. I was clearing this drawer out at the time. I could not believe my eyes when I spotted the wedding ring at the bottom of this bag. In fact, it took a time to register.
'Not my wedding ring, surely?' I kept saying to myself.
Well, it WAS my wedding ring and, thankfully, I still have it after its little adventure. To this day I have no idea how it got in that bag inside a drawer but I am so grateful and blessed that it turned up.
I only hope the same happens with your engagement ring. Keep the faith my friend.
@changjiangzhibin89 (17242)
• China
4 Mar 13
It did upset you.No matter how much the engagement ring was worth, it was a precious souvenir ,which couldn't be replaced by something.It must have lost during making dinner,because it would slipped from your little finger if it was stained with cooking oil.Wish you found it.
@joanamarienieva (159)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Aww.. I hope you find it as soon as possible. It's an important thing for you and your partner.
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
3 Mar 13
To some, an engagement ring is not that important. But for others, like me, I value it so much. It doesn't have to be very expensive, nor does it have to be top of the line. I don't mind if my engagement ring was bought from the local jewelers and not from Tiffany. It is the gesture itself and what it symbolizes that matters most to me. I almost lost my engagement ring the day I got it. I was in the kitchen and decided to help my mom prepare some food as the surprise proposal by my husband warrants some little family celebration. I took off my ring and I put it in my denim skirt's pocket. But when I try to put it back on, it wasn't there. I even took it off and look between the folds but I really can't find it anymore. I cried but my husband then bf said he will just buy me another one. I was so bummed because I want that particular ring. Then that night, I tried to look for my ring one last time and lo and behold it was there in the pocket where I remember putting it! 
You are so lucky to have a very considerate partner. He really wants to make this engagement meaningful for you.
You are so lucky to have a very considerate partner. He really wants to make this engagement meaningful for you.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
6 Apr 13
well, I do not get any ring from my husband but I have a big respect and feeling for marriage ring... it is sign of love and promises and we should take care of that but sometimes in the life it happens when financial problem is there but I do not think it is good to give the ring for it, it is good if we think that if except ring that could be any other thing like foods or dresses then we were going to sell it ? no... so it is good to keep marriage ring till love and feeling is there for our partner..
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 13
I would give it time before you or your partner rushes out to buy a new one, sometimes when we are not looking for something it turns up, and I truly hope this is the case for you, there is nothing worse than losing something precious. You have retraced all your steps obviously. I can't understand it being essential and it's not the money per se, but the nature of the item and what it signifies. You could always put a little money by each week, that way it won't be a big amount to pay out if you can't afford it, and maybe in the weeks ahead it will show up! I look forward in hearing from you that you have found it in an ensuing discussion my friend.
@GreenMoo (11833)
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3 Mar 13
I'm rather hoping that it will show up when we're least expecting it. The trouble is that it was so long between my taking it off and realising that it was missing that I'd been all over the place, including in the animal sheds.
I think it's too big an expense to shell out right away, just in case it does show up. But in the long term I'll replace it, when money isn't so tight.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
8 Mar 13
Oh crap. Yes, I've lost an engagement ring and I searched for days for long periods of time. I lost it in a field of long grass. I felt a huge sense of loss when it was gone.
It's funny how nature seems to just swallow our precious and most meaningful belongings like that. My hubby eventually bought me another one...bigger, better, brighter but I also received a fur coat and a new car because by then he was cheating on me in a big way.
So many memories.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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11 Mar 13
The Boss's engagement ring went missing just after our daughter was born and her wedding ring not long after that. We replaced her wedding ring but I have forgotten what her engagement ring was like as it was almost 24 years since it went. Diamonds and sapphires I think. Her first wedding ring was £11, which was all we had left after paying for most of the wedding. The second one was a bit more.....but not that much. I'm such a cheapskate. She also lost an eternity ring that I gave her when the child was born. We don't bother with jewels for her now! Bling is fine. LOL.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Losing a valuable thing is sad but even sadder when that valuable thing is given by a loved one. It can't be replaced at all. I know how it feels when you lose something given by your special someone. I actually have lost my wedding ring. I felt really bad and would not know how to tell my hubby. It is good he is very understanding. He just bought a new one for me.
@nitinnair89 (2899)
• India
3 Mar 13
It was so valuable...I hope you can find it eventually. And also good that you will get another one..Stay happy!
