..sorry.. the hardest word to say to someone?

@subhojit10 (7375)

India

March 6, 2013 12:18pm CST

hey guys, do u think sorry is the hardest word to say to someone? I think yes, according to me, whenever i feel guilty i do say yes instantly but it does take a lot of guts inside me to say that word. It is not that i will feel low or inferior after saying it but at times i feel it takes a lot of time to say it. i have seen some of my friends who make it a point not to say no to someone no matter what. How mean of such people! What r your thoughts about this guys? Do u find this word the hardest for you to say? if not what according to you is the hardest word to say in this whole world? Please do share your thoughts!

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16 responses

@celleDJ406 (196)

• Philippines

7 Mar 13

It is hard, especially to someone very close to you. It's often the issue on pride, I think, that makes it harder to say. Like you said, it take s a lot of guts. But we should say it whenever necessary and must be in all sincerity. :-)

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@leateagee (3667)

• China

7 Mar 13

Indeed. When someone says "sorry" they should be sincere. they shoudl mean it.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

@celleDJ406- Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yeah i agree to you on this that the word becomes difficult to say especially to that person who is very dear to your heart as things like ego and pride comes in between that do not let us speak the word but still if we think that we r humble and submissive then we should admit our mistakes. What say?

@habibti320 (925)

• United States

6 Mar 13

It's very easy to say "sorry" for me...as an American I overuse this word and "thank you". However, when it comes time to actually give a proper apology for something, I struggle to accept complete responsibility. It turns into something like this: "I'm sorry that I...but I was feeling ... because you... Next time, can you not ...?" Sounds legitimate at the beginning, but it is actually more of an accusation. Definitely something I need to work on (especially with my partner). Thanks for this discussion!

@andrioonionz (3)

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7 Mar 13

yes... Because people is selfish and arrogant... So, I think, say sorry is easy if we've a big heart for each other... Ganbatte!

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

@habibti320- hanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Well i can understand your situation very well and at times when we think that v r guilty of something and want to confess eagerly then words fall short in our mouth and we encounter such situation just as u have mentioned. But still we have that guts and courage to admit our mistakes which counts and matters the most. What say?

@TLilly12 (1229)

• United States

5 Apr 13

No I don't fine this a hard word, to say to someone if I hurt you in some way, I will come to you, and tell you I am sorry, I hope the person understands, and is easy to forgive.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

7 Apr 13

well i am glad to hear that u do not find this word that difficult to say and that speaks about your honesty and straighforwardness which is laudable. I think whenever we feel that we are wrong we should confess it and most importantly the person to whom we are confessing should also understand our real intent of apologizing to him or her.

@Nandita2013 (132)

• India

7 Mar 13

I don think its a hard way to say it. If we have done any mistake we should truly say it. But at some situations it would be really difficult to say it.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yeah u r absolutely right, i am not saying that it is most hardest word to spell out but sometimes situation around us becomes such that it becomes difficult to say to someone. but still we should forget our egos and pride and speak the same otherwise it would ruin our relationship with our near and dear ones. What say?

@best4ever (45)

• Germany

7 Mar 13

There is nothing too hard for me to say. If you are equity its very simple to say AM SORRY, and that is all. And it left to you to know what you want at a particular time. example, if someone asked you to put your hand in the fire, will you say yes to that and go ahead?? , its not possible. In some cases you require Yes,NO Am sorry. But there is no word too hard to say, you just be simple minded, that is all

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yeah i agree to you on this that no word on this earth is hard to say only when you are strong headed, straightforward honest and submissive. this word will come out automatically if we are matured enough to think that we have done something wrong with anyone. What say?

@gkutti (111)

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7 Mar 13

Actually 'saying' sorry is typically the easiest thing to do. We often use it to cool people down or to lift people we knocked down. The difficulty about sorry comes when you want to 'mean' it. Your throat chokes up, you start sweating and feel like running away and hiding yourself in the dark. I tell you when you notice these symptoms I guess thats high time you say it because it is more like saving you from yourself more than anything else.... What say friends??

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, it is not actually a hard word to say like most of the people think it to be. But it is when we really mean it but we do not get that courage to speak it out but as u have mentioned if we do not speak out at that moment then probably we might lose that person for ever. What say?

@leateagee (3667)

• China

7 Mar 13

For others it's easy to say because maybe it didn't really mean what it's meant to be. For people who value words, the word "sorry" is the hardest to say since you have to humble yourself to be able to speak it. You have to accept the fact that you have made a mistake or is sorry of or about something.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes i agree to you on this that for those who do not value words emotions relationships or feelings, this word is just like any other word but for those who really mean what they say, this becomes one of the most toughest word to spell out as we r submitting the faults committed by us. What say?

@jenny1015 (13366)

• Philippines

6 Mar 13

There are mistakes that we commit where we do not find it hard to say sorry. But when we know that we have deeply hurt someone, that is the time when it is almost impossible to start speaking at all.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, no human being is perfect in fact in our every day life we do commit so many mistakes that we hardly realize about that but then we should always be ready to humbly accept those mistakes so that we can sort out the things as soon as possible if we think that we are the real culprits. What say?

@ryanong (9665)

• Vietnam

7 Mar 13

i don't think it is hard to say sorry. if i feel that i did a wrong thing, for sure i will say sorry. and i hope if someone does something wrong to me, they should say sorry to me too.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Well i am glad to hear that u are very much straightforward in your approach and hence as u have mentioned we all should have that guts courage and willingness to accept our faults and mistakes and say sorry as soon as possible so that we can sort out things in a quick fashion. What say?

@doroffee (4222)

• Hungary

6 Mar 13

For me, it is true. It's kind of hard to admit other people are right for me, especially as in some fights, some people think that if they are apologized to, they are superior, and I don't want that. I sometimes even say sorry when I'm not even guilty, and that's the hardest...

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, as u have mentioned about the fights, yes during some fights it becomes utter difficult for the two involved in that fight to accept the guilt and once they feel superior than other then there is no chance for them to say sorry and the misunderstanding continues forever. What say?

@roshigo58 (4859)

• Pune, India

7 Mar 13

Hi, I don't feel it is hard to say sorry to someone. I don't hesitate in saying sorry. But it is not fair to make mistakes again and again and say sorry again and again. we should try to avoid such situations which make us to say sorry. always try to be kind and helpful to others and try to understand the feelings of others.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right my dear friend that saying sorry is not a big deal but committing mistakes repeatedly and then apologizing all the time is not a good thing at all. we have to be matured enough in all the situation and if we feel that we r sorry then we should speak it up. What say?

@robspeakman (1700)

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7 Mar 13

Being English I would say sorry has lost any gravitas or meaning. We say sorry for everything in the UK, we apologise to chairs when we walk into them - we even apologise for saying sorry. The word is easy to say, making it sound genuine is harder

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Well that sounds better to hear that in UK, the word sorry is spoken for everything and i think that adds a different aura to one's personality as it will help people to realize their mistakes easily if ever they would hurt others and so that they can then say sorry and sort out the matters quickly. What say?

@mydenz0828 (74)

• Quezon, Philippines

7 Mar 13

People has a different personality, For me i think its better to say sorry if you hurt someone or offended, it can really help you to forgiven.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. yeah i agree to u on this that we all have varied personalities and hence some feel it awkward and unimportant to accept their guilt and hence do not say sorry but there r some who r aware of their own mistakes and say sorry very humbly and easily and that should our attitude. What say?

@saleseshop (1)

• China

7 Mar 13

hi, i think the sorry and Love are the hardest words to say to someone!

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yeah dear friend these two words are really the hardest words to say to someone. I remember how it was difficult for me to confess my love to my sweetheart that day. In the same fashion, situation also becomes such at times that makes the word sorry difficult to spell out as well. What say?

@CarlHalling (3617)

• United Kingdom

6 Mar 13

Sorry? - This guy actually crh some years ago now looks it perhaps doesn't he, shame-faced I mean.

I don't think I find it hard. As I recall, if I feel I've behaved badly and upset someone, I'll say sorry, and so often it makes things a whole lot better. I've even been known to say sorry when I don't feel I'm entirely in the wrong, because doing so restores peaceful relations. I'll say it in a light spirit, such as if I neglect someone by not replying promptly to an email or whatever...and in a serious spirit...such as when my behaviour ahs caused upset. Saying sorry and meaning it can have an incredibly healing effect on situations. But then it's also important to accept apologies. If someone apologises to you, it's important I feel to wipe the slate clean, even if there's still hurt. They have had the courage to apologise, I feel you owe it to them to let bygones be bygones.

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yeah i agree to you on this that we should not find this word difficult to say if we think that we have committed a heavy mistake or have upset or hurt someone. In that case we should act smart and think wisely and apologize as our very word sorry might heal everything and get things back on track. What say?

@LovingMyBabies (85127)

• Valdosta, Georgia

6 Mar 13

For me when I say I am sorry to someone I truly mean it, they are not just words to me. When I say sorry it means I regret what I did and I will work hard not to do it again. I don't just throw that word around like it is nothing. Everyone that knows me knows if I said sorry to you it means it is coming from my heart. It is not hard for me to say I am sorry for something, I am my own worst critic so if I messed up I try to make it right quickly. I don't want or like anyone to be angry with me ever. I don't ever let pride get in the way of an apology. Pride is thrown out the window when you did something you should not have done...

@subhojit10 (7375)

• India

17 Mar 13

Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. U know, i am so proud of you that u are your own critic and i am very sure it is very difficult to find people like u around us these days who r so submissive and honest in their views opinion that they would accept their mistakes if they think they r the brain behind it. as u have mention our pride n ego ruins everything. What say?