being in love with love
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (15932)
Philippines
March 7, 2013 8:48pm CST
There is no such thing as perfect person because no one is created perfect. However, we make ourselves believe that they exist and we try to fit the profile with the partner we have at the moment. Later on, true colors start to show up and disillusionment steps in. And it becomes easy for us to say that he or she is not the perfect mate and the hunting starts again. It becomes a never-ending cycle of finding and losing again and again.
Acceptance is a vital part in every relationship. We should learn to accept each other's strengths the very same way with our weaknesses so love lasts a lifetime. Embracing differences create a good and lasting relationship.
5 responses
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
8 Mar 13
When I was a teen I really was in love justt for the sake of being in love. I didn't even have relationships, just celebrity crushes or platonic loves, which changed by the season. But now, when I found true love, I understand what true love is. It's not just the butterflies and the pink sunglasses, but deeper: accepting each other, being there for each other....
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Yes I agree, we are not perfect and we all have bad attitude. So that's why when we have a partner, let's just accept them for who they really are and love them for that. Understanding and patience also is the key to a lasting relationship. Hopefully pride won't take over our hearts.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
I agree with you. It can be an endless cycle when we do not accept our partners the way they are and if we are only looking to see everything we dreamed of, everything we think is the perfect person for us, the kind of guy or girl we see in the movies, the ever sweet guy, the ever loyal and faithful guy, or the super lovely girl who is perfect.
The thing is that is true, we only love the idea of having this perfect person with us and we hope that we do and everyday we try to see where that guy is or where that perfect woman is in our partners that we could even trip and do something silly and then lose the person altogether because we were only thinking of what there is out there... only to see that in this life, no one is THAT perfect and they can only be perfect when we look beyond the flaws and accept that they are so much real and better than what we have thought or seen in the movies.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Hi cherigucchi. You are right that acceptance is a vital part of every relationship. no one is perfect so there's actually "no perfect one for us" as they usually say. What really matters is if both parties knew how to accept each others strengths and weaknesses. For a relationship to flourish, there is a need for an open communication so that whatever the problem is, it could be fix right here and then. Most of the times, relationships are broken because of so much expectations and comparisons. They expect their partner to be like this or like that. They tend to compare their partners to somebody else's partner. Some arguments would come up like, WHY ARE YOU NOT LIKE HIM/HER? Where is the acceptance now? In the first place, why did you fall in love with your partner anyway when you are comparing him/her now with somebody else? Relationships get complicated because everyone likes to have better partner than the others. These days, it looks like, relationships are just for boasting.
