What I want to be

@dorannmwin (36665)
United States
March 7, 2013 10:55pm CST
I realize that I am a woman that is approaching middle age, but I've not reached all of the goals that I have in my life. I think that now is the time for me to start to take action as I've seen other mylotters and friends of mine that have gone back to school and I think that my time is coming. I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about what I want to do when I go back to school. I want to have a career that is not a thankless career, but I do want a career and not a job. I'm thinking that I'm either going to go to The University of Kentucky to become a physician's assistant (I'd be following in my late father's footsteps) and I've always loved medicine. I even wanted to be a pediatrician when I was a child. The other thing that I'm thinking about doing is getting my degree in teaching with a specialty in science (my favorite subject) and becoming a science teacher. How about you all, do you have goals that you want to reach in your life? Do you all think that a woman that is approaching her mid-thirties all too soon is too old to go back to college?
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@katsmeow1213 (28926)
• United States
8 Mar 13
My husband is nearing 40 and in his 2nd semester of college.
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• United States
8 Mar 13
I'm glad to hear that your husband is in college. And can be a hard thing to make that type of decision when we have so many things going on in our life with all the responsibilities. But it will be well worth it in the end.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I do have to say that it is people like your husband that are serving as an inspiration to me. If someone else is able to do it, there is no reason at all that I won't be able to do it myself.
• United States
9 Mar 13
I just graduated myself a few months ago.. though I'm not doing anything with my degree now, at least I have it. I inspired him to go back to school.. and he's trying to do that while work 50 hours. I hope he can succeed.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
8 Mar 13
You're never too old to go back to school. I was in my early 40's when I went back. And, I will tell you, the prefessors appreciate us 'nontraditional' students because we are there to learn and are serious about our studies. I acutally had a professor thank me for being in her class. I graduated in 3 1/2 years with highest honors, and if I can do it, so can you. Good luck.
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• United States
8 Mar 13
Congratulations! That is what I'm also learning now that I'm planning on going back. Older individuals are more focused and for the most part know what they want. They aren't partying or skipping classes. We take our education seriously and really work to accomplish our goals and not waste our time.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
That is really neat that you had a professor that thanked you for being in her class. Your sharing that you were able to graduate with highest honors really is something that is an inspiration to me.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
9 Mar 13
You should do well, but realize that you will need hours and hours of study time, and support from your family. Luckily, you can choose class hours that work best for you. For example, since I commuted, I never took early morning classes...they were all after 10 am. I also took very few evening classes, because I had an hour and a half drive home. Some semisters, I only had classes three or four days a week. There are a lot of variables. And, I spent an enormous amount of time in the library doing research. Of course, I didn't have a computer then. It would be easier to do research at home now.
@blackrusty (3526)
• Mexico
8 Mar 13
Well it is good that your thinking about what you want to be when you grow up, and no matter what you choose I am sure that you will do well. I wish you well and I hope that you a great my lot day.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
You know what's really funny, I almost titled this discussion "What I want to be when I grow up," but I thought sure that there would be people that would tell me that I was already grown up.
• Mexico
8 Mar 13
we grow up our whole life so no matter what your age you still have to grow up and fill the shoes that you wear
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
9 Mar 13
You and I both realize that, but there are so many other people that don't.
@Mavic123456 (19364)
• Thailand
8 Mar 13
no as long as you have the drive to finish it. studying interests never expires. What do you intend to do after the college? will you teach? Do you have age limit in a teaching profession there?
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
It will really depend on what major that I do decide on. If I go with the PA field, I hope to be able to get a job in a pediatrician's office. However, if I go the other route, I will go into teaching at the public schools here in town. There is no limit on age for teaching here.
@Mavic123456 (19364)
• Thailand
9 Mar 13
so why not.. when you can have job after college go and get study.. it is fun and you will find yourself more responsible in studying
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
9 Mar 13
That is exactly why this is what I'm going to be doing. It will make a better life for both my family and for myself.
@pavani27 (28)
8 Mar 13
Happy for u and that's really great to go back to school..that too at this age..simply awesome and hats-off for your boldness. having a thought to attend school without minding what others would comment... that's really appreciable..Coming to my case...I still 10years younger to you...just finished off my school..looking for a job right now!!All the best..wish you all happiness and lots of satisfaction.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I did go to college when I was a traditional age, but I wasn't able to finish at that time because of financial issues and I also had my daughter when I was 22-years-old so I decided at that time I would wait to finish my education until my own children were in school. This year is the first year that they are both in school and now it is time for me to start thinking about myself.
9 Mar 13
oh..sorry for you weren't able to finish at that time but..whatever happens is for our well-being only. see, now you became an inspiration to many.
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
9 Mar 13
I was so upset at first that I wasn't able to finish at that time. However, I wouldn't trade what I have in my life now for all of the education in the world.
@maximax8 (29130)
• United Kingdom
8 Mar 13
I went to university in my mid twenties and the more mature students did really well. Some of the mature students were in their thirties to fifties. It seems happily that it is never too late for learning. My degree was in English Literature and Education. I am a qualified primary school teacher. My goals were buy a home, learn to drive, get a car, have children and travel around the world. I bought my cottage when I was 19 years old and sold it when I was 33 years old. Then at that age I bought a modern house. I sold it when I was 38 years old and bought my bungalow. That is where I live now. I had a challenging time learning how to drive. I finally managed to pass my practical driving test in 2010. I traveled around the world when I was aged 20 to 21 years old. My children were born when I was aged 22, 34 and 36 years old. I am not sure which goals to go for now that I have achieved all my original goals. Good luck with going to university.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
For me, I have to admit that my goal of having an education and a career is the main goal that I've not yet been able to achieve in my life. I've gotten married and had children and we purchased our house five years ago. Now, I just want to be a woman with an admirable career.
@natliegleb (5182)
• India
8 Mar 13
It is a tough ask at this stage as we cant decipher our mood and thoughts and it is quite strange too and we always like to get the decision of our choice
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
On the one hand, I think that you are right. However, on the other hand I don't think that it is really that hard to decipher our own moods and thoughts.
@Manasha (2347)
• Pondicherry, India
8 Mar 13
Yes age factor is a detrimental factor for all people. Age teaches us everything in the life. You would be better or worse as age passes. Once we reach middle age the fear about life starts engulfing us a lot . I am also in the same state of fear and my fingers are crossed. I dont know what to do.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
The best thing that I can tell you about your fear in your life now is to reach out and embrace it. If you have dreams for your life, you need to chase those dreams.
@airasheila (5457)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
good day to you dorannmwin, same as you are, i am also in the midst of accomplishing things for myself. as my target is quite far from reality. so as the reason why i am working that much from almost 24/7.
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I do believe that there are times that we have to put all of our time and effort into the goals that we put forward for ourselves. Good luck to you in making your target a reality.
• Canada
8 Mar 13
Hi dorannmwin Congratulations on your return for education. You are never too old to learn in my eyes. It takes a lot of courage to make the decision you are making, I always wanted to be a kindergarden teacher but I became a Health Care Aide for 21 years and loved it. Best of luck to you.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I worked for a couple years as a CNA and I really did love the work. However, I ended up leaving the field because the demands on me didn't seem fair to the patients and I also didn't like the attitudes that most of my co-workers had.
• Indonesia
8 Mar 13
There is no too old for learning something good. Never too old to learn something. Absolutely not too late to learn something because we did not know when we'll be in the world. So learn it while you can. The result can be useful for your future. So I don't think thirty something is too old to go back to college.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I don't think that 30 something is too late to go back to college either. I just worry that I might face some difficulty when I am trying to get started with my career a few years down the line.
@KDevil (12)
• China
8 Mar 13
I dream of one day I can work in a bank(of cause not only a clerk).And I try to approach it every minutes.So go girl.Fight on. As the saying goes ‘a girl is always seveteen.’Don't mention the age.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I like that saying as well. I hope that you too will be able to one day meet your goal of getting a corporate position at a bank.
• United States
8 Mar 13
Well, either you do it now or you do it when you are... What? Late 30s? Late 40s? In your 50s? Your 60s? Or you can simply go through life without a higher education. If you want to do something with your life, do it now. You could still go to medical school as well if that's what you really want to do. As long as you have the academic ability, you could do it. That would mean that you would be in your 40s by the time that you were finished with the needed education, but that would still (likely) allow for a productive 20-30 years working as a doctor.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
The thing that holds me back from going to medical school now is that I don't want to ever have to relocate my family and there would be a good chance that we would have to relocate for my residency. To become a PA would not require that and it is basically being a doctor without some of the bells and whistles.
@Iriene88 (5347)
• Malaysia
8 Mar 13
Go and pursue your goal and reach for your dreams. I went to study my favorite investment course/diploma when I was pregnant. It looks like pursuing further education is a life long learning. I love learning and to me knowledge is power. Do accomplish your goal and destiny and without regret. All the best!
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
Learning is something that I love and I do believe that is one of the reasons that I want to go back to school. In addition to this, the two fields that I'm looking at are both fields where you have to continue to learn while you are working.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
8 Mar 13
It is never late if you are determined. Setting goals in life and reaching them is one of the many success that we enjoy in life. So, good luck in reaching yours. :] My current goal is to become a successful freelancer and i am having a hard time reaching there.
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I've been working toward freelancing for a while now. I'm not going to lie and say that I'm getting rich, but it is something that has been a huge help for my family during the difficult time that we've been facing in the last several years.
@Rick1950 (1587)
• Lima, Peru
8 Mar 13
Not at all, I think you are still young aged with your mid-thirties. And education is a very good goal in life. I think it is a great idea to come back to study at the university. Nowadays there is also the posibility to do courses online, so you can manage your time better. I expect that you'll choose the right program for you and go ahead for your goal.
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I do believe that there will be some courses that I will be able to do online and then there will be some courses and practicals that will be done at the school and in workplaces as well. However being that my children are both in school now, this will be something that I will be able to do.
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
It's not yet late for you to go back to school. If you are really eager to follow your late father's footsteps, then go. I guess you really love that profession. You'll become successful for sure. Goodluck.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I used to work as a nursing assistant when I was younger and my daughter was a baby and it was something that I loved. However, I wasn't working to my full potential and that is the reason that I want to continue my education and have a career instead of a job.
@mariaperalta (19089)
• Mexico
8 Mar 13
great plan there.. I wish you all the best. i know you can do it.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I not only know that I can do it. I also know that I will do it. That is just the kind of person that I am.
• Mexico
9 Mar 13
Good deal!! go and get the gold there. Wishing you the best..
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
9 Mar 13
Thank you so much, the support that I've gotten here is great.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
I am happy for you if you are going back to school again. I know we are of the same age group -- mid 30s. My focus now is attending to free seminars and trainings just to nourish my knowledge. My husband dont allow me to work because no one will attend to the needs of the kids. My eldest will be graduating from highschool this march and he will enter the university/college on june already. I still wish to work though for personal growth and satisfaction. Also, his income isn't really enough for us. I don't think there is enough age to go back to school. Do it if you can. Goodluck and am really happy for you. :)
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I'm really happy for myself because of the fact that this is something that I've wanted to do for a while. The reason that it has taken me several years to do it is because I did want to wait until both of my children were in school before I went back to school for myself.
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Keep us updated here. Goodluck on things that you are about to do. Am really happy for you friend.
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
9 Mar 13
I will definitely do that. Right now I am in the process of looking at the programs that are available locally as there is no way that I can relocate my family.
@much2say (35330)
• United States
8 Mar 13
You're a smart cookie, dorannmwin - I think you definitely can go back to college and achieve what you want to achieve! My cousin got married and had a child when she was 19 . . . she made a promise to herself that she would go to college after her child went to college!! Well, she did it - she started college, graduated, and is now working on her masters (she is close to age 50 now). I think she wanted to do something with speech therapy - and she is already working in the field. So its EVERY doable . . . go for it, girl!! Oh yes, I definitely have goals I still want to reach. I ended my career in my mid-thirties (that's when we started our family). When the little one goes to school full time in another year and a half, I don't think I'll go back to what I was doing, being a graphic designer out of a print shop. Instead, I aim to start my own business out of home - being more of an artist marketing my own stuff rather than doing business art for others. It won't be easy, but I believe I can take all that I learned in the field and make use of it on my own.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Mar 13
I have to say that I agree with you. It is sometimes that prior experiences that we've had in our lives that will give us the knowledge that we need to be able to work for ourselves. You will be able to start your own business and I believe that it is something that you will be highly successful with.
@much2say (35330)
• United States
14 Mar 13