Accidentally denied

@leateagee (3667)
China
March 9, 2013 3:46am CST
Just a few seconds ago I was approving the friend requests I have. You know I collect friends. When I was about to approve the last request I accidentally hit the "deny" button. I feel so bad. I have never denied a friend's request before. I cannot remember the username. What I can remember is that he avatar has some Disney character in it. I would like to apologize to this member. I didn't mean to. I feel so sorry and so bad. Wo ever you are please add me again. I will be careful next time. Anyways I'll be looking for you too. My friends, has this ever happened to you? Do you always approve all your friends request or you just ignore those you don't feel like ? Have a great day and happy mylotting!
10 responses
@drake26 (10)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Crap happens from time to time and maybe if the person tries to add you up again and ask why you denied him/her of the honor of being your friend then you can explain but nevertheless it already happened and we cant do anything bout it. i believe it also happened to me with my accounts on other sites lol anyways thanks for sharing and if you dont mind i would like to add you up as one of my friends in here im just new and still trying to learn lots of stuff in here too :) cheers and have a great day!
@leateagee (3667)
• China
9 Mar 13
I will surely explain. Cool, welcome to mylot. True, I cannot do anything about it. I approved your request even before I realized you joined the discussions of my post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Mar 13
I was extremely careful. My goodness, we are the opposite, I wanted to practice math but there isn't any social sites for practicing it.
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
thank you for the approval good thing this time you didnt accidentally denied my request ( just kidding) and pardon if my english is not that much , i am trying to use this site to somehow practice my english skills, dang! too bad math is my forte and written english is well just around the corner lol cheers!
@BarryVP (46)
9 Mar 13
This is terrible, I did the same thing on a few websites ages ago :( But it was not your fault, you did not mean to, it is sad you are not friends but you can try to find them again like you say. When you were on the page for accepting or denying his request, bearing in mind I am new and have never done this before so I do not know what the page setup/system is like, was the whole page dedicated to him? "acsofk wants to be friends accept or deny?" Because it might be worth navigating back on your browser to see if it reloads or even if the page was shared between other friend requests you had going on. The reason I saw this is because sometimes browsers are silly in a great way. If you hit deny the request will not appear back when you go backwards, unless it is a weird glitch, but it may load the page again which means you can grab their username. I have done countless exploits like this for good- the most common being typing a long message on facebook and hitting another button/link! And usually going back actually reloads the page with my text still in the status box meaning I can post or if there is some error just copy and paste and try again on another page or by refreshing. Otherwise, is there not a list that tells you denied or recent friend requests? I know it's a long shot but another idea in case Mylot did that foe some reason.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Mar 13
Wow! Quite an experience. I'm not sure but I think in myLot there isn't an alert that says ... your friend's request has been denied. thanks for sharing.
16 Mar 13
Uhuh! :D Aww yeah.. that's a shame :( It was just an idea to help, you are welcome! :)
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
10 Mar 13
Such accidental mistake is bound to happen. It is unfortunate for the person who requested as rejection is the last thing in their minds. It heappened to me once but luckily I remembered the username and managed to track him down and send my friend request instead. That person might be wondering why it turned out to be the reversed. He never come back to inquire so I assume he just let it pass.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Mar 13
Good thing you remembered. Actually I plan to tract him/her from the new discussions yesterday. I'm positive I'll find him/her. I'll let you know.
@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
10 Mar 13
I wonder what happened when we hit the 'deny' button on FR. Will the requester get notified of the denial? Or will he/she just have to figure it out when the request disappeared from pending yet the friend did not appear on friends list? I generally approve FRs, but at times I do not do it as soon as I receive them. There were at least a couple occasions when the requester was not patient enough to wait for my approval or denial and they decided to delete their request.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Mar 13
Impatient friend. hehehe Well, honestly I don't what happens. I just wish there isn't such alert that says FR DENIED!!!.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
10 Mar 13
most of us are visual and remember the avatar instead of the name. hopefully he/she hasn't changed it yet, since a lot of us like doing that, too. all you have to do the next time you see him is to send him a friend request. it works both ways, you know.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Mar 13
True. I agree, I see and attracted to teh avatra first before the username. Well, for sure I will send her/him a friend's request. And I hope he/she hasn't changed teh avatar. Wish me luck.
• Malaysia
9 Mar 13
i am sure they will accept your apologize, i am too do the same mistake but if accidentally is ok.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Mar 13
Thank you for your comforting words. Accidents are forgivable but some are intentional.
• Malaysia
16 Mar 13
just wonder so how to punish them if intentional? any idea?
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
it happens. accidentally, we can do things that will make us regret later on. i think it is ok to feel sad and sorry, but do not overstretch that feeling because there is nothing to be done now. at least you can start a discussion about it and earn from it. that's the positive view of the accident.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
9 Mar 13
I like that. So indeed everything happens for a reason. Because of this accident, I was able to start a discussion. You are right! I shouldn't be over reacting. Well, I apologize, this is the first time it happened. If ever it will happen again, it won't be an issue another but definitely I'll make another discussion "second time around" just a thought!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
I think I have done the same mistake , too. Sadly, could not remember the username and the avatar.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
9 Mar 13
. I feel so bad. If I will be denied I will feel bad. It's better you ignore me than deny me because I would be wondering so many whys.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
I add all people who request me to be their friends here in myLot. But I used to add people who are just active here then. Lately, I do receive friend request from newbies. I just hope they stay more here because I can see most newbies just vanished or isn't active anymore. I used to deny newbies but I think about the feeling of being rejected so I just accept all people.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Mar 13
Oh, I just accept all of them but you are right some newbies don't stay long. That's my same wish so we'll have more sharing of thoughts.
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Don't worry, that someone may have read this post already and is ready to add you again :) Sometimes this things really happen! Just today, a friend of mine was updating about a write up he made for another friend who will be doing a speech for a class of lawyers. Instead of sending him the word file of the article, he accidentally sent the excel file on his company's monthly financial report that he was working on! Good thing it was sent to a trusted friend...and not to just anyone that would take advantage of the report! But he is so embarrassed that he wanted to just face the wall! So, move on, friend. It was just an accident! :)
@leateagee (3667)
• China
10 Mar 13
wow! that was a blessing. I hope next time he'll be very careful. Maybe he was multitasking as I was doing too. Do things one at a time. Have a great day! Thanks!