Family can drive you nuts when they are older then you and think they known all.

By C
@ShyBear88 (59263)
Sterling, Virginia
March 10, 2013 10:36pm CST
My husbands father is driving us nuts. He thinks that my kids get sick to often which isn't true. They are very young still so them getting sick is very normal. I know where he is coming from because he thinks all you have to do is wash your hands that's all it takes to stay healthy. Okay one he was gone for seven years of my husband life and hasn't really been active since then in any babies life. Now if my sister in law son gets sick no big deal since she has one but I have two its a bigger deal. We moved from one state to another my kids immune system has to adjust and both are now around more people now since we moved so that means new germs. It's not so simple as wash hands and you want get a cold a lot of stuff is viruses that means very little will stop it a virus. It would be nice if he shuts his mouth and leaving the parenting and the sickness to me and my husband when it comes to our little ones. Such a control freak.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
11 Mar 13
Well, that's extended relatives for you. Sometimes they are more trouble than they are worth, and sometimes you wish you just haven't met them ever. Anyway, they have their good moments, but it sure all goes out of the window the moment they open their mouths. I understand their concern and all for their family, but I wish they would just say something when asked, and no more of those unsolicited advices and unnecessary side comments.
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@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 13
Lol I don't wish I didn't meet them. I know he means well but he can try to back off. Which he to well. Right, if I ask for help or thoughts I would but when my kids are sick my father in law would be the last person I go to for help. You summed it up well.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
15 Mar 13
Well, my FIL is the same way. He is always being mean and challenging everything with just my husband and I all the time, to where a lot of times I do not even want to be around him. He is always so judgemental and acting like he knows everything. The latest one is when it comes to me being Diabetic and always judging me. Asking what was your last A1c or sugar level when his normal is around 200 all the time, and thinking that is fine.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Mar 13
Yes, I do and it is not a Fun feeling. All we can do is hope one day they will wake up and see what they are doing as in making life miserable for us.
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
17 Mar 13
Yep. Right now I just nod my head like I agree when I don't. He does this bout everything in our life.
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Mar 13
So you know whatim feeling.
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• United States
11 Mar 13
What an A$$hole! I would just say , where were you when Hubby was a baby? How in the hell do you know anything? Just Shut it! Even I know that Sugar and JD are healthy happy babies. Why? Because if there were Any trouble , you would have told me. This guy should just shut it and wait to see if anything goes wrong!
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 13
He thinks because Maddy was sick for like a few hours last week that she was sick sick. She had a bit of a temp not even for a day it was something she ate and need to get out of her stomach. That to me isn't sick but just not feel good. Yeah a stomach bug is going around town and she does get sick more often which he should relaxes we just introduced our kids to new germs so they are going to get sick and JD is under a year so it's very normal for babies to get sick but they aren't sick that often where we are at the doctor all of the time. Kids get viruses there is nothing anyone can do about that not even washing germs live on clothes and stuff.
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• United States
14 Mar 13
Understood.
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 13
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
12 Mar 13
oooh, in-laws can be so annoying when they do that. i think he is just doing it to poke at you. do you and him get along?
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 13
We get alone its just that he knows I don't let my husband control me and he doesn't like women taking charge of things. My parents raised me to be I depended and I certainly don't need his advise my two kids and there help. I just ignore him he doesn't know much about me because he don't ask. He didn't even know for me to go back to school I have to have a test done to get my accommodations and I've said several time I have a learning disability my nephew is autistic get sick a lot because their immune systems are lower and he is in a special education class.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I really don't think that it is necessarily about his being a control freak. Instead, I just think that people that are older than we are tend to think that they know the best because they are older than we are. That said, what your father-in-law probably doesn't realize that not only are we more mobile than families were when we were younger, there are also more viruses and bacteria out there that can cause illness. My best piece of advice is to just not let him get to you.
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 13
Yeah.
@gkutti (111)
12 Mar 13
may be he is too over protective, do not be bothered. just let your kids wash their hands for his satisfaction and the discussion will end. people in that age group will not listen to us. so the best thing to do is be oblige them and let them be. peace at home is the first thing of our concern after all. try getting that back into the house.
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 13
No he's a control freak if he was over protective the he would have came to the hospital or offed to helped when ,y so was sick and in the hospital and ,y husband had the flu. He isn't the lease bit over protective at all just a control freaks and like things done his way and we don't do things his way. Well they are 2 years old and six months its near impossible to keep the that clean all of the time or to get them to wash there hands and not think its play time. Washing hands don't stop colds and stuff yes it lower the amount indeed and I don't do things for his like. I don't like with him and I'm not under 18. We don't live I the same home I would rather die then ever live with him and I'm a firm believe you have kids of your own you get your own place and not live with your parents because then they are always going to now your bussiness.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Hi there, I am so glad i still do not have in laws... that would have doubled the annoyance as my mother is already too much to take. she always talks and talks about what she "thinks" knows and its just annoying its always repeated. =( Just because she is older she thinks we all know less. she even has a habit of saying i know that, and i am better than you are.
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 13
Thankfully it's just my father in law I have to deal with about this stuff. My mother in law is an angel and doesn't try to tell us what to do or anything. Some times in laws are amazing other times they are horrible. My mom says things as it is but she knows up a good mom and has never told me what to do unless I ask.
• United States
11 Mar 13
I know what you mean, that happens ALL the time with my husband's side. My husband is the youngest child so it's common for them to give us advice on everything, especially kids, but they don't want to hear any advice from us. It's annoying also when we are all together and just talking about stuff our kids do or don't do, there's plenty of advice given to us, but they don't give it to each other.
@ShyBear88 (59263)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 13
Sounds like my father in law. My mother in law she doesn't say anything unless we ask or it comes up in conversation. Thank goodness they are divorced. I trust her advise then my father in laws advise. I just try to let it go in one ear and out the other. I don't think they get it kids get sick and it all depends on there immune systems. I get a sick a lot because of allergies but my kids they don't get sick that often ate all and when they are sick and we don't go over its because of my nephew and if they are sick we don't want to make him sick. I try to be respectfully. They are small and if he was around when my husband was little he would know little kids at this age get sick all of the time. There doctor isn't worried because they have only gone in a not even a handful time.