Why is it so difficult to forgive people who hurt you?

That is because we do not want to forgive them. We are angry and we want to take revenge. If we really wanted to forgive them, then we would not even think about it because if you say ‘I forgive’ then I means that you have not forgiven. You can say ‘I forgive’ only if you are angry. If you are not angry then you have no need to say that. True forgiveness is beyond words. When you really forgive, you do not say ‘I forgive’.

for me its difficult to forgive people who hurt me so bad because the pain and wound that made of that person is deep so the result for this is it hard to forgive that person,and the answer to forgive is to forget,so for me i will need to forget that person totally.

We can move on, after a while, but it is much harder to forget. Hurt leaves a scar that is as big a one as if it was one in the flesh. It will be there forever. Forgiveness means that you don`t look at it, but it is still there.

These are things that you could never forget. I think time is the best healer in a sense. But. As much as I understand his feelings, only stupid people try to solve their problems and have revenge by using violence. Don't tell him to forgive him, that would be fuel on the fire, just tell him to relax and that he shouldn't do something that he would regret later.

Forgiveness isn't going to come easy for people who are still hurt and angry. Give him time to calm down. Let him vent out his anger by ranting or kicking and punching pillows. Be there for him to listen to him vent or just to offer your support. Once he has calmed down and the worse of his temper is over, he will be able to talk the incident out with a straight mind. He will soon figure out if it is indeed his friend that must be blamed, or the girl, or himself.

You can say to him that living with storing anger will always carry the burden. Indeed, sometimes, we feel that there are people who have done wrong to us. Thus, hatred, revenge is always saved. But rest assured, it will damage our mental health. Therefore, familiarize yourself to forgive the mistakes of others so you do not dissolve into hatreds.

It's difficult to forgive people who hurt us. I guess we need time to move on. But do tell your friend that he should not be so aggressive. It won't give him any good. I guess he's already matured enough to know what's right and what's wrong. They should just talk and not fight physically.

Hi, You should convince your friend not to fight for such a stupid issue.They can solve it by discussions too.Because anger is not solution of any matter.But even it will worsen it.

You can either break your friend's neck first before he breaks the other guy's. Hahaha...just kidding. Let him vent his anger....talk to him when he cools down. Hopefully he is just making empty threats. You should know your friend better. Is he the kind who will break another guy's neck? If not, then he is just going through the process of loss. If he is those kind, you better distract him with other things...maybe introducing other girls (as casual friends) to him.

it is really awkward to forgive someone who hurt us because it is our natural way of responding to a situation that we really hurt about what our friend done to us.talk to your friend heart to heart and tell to her/him that you are angry.

Just tell him that they dont need to fight, that they dont need to hurt each other. Relax and take it easy.