Does Knowing Someone's Relationship-Status Make You More At-Ease with Them?
@mythociate (21437)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
March 11, 2013 7:49am CST
It does with me, particularly if they KNOW I know ... makes `em more like an attractive cousin of mine than like a lady I might start hitting-on (although ... well, this IS Oklahoma (start the banjo wedding-music 
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Don't you feel more-comfortable talking with someone who knows you know they know you know their involved-or-single? When you're sure 'what your intentions should be regarding them'---whether they 'out playing hide-&-seek with the rest of us singles' or they're 'in a more supervisory role---keeping an eye on the kids while they play hide-&-seek'?
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Don't you feel more-comfortable talking with someone who knows you know they know you know their involved-or-single? When you're sure 'what your intentions should be regarding them'---whether they 'out playing hide-&-seek with the rest of us singles' or they're 'in a more supervisory role---keeping an eye on the kids while they play hide-&-seek'?2 people like this
13 responses
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Mar 13
Not really, i just talk to people, but when theyre a guy and then i find out that they are in a relationship, i dont involve myself with them so much, I've gotten into so much squabbles about girlfriends making me the object of their jealousy just because I'm friends with their boyfriends, its troublesome so. If i know they are in a relationship, we dont become close friends unless of course we were already close friends before they got into a relationship.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 Apr 13
How would you feel if I were your husband talking with some cute girlie at the bar?
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
3 May 13
@mythociate no worries, ill go talk to the other hot girlies at the bar. .
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
11 Mar 13
I'm not looking to grab a guy and have my way with him so it doesn't matter if he is married , single, gay or straight. I'm just talking. most of the time it is about sports, a neutral subject.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Mar 13
I think Sarah is just like me, she doesn't really mind if the person she's talking to is in a relationship or not, she could talk to them about sports like she would do normally. Haha.
I cant do that though. I cannot talk about sports. I can fib about knowing stuff about sports but thats just that,
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Well, it does help me determine if someone is flirting with me or not because I'm really bad at telling whether the person is flirting or not. I can tell obvious flirting but there seems to be some type of it that's supposed to run under the radar.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
11 Mar 13
And then there are guys who really just want to be nice to you ... and a little extra hugging wouldn't hurt---not too much, anyway 
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Mar 13
Lol, thats okay, its not nice to assume anyway cause when you assume, you make an A$$-out-of-U-and-ME.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
well i can say that it is plenty of people who used to do like that in the philippines. and the reason is not simply flirting or whatsoever, just a bad image to entail for them. i will not just mention it because i want to keep it but i know you know what i know upon this matter, mayhaps. why myth, encountered one of them? really!
so be careful ehhe
@afiction (44)
• Changsha, China
12 Mar 13
okey,i agree with you,although i don`t know what you say.
be careful,lady,my friend.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
11 Mar 13
I do not believe that if a person is single or not has anything to do with it if you like the person there is no harm in talking to the person but if they are taken you should not be hitting on them I guess what you want is every one to go around with signs around the keck that say's single,gay,taken sorry I won't be doing that one lol have a great day
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
12 Mar 13
Thats right! There is nothing wrong in talking as long as you don't go over your boundaries and hit them up and do romantic couple things with them. Being friendly seems very different when one of the people involved is in a relationship.
@gkutti (111)
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12 Mar 13
it is anyway better when you know about someones relationship. it does make you feel a bit intimate with them. but i do not think it is mandatory to tell someone about a relation. if you think people are hitting upon you or trying to cross lines, then you need to tell them it is plain friendship and you have something else going on. what do you say?
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 Apr 13
Kinda gives you a clearer view of the road ahead (whether it's leading to her bedroom or her prison-cell 
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I think it makes me more at ease knowing that they're in a relationship with someone because for sure they're not going to find me attractive or suggest a fling. But still, nowadays, I no longer put myself in a position where I am uncomfortable.
But still there are times when guys don't really say they're in a relationship. That's they're tactic. But as I grow older, rare are these things to happen. hahaha..
Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 13
Well, I don't experience any difference of interaction. Whether or not the girls I interact with is single, in a relationship, engaged or married, the way I interact with them is quite the same. Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that I am not interested in hitting on any girls. So what I did was maintain this friendly and respectful manner of interaction and keep us both cool and perhaps become a friend. 
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
11 Mar 13
Not necessarily. I do think personal relationships should be private and intimate. Not shouted out on Facebook. Also, I'm a woman, I'm not going to write to any man to go out with me or ask them out, that is so not my style. I'm traditional one with dignity and who would like if guys took the initiation. If I don't know about their relationship, well, I could find out in other ways, too, also.
@bao10560 (21)
• China
12 Mar 13
I think that rely on your objective.If you just want to be a normal friend,then it's ok to make you at-ease with them.But your goal is to flirt with them,it's important you'd better knowing their relationship-status.Personally speaking,I could be ok with the relationship-status being overt.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Yes, knowing someone status make you feel at ease for then you will know who they are and how to treat them in the future. Without the knowledge of knowing will sometimes make awkward for us, afraid of hurting somebody's feeling.
@celleDJ406 (196)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
If it's a first acquaintance and we are like talking comfortably already, assuming with an opposite gender, I think it would be good to know so that you both know the limitations of the acquaintance/friendship.
@rocketking (189)
• Singapore
12 Mar 13
Yes, though even with such knowledge I'm still careful not to give any party who is attached the wrong ideas, for example no late-night chats regardless of whether they are attached.
