how faithful is your eyes, too?!
By missjahn
@missjahn (4572)
Philippines
March 11, 2013 9:57am CST
for sure we use our eyes mostly in seeing. and in seeing we can appreciate things or beings. but we know also that because of what we see or intend to see, we may commit a sin. like in a relationship, how faithful are we to our partner when we use our eyes to stare other people with desire or more than like that. like me, i do not like my boyfriend to do that nor other guys who used to do like that staring other girlfriends or boyfriends. i guess, i am really different when if it is only me who feel like it to a behavior like that. it is because for me, by doing that they are already cheating us or if not, isn't it a great insult for us if our companion is staring to another person intensely. for sure we can feel how a person stare with deep compassion or just with appreciation.
what do you think guys, am i absurd or i am not the only one who feels the same. please share your views of the matter like this.
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7 responses
@artemeis (4189)
• China
12 Mar 13
I agree with you that it is rude to stare and more inappropriate to stare at another woman when your boyfriend is with you. In some place and culture, staring can have serious consequences like getting into a big fight and some people getting killed.
For me, looking at a woman or girl is normal and acceptable even though I do not know what is on the mind. I do not want to waste my time trying to know either, whether he is true to me will be left to him where his behavior, manners, respect and honesty will have to be acceptable for me. If I am not convince or even comfortable with any of it, I would not hesitate to walk away. I just do not want or like to compromise because this is my bottom line.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
oh yes, you are right! oh yeah, we are there already that appreciating is not that bad but if been done all the time, what is the meaning of that, for sure you can ask that question. we want to be respected at least not showing us what do they wanted to do. that is an insulting deed done to you. cruelty as it may seems.
so thanks for sharing your thoughts with us :)
@roshigo58 (4856)
• Pune, India
12 Mar 13
Hi,
Eyes can see everything bad or good. You can see that your boyfriend is staring at other girls. You can tell him you don't like this. But by doing this his love for you can not be decreased. It is said that you should believe on your eyes instead of believing on your ears.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
yes, we need concrete evidence to believe a thing or such and not just we hear like those rumors out there from the mouth of a person to another person. or else, it may harmed us. yes of course, a stable relationship should not stop because of this kind of hindrance or shortcomings into our lives. if we value the relationship, we should take care of it. a sincere talk is needed to get this thing settled. and you will not drop your partner because of doing this fault. you must assist him till he gonna straightened his mistake.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I would not want to see my man to stare at other girls. While men could naturally admire pretty girls around. They should at least respect their gf or wive whichever is applicable. Why stare at someone else in the presence of your own girl. That is too disrespectful.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
i agree with you. at least now, i know that i am not alone with that kind of feeling. yes, i hate to be insulted that way. they must respect our presence and what we feel when they will do such act. that is painful huh, maybe they do not know. what about if we do the same. you know, i will really observe women having their bf besides them and used to stare at other woman. i can see their pale lips and awkward smile as if they were insulted. really, if someone would stare while at their bf or gf's side, i will really murmur and would say, that boy is with her gf and how come he would stare with other women. very insulting. i hope they can realize that before getting too late.
i want my man to be mine alone and i will do the same. but if not, better to stay alone than to live being jealous and in pain -- weehhh sorry for this ehehhe
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I do agree with you. And I use to knock my husband's head everytime I catch him staring at girls that I know are his type. I feel insulted every time. And he would make excuses as he just happen to see the girl and not really stare. But of course, we know so much better. I couldn't even do that in front of him!Even if I have seen the most gorgeous guy on earth! Well, at least not in front of him.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
haha! i love it you doing it with your husband as you caught him staring with another girl. hmpt! that is really insulting for me. i will really start a fight if i can caught my boyfriend sticking his eyes with someone else. you know what, he even reasoned out that - he stared because the face of that girl is familiar with him and that maybe he will be called snobbish if he will just ignore her - haha! what a damn excuse and reason. so i said, convince me more and much harder for me to believe him. for now, he did not do it most of the time. but who would believe that, at least if he does, not in my front or else, i will really scratch his face hahah!
uhmpt! staring lightly is not as bad as everyone think so in a while i do stare but not so, only to few seconds only haha - it is unfair but i want to get even hmpt! 
@Angelpink (4031)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Hi there ! Staring with desires and staring for appreciating beauty is two different things. You can tell if the eyes are desirous nor not. If you have seen a desirous eyes then that's a sign that one is not faithful and later on with your life , some betrayals have possibility. While if you can see those eyes that expresses appreciation of beauty ,then that showed the human side of your husband , be happy he is a human being , a real man. He appreciates what is beautiful in this life and that is normal and a positive thing . Those eyes may stare but big respect you can still observed.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
hi there :)
of course, i am more than relax but i do not like this kind of behavior. not only with my boyfriend but i am stating all genders: male or female. temptation started first with your eyes, i presume. but then, when you love your gf or bf, what is the use of staring another personality as if with total appreciation. appreciation is not bad, but if doing all the time, then i guess your partner has a problem already. well, for me-he has. because it just shows discontentment. thanks for sharing your views. and i must add, i am happy with my bf. i trained him not be like that if he loves me hahahah
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
11 Mar 13
I think that if my partner can apreciate another woman yet prefers me it is to my advantage. I don`t want to have to blind my partner so that he does not see. And I always told my hubby that I was not going blindfolded through life, yet I always thought that he was the best
