i choose now whom friend's request should i accept in fb

@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
March 11, 2013 7:25pm CST
fb is an international social site and that if mars do exist they will purchase a copy of this to socialize with their nation mates and because of its rampant users including me, many would ask you to be friend with them by sending friend's request. for now, i have lots of friend's request from alien people and with familiar friends or acquaintances. but for now, i choose whom to accept and whom not to for a reason that, some of those people may bother you (yes, they do) and sometimes may annoy you by sending you messages or even harass you by commenting out of the world comments on your posted pictures or statuses. i guess, i blocked but not more than five persons in my friend list. so for now, i am not accepting friend's request from someone i barely know. what about you, do you just accept friend's request or just leave it hanging there from strangers? share it here please. thanks :)
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@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I been doing this, since I started using facebook. I only accept friends I know and get to see him/her personally. You have to be extra careful this days where everything can be stolen or scams in the net is everywhere.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
really, there are times that i accepted some friend's request from someone i chatted with. yeah, i am the one who gave them my account. but as of now, that is a big no no already. they are just hassles for me. so i better be careful and hope the rest as well.. thanks for joining here :)
@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
That is great my friend, make sure you know him/her before accepting the request.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
oh yes my friend, i am certain of that. :) thanks
@jiiiiin (586)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I used to just add and add, accept and accept people that made a friend request to me because I think having many friends is great. but that was before I have deleted them now. I think more now of my privacy.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
before too, i used to add and add friends and accept and accept friends request because of the reason that i am playing a game and that they can help me send gifts i needed for my game like farmville or citiville. but then i stopped doing it because it has not use for not all of them give you what you needed hahah... so that is why i stopped adding and choose whom to add
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
12 Mar 13
I think it is good to accept the friendship after knowing the person.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
oh yes, you have a point there ajith. it is better to know the person first before accepting their friend request. but most of the time, it does not happened like that, for someone is requesting or sending you a friend request even you barely know him or her. for now, i do not like accepting friends whom i do not know much. so thanks ajith for joining here :)
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 13
Hi missjahn, I don't accept people whom I don't at all as friend. All of my fb friends are offline people I know well We always keep in touch chatting or posting there or via mail I ignore the requests from alien people. Doing so at least can avoid from harass as well as undesirable disturbs. Further more I don't have much time to spend there. Happy posting
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
hello lkboi whew! so much as you do not have time for going there, the opposite of me when you will ask me. i guess, my day would cry if i cannot log in there. i do not know why facebook became the center of all people in the whole world. i will get a little amaze how this people added someone like me whom they do not know as well. what do they after about it. its not the friendship totally but whatever are those reasons, we should be careful. thanks for joining :)
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
if you are the regular user, then would say; i get myself addicted to fb . i posts pictures as if fb is my album. that is why, i do not know how to get rid of that social site for the memories i had were stocked there. nah, if fb will stop working, i will really shout in dismay because of the pictures i uploaded in there oh yeah, malicious intentions could be prevented only if we know how to refuse to people whom we do not know or familiar with. we should be careful. thanks for joining here :O) once again:)
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
No, I don't accept friend requests from people I barely know or just met. I usually just add up those requests from schoolmates, college friends, and work buddies. I'm not really active in facebook, I just do it for fun and to keep in touch with friends. But rarely do I post anything there. I think it's always important to keep our identities safe, it's a social networking site, anyone could pretend to be your friend to just phis for information about you and the people you are friends with. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
you are right there. we do not know all the people in facebook site. so we must be responsible not to be annoyed, bullied or whatsoever in there. what makes me when i accept their request or what makes me when i ignore them? what makes it different? thanks for joining here and happy day to you as well. God bless!
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
12 Mar 13
you have to know the person before you can even think about accepting his friend request or vitally knowing him before or else it is great danger
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
you are right there. we need not to accept or add some person just to expand our friend's list. we must be careful of what might happen if we kept on continuing befriending strangers on facebook. one false move may lead down to great danger. so we must be careful. thanks for joining here :)
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
12 Mar 13
I choose also. In fact even my previous fellow workers I don't connect with them even if they friend's request.. am I bad. MY facebook are for friends not strangers
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
anyway, everyone is entitled with each own rights and decisions. if you do not want to add them, leave you be. it is your right and not theirs and they cannot do anything to change it. but on the other hand, facebook is a good site to communicate with someone we know and to know their whereabouts. so that is why, i guess, we need to select whom to accept and need not to ignore our friends maybe one day, we will need them or they need us. so thanks for joining here :)
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
12 Mar 13
that's true... I have my right not to accept people that I don't like to see me. FB is to update where I am and activities I have done. Those are not my "friends" those are my co workers. I don't owe anything to them and I don't confide my troubles with them. They will just see and talk about me, so why will I make them happy of getting information about me. LOL.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I always choose the friends I accept at FB. There are however some requests that come from acquaintances which are hard to deny because they might think I am too snobbish so I just accept. But I always observe who among my friends are worth being hidden. There are those who posts senseless status and worse there those who are egocentric posting things just about anything or photos about themselves every now and then and so to avoid getting annoyed with useless and senseless posts, I just 'hide all' from particular friends.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
there are posts from my friends that i do not like, so i hide it also. and i turned the notification off from a certain person depends on what kind of invitation he/she will notify or involve me. facebook has lots of features and you can set the settings based on your standard. so thanks for joining here ;O)
@Pegasus72 (1898)
10 Apr 13
I like to keep it to as many people as I really know as possible and I know a lot of people, but I do have friends from other social sites that I have met along the way as well as people I play games with, mainly Farmville.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
10 Apr 13
it loads pretty fast on mine, there are like 10 farms now.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
oh nice, but my computer is as slow as a turtle. this is disappointing and made me discourage to play the game. so instead of having a tantrum because of this problem, i better not to start doing it than to have it bad :)
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
whoa, are you an addict of this game farmville? and so i was before too. now, farmville application is to slow to load, it is discouraging that way. so that is why, i stopped playing that game.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 13
I have experienced when I accept all the friend request come to my facebook page. And you know what happen? I can not communicate with most of my new facebook friends because they only speak in their local language. I am expecting they will atleast communicate in english but they never. I unfriend many of them and decide to more slective in accepting friend request.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
yes, it is really happening. some of the people do not know at least can speak basic english since it is a universal language and used to communicate globally. so where is the communication ever happened there. better if we can see them in person or at least in cam and make sign language haha! that is why it is really necessary for us to select whom friend's request to be accepted for a reason that, your page is being personalized and that at least you may know whom you talking to :) thanks for joining here :O)
• Liechtenstein
12 Mar 13
I'm definitely not accepting strangers as a friend on FB. I mean you don't know their intentions. Sometimes you might even add a stalker on your friend list and they will probably harass you in some ways. But then again, I probably won't add a certain person to my friend list. I know her but I never met her in real life. Let's just say adding her would make the family situation a little complex.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
i hate that they will think that we are snobbish by this doing this way. i guess, it is one of the safety measures we tried to implement within ourselves because we cannot hold someone from doing a thing like harassing us (like what you said) or bothering us or even pester us. so let us be vigilant. thanks for joining here :)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
i also received lots of friend requests. i am flattered that they want to be friends with me even if its only on facebook. what i do is i accept their request but i put them in acquiantance level because i can set my account on who can see my photos and posts. i can set my privacy to friends except acquaintance. in that way, private photos and post and only be seen by selected people.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
it is alright if they can see my picture since they are my friend already that is why i trusted them. that is why, i need to choose whom to befriended with. yes, sharing would be nice that is why when i am posting albums or picture, it should be seen by them all to let them know my thoughts, activities and other schemes of my life. but then should be careful you, there are lots of craziness happen in multimedia recently all over the world. so the safeness of it all depends on you and being carefulness. thanks for joining here ;)
@AkamaruKei (5204)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 13
I just accept friend request even i dont know anything about them. I like to friend with a people around the world. Some of them nice and good, some of them rude and some of them sending message want me to like something. I think i have 3000 friend now.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
wow that is plenty. before, i just accepted them but now, i need to trim it down. i do not want to add some people whom i do not know. i just do not like hehe... for me what is the use of adding lots when you are not interacting with each one. i want to be exclusive only. and that one thing also, they may harm or being rude at you. so i learned my lesson a lot. thanks for sharing it here")
@gkutti (111)
12 Mar 13
well i have been adding people whose profile said they were from the same collage as me. later on i was shocked to find that most of it was just a fake. some people purpously do it to annoy you and pester you but to some people the number of friends in facebook is a matter of prestige and so keep sending requests to random people all around the world. but whatever it is, why take chances? join the club, i add people only when i know them. just like road safety rules we need to have a set of our own social networking rules.... :)
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
oh yeah, right at that. we must be careful whom to add. you know in this world, naturally everyone is diverse from the others. and we do not know what are the things inside their minds. they may harm you at the end. so let us be careful. i guess i have friends which i blocked but it does not raise to the number of five yet. thanks for joining here:)
• United States
12 Mar 13
I dont add people that I dont know. I dont even accept someones friend request even if we went to the same school ^_^
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
trisikad or tricycle - this is the trisikad or tricycle in the philippines. it is rampant in our place and this is the ride i used to rode during that time when i stumbled on the ground.
that is too choosy of you - hehe... well, for me, i added friends whom i like or even i get acquainted or someone i knew. they maybe are my friends in high school or my school mates or even friend's of my friend that i met. but to totally strangers, i do not accept them as of now. thanks for joining here :)
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Yup! I agree with you, friend. That you need to be choosy on whom you be friend on facebook. But in my case, I just need more friend and accept all people who request.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
whatever your purpose is why you accept and need people in facebook, let me just say that please be careful. thanks for joining :)
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
i agree - not people are bad. but how can we identify good from the bad. accepting friends that do not interact with you is just like putting a statue at the corner - ahehe...
• Changsha, China
12 Mar 13
i don't think all people who request are villains.i like more friends on facebook.Although he is a one who have bad purpose,i will accept him or her because of people on the internet just being a body who just could say some words.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Apr 13
For me, I try to keep most of my friends on facebook being those people that I do know in real life. However, I have started adding some people that I've met online from some of my different sites if I've been interacting with those people for a long time. When it comes to people that will make friend requests to me that are people that I have never heard of, I will deny the friend request because I don't know what those people want from me.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
oh yeah... i do not pay attention or just ignored friend's request from someone i barely know but i send request to people whom i met online - i do not know what is the different of it. ahw! thanks for joining here
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 Apr 13
I look at Facebook as more like 'Friends, Family & Fans"-book. Fans--to me, anyway--are people who want to know what you are doing (even-more than family might want to know). What 'friending' someone essentially does: it feeds your status-updates to their news-pages (and feeds theirs to yours, unless they're just 'following' you ... I don't know how that works---I think there's a separate button you can enable that lets people follow you without your approval). And of course, more fans = more potential discussion-visits/discussion-joiners!
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
oh yeah! you can customize whom would you like to see your status, pictures, posts etc. but i guess that is a plenty-of-works to do because you need to select and choose friends of yours in the list to do it. ah - i understand you because you have works online. you need followers to be your referral. and its alright, i know you can handle such situation :O)
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I used to accept anyone's friend request before and I don't care who they are. But, privacy has been so precious to me lately and I just realize how much risk I have put on accepting strangers' friend requests. I've deleted my old FB and just made another one then I just added people whom I personally know! :)
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Well, I have thought of my photos too. But, I downloaded them all back and just re-upload it. Too much work! LOL. Just for the sake of privacy! :D
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
haha.. too much work indeed but i guess it worth it all. haist - just next time around will be attentive and think a hundred times before doing the right thing to do. congrats to you that you do the task well. for me, i will think it first if i should make a new account or not. :) thanks
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
we have the same experience. but the thing is, my decisiveness to delete my account to make a new one to be exclusive will be stopped because i have lots of pictures in there. i do not know how to manage to transfer all of it in my new account. gee, that is a very hard thing to do and to decide it all. i hope i can find a way how to solve this little problem of mine. i guess, i need to think things twice or more to decide whether to delete and to make a new account or just leave it like this and just control whom to add or to accept. thanks for joining :)
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
12 Mar 13
I have also been receiving friend request from aliens on facebook as well. Some of these aliens does not even have a profile picture and thus they want to be your friend? Some people are full of silliness in their heads. Much more, I have got people that when you see them in town or any other places they pretend not to see you although they know you and then when you log on to facebook they have sent you a friend request. lol
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
oh yes! maybe they are too shy to approach you. but at least, even both of you do not talk with each other at least you already met and you have this idea who is this person. unlike if you really do not know the person and added you to become his friend. i learned from that and must take care next time thanks for joining here :)
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
13 Mar 13
Some of them are mean, I mean you do not have to chat to someone, just a quick Hi and nod would definitely do the trick. Have a nice day!
@patnopy (721)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
same as me i don't accept strangers at my FB unless they play the same games that i play in FB for gifting
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
oh yeah. all of the invited friends are not playing too, so what is the essence of adding them all. i can name or point some members who do. so now, i am not playing no more, so no more adding. it is hard to identify good persons in there because everyday many users signing in and for sure, they are all diverse in personalities. thanks once more, your avatar made me cry as well as i stare this smiley with tears in eyes. very big tears ahhahah
@patnopy (721)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
and that was my reason too to stop playing and FB so it is means that there are no reason for me to add some stranger on my fb account
@patnopy (721)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
same here and i want to remove thus unknown friends but i don't know who's good of them and i hate thus friends that keep inviting me on the game that they play