There's no next time..It's now or never.
By indiramarie
@indiramarie (61)
Bahrain
March 12, 2013 10:49am CST
hi there mylotters,
My friend is having a crush on her long time friend, since they were at grade school. The girl now is leaving and will migrate to Canada to start her Masters. I keep on pushing my friend to make a move, he keeps on telling me that "some other time bro", or next time because he's not yet ready and he's too much ashamed of her because he's still studying college and their age is not the same. When I told him about the news that she will migrate to Canada, he panicked, he keeps on thinking and telling me " what will i do bro?". So i told him to tell her about what he feels,it's now or never bro, at least you tell her about your feelings to her, whatever happens the girl will know about what you feel and it's on her if she felt the same way too. I think the girl also likes my friend. Until now my friend is still worried what he will do.
To all mylotters, please help my friend or any idea what to do because he really like this girl.
Good day.
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9 responses
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
If he likes the girl, he should have the courage to tell her. Why the long wait,the earlier the better so that he may know if the girl feels the same thing for him. Also, to lessen the burden of not disclosing his feelings for the girl for a very long time. Tell your friend you know it's not easy for him, but he must have the courage.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
Oh, so he did told her already. What is the girl's response, did he tell you. I just hope the girl cares for him too.
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
17 Mar 13
Thanks for the response stanley777.
Yes you're right, and he also did tell her about what he feels for her. =)
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 13
He really should the the girl about his feeling. To know if the girl accepting his feeling or not he have to confess it before the girl leave. If the girl have feeling for him may be they can have long distance relationship. It's better to confess to know the result than to keep the feeling and live in curiousity.
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
17 Mar 13
You're right, thanks. I don't know if they are in a relationship status now but the thing I knew for sure is they are communicating with each other.
Thank you mrswhitfield. Good day.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
I agree with your thoughts on this, its really now or never. Tell your friend that if he keeps on procrastinating telling her about his feelings, then it could just be too late for him a few days or weeks from now. We will never know that she will meet someone who is proud of his feelings for her. I think he is scared of being rejected, but at least he tried, otherwise he could have just kept this to himself and reject himself. so which one is better? trying and knowing or feeling like this and not knowing if she likes him too.
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
17 Mar 13
You're right, rejection is what on his mind that time. But he already did tell her about what he felt for her, they are communication with each now since the girl left to Canada. =)
Thanks for the response. Good day.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
12 Mar 13
he really likes the girl, but then you have to think about if they want to be together it will have to be via a long distance relationship. your friend should consider that as well. does he like the girl that much to be with her while she is in canada?
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
17 Mar 13
Yes, I consider that long distance relationship thing but it's not me who like the girl, I am considering the feelings of my friend so that he won't regret it if he didn't tell her. The girl is in Canada now, so far they are communicating with each other and hoping they will get through this.
athanks for the response. Good day. =)
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 13
YES ...go for it! It is now or never.
He got nothing to lose, the girl is leaving.
At least they know each other feelings and they
can work something up to bloom this relationship.
I remembered there is a boy in my school days who
likes me. He do not know how to tell his feeling.
We took the same bus home almost everyday . Since
the bus is always crowded, he only called my
name and wave at me when I step down from the
bus. For a year we have been classmate and only
on the last day during our field trip that he sang
a song dedicated to me pouring out his thoughts and
feeling towards me. I realised too late but I still
keep him in my memory. At least he let me know ...
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
17 Mar 13
Thanks for the response Iriene88.
That's a sweet memory of yours. =) They're both ok now, my friend did tell his feelings for her and the girl left to Canada, but the good thing is they are communicating with each other. =)
Good day.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
12 Mar 13
For me, you have given the best thing he can do given the circumstances. It is now all up to him to actually act on it. But you can only encourage him and give him ideas, the rest is up to him. Tell him whatever the girl says, at least he wouldn't have to go on the rest of his life thinking "what if"?
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
17 Mar 13
Thanks for the response raine83. He did it, they are now communicating with each other because the girl is in Canada now. =)
@intelinsideyou (664)
• India
12 Mar 13
I think your friend should talk to her and express his feelings towards her. Rightly said its now or never. He may or may not get another chance. That is why he should not miss this time otherwise he may regret it forever. Its another thing that girl accepts it or not but atleast he should say what he feels about her.
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
17 Mar 13
He already did express his feelings to the girl. The girl is in Canada now, I don't know what's in for them now, but they're communicating through video chat. =)
Thanks for the response. =) Good day.
@TLilly12 (1229)
• United States
12 Mar 13
Hi indiramarie Welcome to Mylot, I hope you will enjoy your stay here, with us and make lots of friend here, I think you said the right thing, when you said your friend needs to tell, this girl how he feels, he may never get another change, to do this once she leaves.
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
17 Mar 13
Yes, I am enjoyinh this. Thank you for the response. Have a nice day. =)
@borgieboy7 (72)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Well, maybe your thread mus be right for one thing - it's now or never! If your friend doesn't tell to your crush his true feeling, well, it's regret. I do believe that, if you were meant for each other, then you will be together at the end, if not, then you'll never be.
For me, at least for the very last time, your friend was able to tell his feeling towards his crush. He has a clear conscience and continue his feeling without any guilt of regrets.
